Tacky or Ingenoius???

[jwsqrdplus2]

I cannot decide if this is tacky or ingenious. DD1 just got an invitation to a birthday party. First off, the mom totally misspelled DD's name, but I can attribute that to trying to figure out my DD's name from her DD; my DD has a somewhat unusual name. The thing that blows me away is that the invitation included the birthday girl's "Wish List." And none of it is inexpensive (brand name stuff like Bratz and Disney Princess).

I understand it is common practice to register for a wedding or baby shower, but to include a wish list in a 6yo's b-day invitation?!?! Is that really smart or tacky? Thoughts??

 

[Cantw8]

Actually, if the stuff on the list is reasonably priced, I wouldn't mind. Generally, when I call to RSVP, I always ask what would he/she like. This mother did the work for you JMHO

 

[Laurajean1014]

Even Wish Lists can get you double gifts. When I respond to an invitation, I usually ask what can I get. If they don't know, I give a gift card.

 

[pixiemomma]

I think its a good idea. I've never done it but I would really apppreciate it if other parents did.

 

[babar]

Now here I thought everyone on this board would call it tacky!!

Now usually I'm the one saying tacky things aren't tacky, but I kind of find this tacky.

It's a childs birthday party....I don't know. It just seems weird.

(can I say the word tacky one more time? )

 

[N.Bailey]

I think it's tacky if they didn't include items in various price ranges. Actually, I think it's tacky anyway, but I won't go there.

My kids always knew what their friends wanted, so that was a non issue for us.

 

[DisneyMommyMichelle]

i have to say tacky, if you want to call and find out that's fine if you just want to get whatever that too should be fine.

 

[UrsulasMyHero]

I worked one Xmas at Toys R Us, and I was shocked to see the Birthday registry... apparently it's a trend.

 

[lewdyan1]

Tacky!!!

 

[Laugh O. Grams]

Ingenious!!

 

[oogieboogie]

I'm for the ingenious but tacky side here. When I RSVP a mom, I always ask what the child likes.

 

[ZachnElli]

I'm for the ingenious but tacky side here. When I RSVP a mom, I always ask what the child likes.

Ditto for me, word for word!

 

[paigevz]

What's wrong with it is that they are telling you to bring a gift. When you are invited anywhere, you should be made to feel as if they want your company only........not a gift. That's basic good manners. Then when you do bring a gift, it should be such a delightful surprise that they should be happy with whatever you got, just because you took the time and energy and thought to get them a gift. That's why including registry info. in invitations is wrong.

Word of mouth is how it should be done...........when you rsvp, ask what the child has/likes, and find out that way. Same for any shower/party.

Frankly, if I did that, my child wouldn't get many friends for his parties, as they couldn't afford/find the time to get anything so specific....................and he really does just want the kids there worse than any toy they may bring.

 

[CEDmom]

Tacky, I just had DD's 6th birthday party and I had a list of things she wanted in a wide price range for anyone that asked but I didn't include it in the invitation. Mostly it was the moms with boys that asked what she'd like. Most of her girl friends just picked out what they'd want which was perfect. To me it's about celebrating a special event not getting gifts.

 

[C.Ann]

Another tacky here..

And if my child didn't know the other child well enough to have an idea of the kinds of things she might like, why the invitation to begin with? (I'll give you a hint - it starts with "g")..

 

[angiedora]

What's wrong with it is that they are telling you to bring a gift. When you are invited anywhere, you should be made to feel as if they want your company only........not a gift. That's basic good manners. Then when you do bring a gift, it should be such a delightful surprise that they should be happy with whatever you got, just because you took the time and energy and thought to get them a gift. That's why including registry info. in invitations is wrong.

Beautifully articulated. I feel the need to share this with my DD9 and DS8.

 

[DisneyArk]

My son received an invitation like that when he was in kindergarten. I did not know the girl or her family and I thought it was a little tacky. I know she was trying to be helpful, but it came across as tacky.

 

[justhat]

I think it's a bit tacky, but I think it's a great idea too. It would make buying a gift so much easier. And even if the stuff is all expensive, at least you have an idea of what direction you should be looking in and go from there. I would never do it, but I do think it's helpful.

 

[leighe]

I think it's tacky. No one should ever ask for a gift in an invitation.

 

[paigevz]

Beautifully articulated. I feel the need to share this with my DD9 and DS8.

Why, thank you!