Suicide and carpet question

[DisneyBlonde]

I found this case after searching murder/suicide in flower mound, texas.
Not only does it give the address,name of subdivision it also shows a pic of the house. OP you need to be careful, you are putting way too much personal info out here for any one to find.
This is a horrible case of murder/suicide. It is rare for a wife to murder her kids and her husband. One article states police were called out a few months before the killings for a disturbance of some sort. I wonder if there was a lot of abuse going on and she felt helpless. She did not work and maybe if the husband was abusive, she felt he would abuse them - the kids- or maybe he was. Who knows what goes on behind closed doors. So sad all the way around.

The OP posed a question, she was not prying into her neighbor's business or saying/doing anything inappropriate to them...she asked a question. But this post, which announces to everyone that they can access detailed info about the incident, is ghoulish and unnecessary.

 

[3jsmommy]

Probably not. They just didn't speculate to you guys. I guarantee you, to each other, they were speculating.

I think everyone needs to understand that the OP didn't go over and ask the people what was going on. She's sitting in her house on the computer speculating.

DH's best friend's mother was killed into a car accident. Drove into a bus in early December on her way home from christmas shopping. Happily married for 50+ years, beautiful family, wonderful life, lovely woman. Not suicidal as far as we know. An older woman, so we're thinking something "medical" happened. Autopsy showed nothing. Did I say to our friend "Gee, I wonder what happened to your mother? Do you think she had a massive stroke or something?". No, I did not. Did I speculate about it to DH and he to me and both of us to our grouop of friends who were also friends with the family of the deceased? Of course we did.

Probably not what?
They were caring & supportive, and most people who were nosy or clueless didn't let me know about it. You think I am unaware of the fact that people looked at us differently?
Think I didn't notice the whole new identity I had around town? That I didn't feel the pain my brothers had to deal with when the had to go back to the high school? I'm not that naive.
I was trying to help the op see the other side of it. You can be empathetic & helpful or fearful & judgmental in a situation like that. I will always choose helpful, so will my brothers & the rest of my family. Empathy is a gift we were given out of this horror. I hope for some of the disers reading this thread who are grieving a family member & find this thread so difficult find some hope in that. They are better people for not judging, they have the ability to reach out. I don't care if I sound like I'm preaching, of course this thread hits home with me & just like the op has a right to post her curiosities I have a right to my opinion.
Sometimes I'm amazed at the dis, don't talk about politics, but telling everyone what town you live in & giving gory details about your neighbors tragedies is all good. Is it a contest around her to see who can be the least affected by anything humanly tragic. I don't get any of the poster who are annoyed that people opened this thread & commented that they thought it was in bad taste. We can all cry for days about random celebrities, but don't try to defend your average grieving family. So were allowed to post offensive & grotesque threads, as long as it doesn't hit home with the mods do I have that right Kathy?

 

[3jsmommy]

Disney-Kim, I just saw your post
I'm sorry I won't post again..I hope they let this thread go.

 

[Disney-Kim]

Ok, I don't want to be mean about this. Those of you who have read my posts before know that I am not the type of poster that spews hatred on here. But, I have to say this. For those of you so upset about this thread, just don't open it up (and make sure you unsubscribe as well).

There are threads that I may find hit close to home because of things that have happened in my life. If it is that upsetting, I don't read the thread.

I do feel compassion for those of you who feel upset about this thread because it has hit close to home. But this is a public forum and a mod has already said that it isn't breaking any rules.

I hope that those of you who have experienced suicide in your family do find peace. It must be horrible to go through such a thing. But I also feel that discussing the subject brings awareness to the subject. That can be a good thing.

Yes I am back and Yes I came back to see if this post was gone.
You are not discussing this subject constructively to help anyone or bring awareness to the subject...you are gossiping at the expense of another family's tragedy over the CARPET.

for those who say don't open it...well the title is a reminder enough.

I have never in 10 yrs on this board been so angry or suprised at people's coldness. I have read about controversy on the boards and never really got it....until now.
I don't want to get in trouble for anything...I am leaving quietly and will not open or even read this post again.
I thought by posting WHY this post is disturbing those on here would understand and have compassion....what I fool I am.
I get the overtone here....get over it.
sorry but I really had to post my personal offense and anger to this.

 

[bumcat]

The OP posed a question, she was not prying into her neighbor's business or saying/doing anything inappropriate to them...she asked a question. But this post, which announces to everyone that they can access detailed info about the incident, is ghoulish and unnecessary.

Ghoulish? Any person with half a brain can search the internet and find this case. It made the news here and as OP said it made national news.

I guess it's not okay for me to tell the OP to be careful.
I never accused her of prying or doing anything inappropriate.
I've had two suicides in my family, my mom and uncle. I am not offended by her question. She is a curious person, nothing wrong with that.

 

[DebIreland]

Perhaps those opening it, who have had personal experience and are hurt by the post, are originally opening it because think that they have something in the way of comfort to offer to the OP?

Exactly! People aren't psychic - they don't know what the thread is about. I thought it was an odd title, very odd, but I never ever thought it would be about how efficient a grief-stricken family are when it comes to flooring. I was quite shocked and horrified.

People are NOT offended that the topic of this thread is suicide. They're offended that it's about flooring - specifically the flooring habits of a family who've been through a horrific, tragic event.

 

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