Support for those "wishing to be" moms

[bsnyder]

What a nice thread for Mother's Day!

A big hug to all who are stuggling with infertility!

 

[minniecarousel]

I can only imagine how difficult a holiday like this must be. To our friends in this situation - hang in there!

 

[robinb]

Originally posted by dandave
My best to everyone trying!
I miscarried my first baby, and I remember how awful that following Mother's Day left me feeling.

Me too. Mother's Day was very hard than year. Luckily, I now have a wonderful 3 1/2 year old who bravely went to the Cubs game with me today .

{{hugs}} to all you parents-to-be. Your time will come and the waiting will make it even sweeter .

 

[hipporina]

What a great thread! It always seems as though no one notices the infertile on mother's or father's day. It can really be a very difficult day.

I'm happy to have celebrated my first mother's day! We have been trying to conceive for almost 3 yrs and still have never been pregnant. But we now have our 2 boys that we are fostering until we can adopt them (hopefully this summer) and I do consider myself their REAL mommy (and they feel the same way). We are considering pursuing futher fertility treatment now that it won't be as emotionally trying, because we would still like to have the pregnancy/childbirth/baby experience.

Just as a little encouragement for those out there still in the midst of the pain, our story doesn't end with a baby (yet) but it does end with a family. This past year has been the most difficult and the best. January of 02 we started our fertility testing and all. I had surgery for it in March and we had no money to continue with anything. In May I found out my older sister was pregnant and in June I found out my little sister was also pregnant. That was my worst nightmare because I am very close to both my sisters and just felt so left out and alone. By August, things were looking up. We started the process to become a fosteer/adoptive home. In November, our boys came for overnight visits over Thanksgiving. On Dec 6 they became part of our family. By the time my neice and nephew were born in Jan and Feb, I was able to love them without pain.

There is still part of me that wants a baby and we feel that our family is not yet complete. We always wanted 4 kids, so hopefully we will get there. For now, I'm enjoying my boys and have a blast playing with my sisters' babies. I never thought that I would be thankful that we are infertile, but I am! If we weren't, we would have never gotten our boys! God brought us one of our greatest blessings through our worst pain!

Happy Mother's Day to all of you who are mothers now or will be at some time in some way!

Kristy

 

[CourtasanSatine]

Good luck everyone trying to have little ones ((((hugs))))

 

[Denine]

I spent 8 very depressing Mother's days.
Yesterday, I got to celebrate my first one!

We tried to get pregnant for 4 years. I couldn't take the emotional roller coaster anymore. We started the adoption process. It took 4 years, but we brought our 1 month old daughter home at the end of october. She is now 7-1/2 months old and is absolutely perfect! She will become ours, legally, on Friday!

We just had to wait for the perfect baby!

I feel for all of you trying. Yesterday was still an emotional day for me, but a happy one.


Good luck!

 

[suzannen]

What a lovely thought, CRS!

I also remember the sadness I felt every Mother's Day when I was struggling with infertility. Truly one of the hardest days of the years for me then. Now I have DD and I never take this day for granted.

So, for all of you who know this pain whether from infertility, miscarriage or adoption problems, you have my extra special hugs to you on this holiday.

 

[Annie&Hallie'sMom]

Thank you. It's hard seeing all these pregnancy threads some days. This one really brightened my day.

 

[FOJMO]

I, too, know the pain of Mother's Days that passed by without a little one. We adopted our DD (17) from Korea and I can't believe it's been 17 years already.

I can say now that if everyone was able to conceive, what would happen to all of those children who need a good Mom & Dad? We were chosen by God to take care of a little one who needed us and that has carried me beyond those infertile years to a place where I wouldn't have had it any other way!

Now, on Mother's Day, the only thing sad I feel, is when I think of the woman who gave birth to DD and gave her up for a better life. I pray for her often and hope she has lived a good life since then, somewhere in Korea.

 

[MaMudduck]

My love & prayers for all of those trying to have children. We tried for 9 yrs to have a child, the doctors gave us very little chance of that happening. We continued to trust God, and we finally had a child, which even the MD. said was a miracle. Don't ever stop having faith, that miracle of yours may be closer than you know.
My prayer for you on Mother's Day is that may God grant you the desires of you heart and also remove the pain of loss this day.
As someone else said " You're already the best Mother's because you're a mother in your heart"

Wendy

 

[jacksonsmom]

What a wonderful thread.

I struggled with infertility for 3 years before conceiving my son (with the help of fertility drugs)

Mother's Day was always so HARD! I longed for a child to love & it seemed like I would never receive one.

I did get pregnant once before my son (again help of fertility drugs) and miscarried that baby
It was a very heartbreaking time & I learned that unless people have gone through something like that, they really do not understand the saddness & grief.

My son will be 4 in August & I am starting to get that itch for another child but I am so scared going down that infertility testing & drug taking road again.

I pray for all couples going through infertility! It is such an unfair thing to go through

 

[Minnesota!]

Thank you so much. Yesterday was so hard. All I could think of were my 4 angels. I am waiting, still, to hear back from the Dr. on the results of my blood tests (8 in all). Then we decide what steps we want to take - keep temping and trying, or move onto IUI or drugs. Sigh - they never told me in high school it would be this hard.

(((hugs)))) to all others struggling.

 

[ahutton]

Our road to parenthood was not a smooth one, but we are blessed with 2 healthy DDs. I've always made a point to include my aunt, who was never able to have kids, as a special someone on Mother's Day as well as my other aunt, who is the Mom to my only cousin on that side of the family. He is more like my brother than cousin, how appropriate that I include his Mom as someone special to me too.