You're lucky in that despite her idiosyncrasies, she's essentially a nice person.
I've been called a b****. His siblings have been told I don't want him to spend time with them. She threw a bloody fit on our wedding day and made my reception over an hour late. I don't hold grudges against her, because I understand that she is a completely self-centered person.
But that doesn't mean that I have to keep degrading myself by allowing me, my husband, and my son to be treated like second class citizens.
You know what I mean?
so sorry to hear that hugs to you

I am lucky b/c the worst thing she on our wedding is buy a different dress then i was expecting (i picked them out for her and my mom) and it didn't match at all and she had to walk up the isle and light a candle so the was part of the wedding. but if that was all then i got off easy.
this is really the only issue we have with her. I just wish she could put on her girl panties as smileybug puts it and look at the bigger issue which is that it's not about her it's about the kids ya know?
however don't get me started on my mom poor dh all i gotta say.