Summer Vacation and kids sleeping all day!

[MamaLema]

I am not ok with my teens sleeping all day. The max they sleep is around 10:30

 

[scoutie]

My 13 year old slept til noon yesterday. I figured he needed the sleep. I do enforce a bedtime but as long as he’s getting outdoor time, reading time and friend time, I’m not too worried about sleeping in. During the school year, he’s in a sport and has a full load of honors classes all year, so I’m ok with him relaxing in the summer. I wouldn’t let him stay up til 7 am though. In two weeks, school starts and that’s when he needs to be out the door.

 

[TiggerTrigger]

Mine are getting there. They're averaging 11am wake up right now, but we've had a few days when the older one (almost 12) has slept past 12:30. I guess I'd be more bothered if I wasn't like this at their ages...and through college...and much of my 20s...and really until I was expecting the older one and started to get to that pregnant uncomfortable state. Really, until kids, unless it was a work day...I could sleep and sleep and sleep. So, I guess they come by it naturally. Of course, now I'm lucky if my body will let me sleep past 9am on a non-work day.

 

[penn19]

I read this thread and i think “I really miss Minky Dog around here”

 

[Kitty 34]

When this thread was first started yes my boys slept a lot of the day but two of my sons now are up a lot earlier because of kids and their work schedules so maybe "back then" they were just storing up the needed energy!!

 

[Boardwalk Jedi]

My middle two teens work a few hours each morning at the local playground so are on that routine. Come the weekend they will likely get up late. They also take naps at random times of the day or just lay in bed reading or binge watching Netflix. Oldest kid is 20 and has different hours every day so he sleeps and gets up when he needs to. Youngest (13) sleeps late and goes to bed late. If we hear him still up past 10 or 11, we say something. His job is whatever hubby (teacher) has him helping out with around the house. While I try to at least know what they are up to, I'm not micromanaging. We've entered this new realm where summer weekend nights (and some week days too) are just hubby, DS 13 and me. Sometimes it feels like a bummer, but if the kids were constantly around that would probably be concerning. These last two nights, we somehow had all six of us at the dinner table (at the same time!). It didn't last long. Before we knew it, oldest two were off.

 

[wishesuponastar]

My daughters are growing up the same way my mom let me - staying up late in Summer and sleep in. They are good students.

About 2 weeks before school starts I start having them go to sleep earlier.

 

[Poohforyou]

My daughter is 18 and going into her 2nd year of college. Since she stopped going to camp, around age 11 or 12, I didn't battle her about her sleep/wake schedule with a few caveats. If she had to be somewhere in the morning she needed to get up and be there on time, she couldn't leave a mess in the kitchen after it was cleaned up, she couldn't use the stove or oven but could use the microwave, and most importantly she couldn't wake me up unless it was an emergency.

There are days she sleeps really late or stays up until the wee hours but she has an internship and a class this summer so those days aren't too frequent.

My daughter is a very respectable, kind and smart young adult. Somehow she got through school with an A average with a chaotic sleep schedule. It isn't my style but that's ok.

 

[quandrea]

I only have one teen—dd fourteen. She is up at seven, which is late for her. During the school year it’s 4:30 am for swimming. She is still taking herself to swimming three times a week and she has a job that she needs to be at for nine in the morning.

My younger kids are up no later than seven. We are all morning people.

I don’t know how I’d respond to my teen sleeping late. Even 10 am is too late for my liking. There are things to do, responsibilities to be met, even in summer. I don’t like the lay about feel sleeping late has. I’m in the minority here, though.

 

[sparkley]

During the summer my girls will stay up until about 11:00. My 14 year old will sleep until about 9:30 or 10:00. My 11 year old is always up by 7AM.

 

[aprilgail]

Yes- I am aware this is a zombie thread...….Never had a bedtime for my daughter in the summer, even when she was little. She would stay up late then have to get up early for camp and that lasted all of a day or two before she figured out she was tired and better go to sleep earlier. Once she was like 10 she would just stay up until she got tired and then sleep in the next day. As a teen she would get up around 1:00pm all summer long and weekends. Teens have different sleep cycles so we just went along with hers, no reason to not let her sleep in all summer if she had nothing going on in the morning. Even now she is in college and she makes her schedule so she has no classes starting before 11:00 so she can sleep in.

 

[sam_gordon]

Teens have different sleep cycles so we just went along with hers, no reason to not let her sleep in all summer if she had nothing going on in the morning.

This. My 12yo even stayed up all night (was still awake when DW got up for work) one night this summer just watching videos. When there's something happening the next morning, we'll set a bed time and about a week before school starts, we'll start weaning back to our "school" bed times.

This is a good time for them learn consequences of their actions... "hey, I stayed up until 2am and slept until 1p, but didn't get to meet/chat with my friends when they went to lunch".

Would I advocate sleeping in until 1p every day of summer break? No. But even 2-3 times a week isn't going to hurt them.

 

[StephMK]

D18 and S16 get up between 9-11. We have traveled quite a bit this summer and I don't mind the lazy days. They are actually better now that they are a little older. It was getting ridiculous a year or two ago but they are better about keeping reasonable hours now. Th er y maintain their grades and responsibilities so I don't worry too much about how they enjoy their down time. I tell them that their summers of relaxation are almost over.

 

[Southernmiss]

Our kids at home are 16, 19, 21. It's fine with me if they sleep late or all day during the summer! Youth goes by way too fast.

They have responsibilities during the school year that they are on top of. Our 16 and 21 year olds are night owls by nature anyway.

Our 21 year old starts an intense senior year of college this year followed by 3 more years of studies to earn his degree. His carefree days of life are quickly coming to an end. And his degree has opportunities to work overnight--so that might work to his advantage.

Our 19 year old is an early riser by nature. However, college is different in that he naps after classes, goes to work from 5 until 11 p.m. and then stays up late studying.

It has also surprised me the number of times the boys in college have said that an exam for a usual day time class began after 7 p.m. at night and for some tests they've been taking their test in the testing center until after midnight. College life is definitely different these days.

Our 16 year old will be a high school junior. Their junior year here is always the most stressful of high school years. She likes to sleep and sometimes girls just need more sleep than guys. So daytime sleep it is. This week she has soccer camp from 4p.m. until 9 p.m. with a heat index at that time still in the 90s-100s--so that wears her out, too.

I used to be one who loved my sleep. I had blood work that tested many of my nutrient levels in my body and started taking supplements that are perfect for me and have helped me sleep so much more soundly. I am now exhausted by 9:30 p.m. but up and ready to go by 6 a.m. even on weekends--and I was one who loved to sleep until after 8 or 9 a.m.