Summer Vacation and kids sleeping all day!

[raysnkaysmom]

Are your kids sleeping all day and staying up all night?
My DD13 is driving me insane with her sleep habits!! It takes me a couple days to get her on a half way normal routine (in bed by at least 1am), but then she goes to her dads and doesn't get to bed til about 7am.. wakes up 5 in the afternoon, then comes back to me...

I'm all about letting the kids have their free time in the summer, but I admit it grates my nerves when I leave for work and shes' going to bed, I put in a full day only to come home and find her still asleep!! I woke her up at 7pm TONIGHT, told her she's welcome to do what she likes tonight, but I am waking her up tomorrow morning about 10am and she's to be up ALL day!!

 

[ajk912]

That's a bit much.

I see nothing wrong with having to be up by 10am. I think that's an perfectly reasonable waking up time for ANYONE, really. Unless you work overnights, obviously.

 

[DisneyBlonde]

DS20 got up at 1 pm today. If my DH knew he'd have a fit. But DS has been working till after 10, so when he gets home that's his time to talk to his GF and surf the net, etc.

On a typical day he'd sleep till 11 if I didn't start nagging around 9. I have to say though, he gets up to go to class and to work without interference from Dh or I. So I can't complain too much.

 

[Ohiodislover]

I don't really push it w/ mine. If something is coming up, I make them get ready by going to bed earlier for a night or two.

But there will be 4-5 weeks in the middle of summer break that not much is going on. No doubt they will sleep till noon or so. Usually in bed around 2-3.

 

[powellrj]

My DS has the perfect job this summer. He doesn't go to work until noon everyday and gets off at 6 so he be with his friends all evening and then sleep until 11. DD also sleeps late which really works well for me because I get up early and can be at work early so I can be home early.

 

[penguin087]

I kinda like it. I'm at work all day so if DS15 sleeps till noon its less time for him to get into trouble. Not that I think he would but you never know. He polices himself really well the whole school year so I let him sleep in the summer. He is usually up by noon though. That going to bed at 7 AM thing that OPs daughter is doing would get under my skin.

 

[FLAngie]

Send your DD over to my house and we will get her straightened out! I was hoping that my DD's would start sleeping in when school let out, but nope, they are still up at 6:45 am EVERY morning. Even when I let them stay up late! Sheesh, is it too much to ask for 8 am to let me sleep in for once

 

[mommasita]

IMHO 7am is ridiculously too late, or too early
But, I have no rules in the summertime about bed time and such. We follow the clock ten months of the year, so this is relaxation time for my kids, and me

My son is 13, goes to bed around 2 or 3 am, gets up around 1pm. He does play football 3x a week, and basketball 2x, and swims here in the yard A LOT, so he gets his exercise in. I want him to be active, not just sleep and play PS3, and he loves the sports.

My daughter is 10, and she goes to bed around 11 or midnight, and is up at 9 or 10am. All in all I LOVE IT!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[minkydog]

I know how aggravating it is, but truly this is a phase that a lot of teens go through. I don't have a problem with my teens sleeping in until 11-12--didn't you like to do that sometimes? Summer is just the time for staying up late and sleeping. in.

However, sleeping until 7pm is just excessive. Here's how I deal with it: loud appliances.

Open the offenders door. Start the vacuuming. Then, country music. Then get out the leaf blower. Have a talk with your teen when they are awake and let them know what the consequences are for sleeping past ____(you fill in the blank--and don't make it 8:30) PUt the list of consequences on the fridge or wherever you put important things you need to remember. Do not have this conversation while they are in the bed with one eye open--it will be fruitless for you and will just annoy the teen.

For my kids, consequences meant no friends, no computer and no cell phone for teh whole day. Once they turn 18 I'm hands-off. If they get up late for work or school, not my problem. But at 13 I have no problem with enforcing a few considerate rules. I do not alter my own plans when they don't get up. At 13 I think kids can fend for themselves for an hour or two. Leave them a note so they'll know where you are. You can even tape a note to the bathroom mirror with their short list of chores that need to be done before you get home. Chores not done? See "consequences."

 

[aprilgail2]

I remember being a teen and sleeping until 1 or 2pm---its summer so who really cares. I have no problem with my 9 year old daughter staying up late and sleeping late the weeks she doesn't have summer camp...its the summer, time to kick back and take it as it comes.

 

[saratogadreamin09]

Im 14 and Ive had terrible sleeping habits for the 5 days Ive been off so far.


Ive been going to bed at like 2am and waking up at 9am because I have to go to work. So all day Im tired and I swear that Im going to go to bed earlier but then I get home and have things to do and end up staying up late again.

Sleeping is something summer's about. I have to wake up at 6 am during the school year so even being able to sleep to 9 is a treat for me. But maybe sleeping all afternoon is a bit extreme

 

[vanillamickey]

I don't do that- But it's summer, and as long as they don't have something important to go to (camp, a birthday party, etc.) I don't see a problem with it.

 

[Daydreamer64]

"My oldest boys are 15 and 13- I am a sahm so I have no need to control their sleeping habits at this time.

They are straight "A" kids in all gifted classes and both took college courses at the local University during the school year and still maintained their "A's".

The school year is very stressful for them as in addition to their advanced classes, they are both contracted to play for the county youth Orchestra and have other club activities during the year to contend with.

So for us, until they start to work, summer is for letting go and following their natural sleep habits.

I used to sleep all day and play all night when I was a young teen.

The way I see it they will have to join the "work every day as an adult" group soon enough and I don't have any issues with them staying up to the early morning hours as long as they get their chores done daily.

They are having a ball playing Wii with their other friends who have the same freedom!

They have to stay indoors and must not make alot of noise, other then that- I let them have the freedom of no schedule.

 

[CathrynRose]

I have an 18 and 14 year old - both boys- both with XBOX's theyre up all night on. How do you think I voted?

Just this week my oldest came staggering up from the basement at 4 in the afternoon, looking all disheveled. . "I thought you were gone!! Did you *just* wake up???" I asked.

Yeah - he answered.

 

[C.Ann]

DGD will be 11 in the fall and I'll bet (well - I know) there are days that her mom "wishes" she would sleep a little later.. LOL..

She's one of those kids where no matter what time she goes to bed the night before, in the morning she comes bouncing out of her bedroom around 7 a.m. - all cheerful and ready to start her day.. All I can say is that I wish I had half of her energy..

I don't think expecting your DD to be up before noon is unreasonable.. But then again, I don't know the particulars of your household - whether she has chores she's expected to do; if there are activities you want her involved in; etc..

 

[Bella the Ball 360]

It is a phase and all my son as well as all my friends kids do the same thing. It is really annoying but when I think back I did the same thing I was up reading all night and then slept till 3. It passes....trust me I do not even know what 9 pm looks like on most nights during school but in the summer I am up till 1.

 

[SaraJayne]

Nope, my kids don't sleep all day. I don't allow them to. Up by 10am, no questions.

They also have to go to bed by a reasonable time (11pm at the very latest). Since their normal bedtime is 8:30 during the school year, that's pretty generous.

Just because it's summer doesn't mean the rules fly out the window.

 

[Judy from Boise]

we have an up by 1200 rule, but stay up as late as you want...as long as you're up by 1200

 

[englishteacha]

I don't have a teen, but I have a husband who chooses to work all night till 3 or 4, and sleeps pretty late in the day. It sometimes is a nuisance when I have stuff to do like cleaning, laundry, etc., or want to listen to an audiobook while I putter around.

It bothers me when teens sleep all day and it interferes with everyone's schedule. We went on a trip with friends who have a teen. We were leaving at 10 AM. The teen stayed up all night, slept in the car the whole way, and as soon as we reached our destination, climbed in bed. How frustrating! I was not polite about it. I was loud, made unnecessary trips into the room, etc. The rest of us wanted to do stuff but the parents were not comfortable leaving the teen alone in a strange place.

 

[dismom2]

My kids don't sleep all day. I think the only time they might do that is if they are sick. I do let them stay up later in the summer, but I like some quiet time late at night so they do have to go to bed before me. I don't think they are even capable of sleeping past 10am. They sleep in a bit, but they just get up on their own fairly early, no matter what time they go to bed, it seems. I probably wouldn't let them sleep all day...I'm a 'mean' mom. If they go to sleepover and stay up all night at someone else's house, I let them come home and sleep. If I didn't, they would be really grumpy and I don't want that.