Tacky or not?

[kpm76]

This would be my response:

"Thank you so much for the invitation. Unfortunately, I will be unable to attend as they don't make cocktail dresses for women who are 6 months pregnant, only tents. Wouldn't want to ruin the evening by being inappropriatly dressed. Have fun!"

 

[kaytieeldr]

Well, apparently while The Shower Diva says bachelorette gifts are optional, they do have some recommendations http://theshowerdiva.com/divaapproved/giftideas-bachelorette.html
Granted, some aren't on the 'approved' list - but we don't care I recommend the Happy Kit, the Scented Wipes (if appropriate, after you read the whole description), the lingerie bag (not lingerie!), or, on a more serious note - the personalize M&Ms. By the way, ignore anything to do with Bachelorette etiquette. These tacky people BETTER not be expecting you guests to be splitting the costs!

http://www.catalogs.com/info/weddings-invitations/bachelorette-party-gift-ideas.html Ignoring their (yawn) boring suggestion of sexy lingerie , this site also lists romantic cds, perfume/body lotion, candles, or gourmet chocolates.

This http://www.bachelorettepartygifts.com/bachelorette_party_gifts.html site has some interesting suggestions, too, including glow-in-the-dark bubble bath(!) or a "sexy devil" t-shirt; plenty more, too. In addition, especially if you can claim innocent naivety and, as I did at first, think that 'gifts' meant gifts for the guests - you could get a dozen or a couple of dozen bottles of bubbles! Make generic white labels "Bachelorette Party May 1, 2010" and hand them out as favors I'm a riot. I kill myself sometimes, I really do.

 

[jensen]

I wanted something more practical & I just couldn't bring myself to go buy anything on the side of raunchy -- I bought her a pregnancy test (I knew she wanted kids so it fit).

OMG! OP are you reading this one... you have got to do this!

 

[kaytieeldr]

This would be my response:

"Thank you so much for the invitation. Unfortunately, I will be unable to attend as they don't make cocktail dresses for women who are 6 months pregnant, only tents. Wouldn't want to ruin the evening by being inappropriatly dressed. Have fun!"

Great idea - but they do. Form-fitting ones, if you want, since over the last few years we've stopped trying to 'hide' pregnancy and instead made the expanding abdomen a fashion accessory

 

[Gigi22]

Your poor Mom! She must be as shocked as you are, and wondering what she has to look forward to in future from your SIL to be. Why don't you take your Mom out for a drink? Sounds like the two of you might need an escape from this wedding!

 

[AlleyKat]

Ladies and Gents this invite came from my future sister in law.

Have you given any thought to the outlandish extravaganzas you'll be invited to in the way of FSIL's baby showers and children's birthday parties?

Hang on tight, this ride is going to last for years!

 

[threecrazykids]

Have you given any thought to the outlandish extravaganzas you'll be invited to in the way of FSIL's baby showers and children's birthday parties?

Hang on tight, this ride is going to last for years!

Oh I know it's bound to be entertaining. I'm sure she'll give us all specific lists of EXACTLY what to get them for gifts. Maybe even add a note of "if you are unable to purchase the requested gift I suppose a gift card would be an adequate substitute". hee hee

 

[Mrs. Charming]

Oh I know it's bound to be entertaining. I'm sure she'll give us all specific lists of EXACTLY what to get them for gifts. Maybe even add a note of "if you are unable to purchase the requested gift I suppose a gift card would be an adequate substitute". hee hee

This woman amazes me!

 

[LuvOrlando]

If it were a close friend I'd tell her in a heartbeat I thought it was tacky, however this is my future sister in law. I am not exceptionally close to her and don't want to cause anymore drama.

I guess I should ask everyone the question. What SHOULD I get her for this party if I do attend? Sorry, but I'm not buying anything else off this gift registry, everything that is left is over $50. I also don't even think it's appropriate to bring what is really a shower/wedding gift to a bach. party. I don't feel a gift card is really in order either. So what IS appropriate considering the "stipulations" are nothing naughty and absolutely no lingerie. I was thinking about just foregoing the gift altogether. But if I do decide to get her something anyone have any ideas?

I was thinking maybe a cheap bottle of wine and a couple glasses. Tacky?

Would a "His" bottle of Excederine Migraine & ear plugs and a "Hers" bottle of Pamprin and Chamomile tea be inappropriate?

 

[Freyja]

Omg!!!

 

[Bren's Mom]

OP,

If you want to go (or feel as though that's the best option for family harmony reasons) then go.

I wouldn't bring anything, if anyone has the gall to point out that you didn't bring anything, look mortified and say 'OH! OMG! I brought a gift to each of the 72 showers, so I just thought...assumed...that the gift info was for those people who hadn't attended the showers...oh my...oh goodness...gee, so sorry I goofed!'.

 

[threecrazykids]

Would a "His" bottle of Excederine Migraine & ear plugs and a "Hers" bottle of Pamprin and Chamomile tea be inappropriate?

Another GREAT idea. Funny, yet practical. I mean come on, it's a bach party not a "serious" event in my books so nothing off her registry will be gifted from me.

 

[stashbin]

I lost IQ points after reading that invitation! Whoever sent that out is a real piece of work!

 

[DarthKTrava]

Ok, I am going to type out VERBATIM what was written on the Bachelorette invitation I received the other day. It is a combined bach. party for 2 girls. I am not going to put ANY of my opinions on what I think other than tell you 2 things just as a *note* which is this: There have been 5 wedding showers thrown for one bride and 4 showers for the other. We ALL live in the town that we are going out in.

Ok here we go:

All right ladies it's time to put on your cocktail dress and join us on Saturday May 1st for Katie and Carrie's (not real names) Bachelorette Party. The fun will begin at *insert restaurant name" for dinner, drinks, and OF COURSE GIFTS! We will then head out for a tour of the downtown bars. The night will then end at the *insert hotel name here*. Please plan on staying the night at the hotel to alleviate the cost of the rooms.

When buying gifts you are only required to buy for the person who's wedding you were invited to (Sorry if you were invited to both). They request nothing naughty and absolutely no lingerie.

And remember ladies, a cocktail dress is a MUST! Hope to see you there.

What do you think...any opinions?

My first thought was, is this a lesbian wedding? Until I read further.
Never heard of gifts at a bachelorette party; granted the only one I went to, we went to a concert and tried to get the Bride To Be drunk....
What kind of "bars" are they planning on hitting that one needs a "cocktail dress"?

TACKY

 

[DarthKTrava]

How about a three pack of nylon granny panties?

Fixed it for ya.

 

[CharityLynn]

Would a "His" bottle of Excederine Migraine & ear plugs and a "Hers" bottle of Pamprin and Chamomile tea be inappropriate?

Hilarious!

I'd maybe go with a picture frame either wedding related or "friends" related. Or a photo book like others have mentioned. But then I love pictures and am sentimental. Which does not sound like this person...