Switching to Intimate....have questions!

[marywdw]

Thanks to you all who posted support on my previous freak-out post! I hate to sound like a cry-baby about the whole thing, but hopefully that will be my first and last major breakdown!
Now that I'm no longer having a custom, I have a couple of questions regarding the intimate/escape wedding.....
This cake and champagne thing after the ceremony...where does that take place??? I'm not planning on having the ceremony at the WP....probably YC, BW, or Poly....where do they put you there? And how long does that last? Does the violinist stay for that?
Has anyone had/is having an intimate that did a cake tasting???
And finally (for now), if I have a 10 am ceremony on a Monday (which I might change to evening if a Friday is available), where should I go after? I kind of hate breakfast.....and I can't think of a "special" sort of place to take everyone after....some of my family might have to leave that evening, so I might not be able to stretch it out to dinner......any good lunch ideas???
Okay...one more Are you having a shower with your intimate??? I'm literally only going to have my parents, sisters, BIL, and nephews there.....I don't suppose anyone will be insulted they're left off the guest list....but can you still have a shower??? I am not planning an at home reception, b/c I live in South FL and everyone else is in NJ.......if I could afford a sizeable reception up there, I'd probably be able to do the custom down here!
Thanks for you patience!!!!

 

[disprincessatheart]

Most of your questions I can't help with, but I am only having 40 ppl at my wedding and I just had a large shower back home in NY (live in NC now) and no one seemed to mind that they aren't invited to the wedding.

 

[myprincessgirlisa]

I did the YCG and they had the cake table off to the side by the gazebo(but far enough to not be in the pictures)

The ceremony was not very long, but i think it depends on your officiant & vow request.

The violinist was there until we started walking around for pictures & she just dissappeared, but we did get a few pics of us dancing to her music in the grass

We did an early ceremony & we spent most of the day walking around the boardwalk & we also rented a boat & went around the lake & by the time we were done doing all that & taking pictures it was time for dinner, so thats something to consider...we werent staving cause we did have some cake & champagne & that held us over.

in terms of a shower....that is entirely up to you or anyone who wants to throw you one....theres nothing wrong with having a shower for a wedding that is an intimate destination wedding. Maybe they WANT to do this since they cant be there...you never know!!
You could always word the invites, "gifts not required" or something like that so people dont think your looking for gifts

Dont worry about coming to the boards with concerns or issues...Thats what were here for, we love to help....dont hesitiate & make sure you keep us posted

 

[JandJ]

Ours was WL but the cake cutting was inside the Lodge, so it was really away from the ceremony area on the Terrace, which I really liked. The ceremony was about 20 minutes and the cake cutting, gosh, I'm not sure? During it our Disney photographer took more pictures out on the Terrace and then told us to take our time, so we did. I know we were longer than the 2 hours they said.

My friends and family knew they weren't invited - we had only DH's parents, my father, my Godmother (only because my mom passed), my brother and sil, my sister, and my BFF who introduced me and DH (and I needed her there with my mother gone). My niece was our attendant. I didn't even include my sister's youngest kids. Still, I had a big shower with family and friends, then my former roommate threw me a bachelorette party, and then my co-workers threw me a surprise shower - and they all knew they weren't invited to the wedding. I think with the fact that there are a lot more destination weddings now-a-days people aren't so stuck on the etiquette of having to invite everyone to your wedding who is invited to your shower.

After the wedding we sent marriage announcements and were completely surprised that some people sent gifts! We thought that was so nice since we basically eloped.

What about a character meal? Your guests might enjoy that. You can wear your gown to a resort restaurant, not in the parks, so if you don't want to change that would be a good way to go.

 

[aprincess72]

I'm having an intimate with just 18 people and I have had two showers!
DF is from SC so his mom and her friends threw us a couples shower there. My mom and her friends are throwing me a shower this weekend here at home in FL. I'm truly happy we are doing the small wedding. It's also tons of fun to stretch it out having showers in 2 states and sharing such a fun time with everyone!
I really haven't had anyone upset that they weren't invited to the wedding. Destination weddings are so popular now that people understand.

 

[LIGrumpyGirl]

And finally (for now), if I have a 10 am ceremony on a Monday (which I might change to evening if a Friday is available), where should I go after? I kind of hate breakfast.....and I can't think of a "special" sort of place to take everyone after....some of my family might have to leave that evening, so I might not be able to stretch it out to dinner......any good lunch ideas???

What about Afternoon Tea at the GF? We did it after our intimate (it was only the two of us). It was very nice...I may have chosen different food but the room was beautiful and the service is fabulous!

 

[Tiggerific04]

I had the same question regarding a shower and posted a thread not too long ago about it. It's really up to you and how you feel people would react to it. I personally opted not to have one.

 

[purplegirl247]

I don't think intimates get to do a cake tasting. I think that's just a custom thing, because they get to have an in-person planning session with their coordinator. There's some pretty good reviews from people regarding their cake flavors on dis if you do a search though.

As far as what to do after the ceremony, there are several places that do lunch. Yes, it might be a teeny bit early, but after the ceremony, cake, toast, and pictures, it should be around 11, 11:30 anyway. We, for example, are getting married at YCG, the having the limo shlep us over to Portobello YC at DD. The food there is pretty good, and when we went this past Saturday, there was NO ONE there for lunch. We were literally the only ones. Which, bonus, means that we should have the restaurant pretty much to ourselves the day of our "reception."

Hope that helps!