Taking ds19 with us. what to do?

[fam4jc]

Hi. Our ds19 will be coming with us on our Nov/Dec trip this time. He is a college student. I know he will be with us some of the time but want to be on his own some also (two dd's 6 & 8 won't like the same things he will). My question is should I give him cash daily for food, etc for him to roam free or should I just put a daily limit on his room charge privledges? I don't want him to feel like a third wheel. I want him to have a great time. When we go we gear things to the girls. Can someone help? It's been a rough year for him and he has earned some pixie dust.

 

[lovespoohbear]

about 10 years ago my family went to Disney and my older brother was 18 and a senior in high school and didn't want to go. as soon as we got to Disney he had a blast. Since i am the only girl my mom and i went one way and my brothers and my dad went another and did our own little thing. i think maybe let your son do somethings on his own but then do family stuff also. hey your in disney he won't care he will be having a blast even though he might think he won't.

 

[Forevryoung]

I think it comes down to how much do you trust him with and what would he prefer?

I like carrying a small amount of cash and knowing that i can charge things onto the room but then again I have had a credit card under my parents name since I was 15 (I left the country alone and my parents didnt want me without a credit card).

You might not feel comfortable giving him room charging privilages if you dont think he can restrain himself and stay within a reasonable budget.

Have a blast! I am going with nonfamily (who are like family) and us three kids are 20, 12 and 10 but I am definitely looking foward to it. Tell him your plans for the day, turn your cell phones on and see what happens. Cell phones are wonderful

 

[sleepyone]

I would give him his own cash. That way he can budget what he spends on food or souvenirs (and maybe keep some in his pocket for later ). If it's being charged to the room he may be more likely to spend more. Just my 2 cents.

 

[indigoxtreme]

We are going in Sept with me, my DH, my DS, my DMIL and my 4 yr old Granddaughter. My DD will the mama will not be able to go due to ne baby. However, my 21 yr old son has never even thought it would be a drag to be with his 4 yr old niece. We have always been a family that when we get to the parks if there is an activity that some one wants to do and some do not, then we find a store or something else to do while the others do the special thing. Or set up a time to meet somewhere else. Cell phones now. You might be surprised that he would like to be included in the family gatherings and not excluded to go by himself. Let him know that it is ok if he wants to go touring on his on a while, but you would like him to know that he is still part of the family and that the family would enjoy doing something he would like as well. He will be gone from home like my DD before you know it.

 

[moopdog]

Please don't flame me, I just want to seriously ask how come you're giving him $$ at all at his age. I knew LOTS of people do it by reading these boards... just curious why? I come from a strict... you're 18 - you pay your way through life now- family. I realize every family lives by different sets of rules, ways of life, etc. and we might even be in the minority, AND I can't honestly say that I won't pay the way for my kids at that age, because I don't know what I'll do until I get to that point in my life... but at this point, I don't "plan" on it. You mentioned he had a rough year, is that why or would you be paying his way anyway? Just sort of wondering....

Good luck with your decision and have a blast!!

 

[Mom to Jordan]

I think I would give him cash whenever he is going to be away from you all. I know he will want some time alone but I would also encourgae him to have most meals with your family. He might choose to sleep later than you all and then meet up with you for a while then do his own thing for a while and comeback together for dinner. Bet he will enjoy seeing his sisters have fun too. Any chance on bringing a friend for him??

Good luck and have a blast.