Strongest evidence yet against spanking

[GRUMPY PIRATE]

I think your on to something. Somebody should investigate.

..and if you think about it...They do have that slap dance!

I saw Chevy Chase get in one in "European Vacation"

 

[Mouse House Mama]

Usually you have to pay extra for that!!!!

heheheheh

RUM?

I'd love a cup! You better not spill any or I will have to give you a smack.

 

[snarlingcoyote]

I'd love a cup! You better not spill any or I will have to give you a smack.

Yes, you must give him a good spanking and then. . .spank me!

 

[tinatark]

Next up from DIS mods - No politics, no religion, no SPANK talk!

 

[GRUMPY PIRATE]

Next up from DIS mods - No politics, no religion, no SPANK talk!

I thought spank talk was when the womenfolk talked 'bout the speshul unergarments that gave 'em a bit 'o bracein in thar superstructure!

hehehehehe

RUM?

 

[XTinabell]

changed my mind. I hate when I get sucked into these debate traps. Grr.

 

[Christine]

I did not read all of these replies, but did anyone consider that some children are just more compliant and thus wouldn't be spanked in the first place, vs. the children that were spanked may have just been more willful and less compliant and would have ended up the same whether they were spanked or not?

Yeah I think I sort of pointed that out a few pages back but you said it so much better.

Time outs work REALLY well on compliant children.

 

[Indiana Rose Lee]

lol, glad I gave a laugh. We are doing a military class right now, and I have too many fact jumbled in my brain.

As I said, kids are different, studies say what you like, and no one with an opinion is going to change it because of me, or anyone else on a msg. board. Take care!

 

[aprilgail2]

Don't believe in spanking, but do believe in discipline. I had a close friend where almost every time I went over her house you could hear the boys being disciplined and spanked in the back room with a belt. This was a well to do family. The one older boy ended up in all kinds of trouble as adult, jail time, etc. I have to mention also that my mother became a Born Again Christian when I was in junior high and it was then she started to spank my brother chasing us around with metal spoons, etc. To this day, I abhore spanking and it really was not helpful to me, it was really disturbing.

I am VERY anti-spanking....but when you hit someone with a belt that is not even spanking- that is beating and it is child abuse and CPS should be called.
All spanking teaches children is violence and that it is ok to hit and pick on others if they are smaller than you and defenseless. I can not think of one thing my godkids or my daughter has done to warrant hitting them! Just because you don't hit your children doesn't mean that they do not get disiplined- but some of us are able to do it without resorting to violence.

 

[luvsJack]

Since the Bible has been already been brought up, I wanted to point something out. "Spare the rod and spoil the child" does not mean spanking or hitting the child with the rod. Remember that Jesus is considered a shepherd of men. Shepherd carry a stick or "a rod" to guide the sheep. What that is telling you is that you must guide your children, you must discipline your children to teach them right from wrong and guide them to go the right way. If your method of discipline is to spank (but to do so lovingly not abusively), ok; and if not, ok: He just wants you to do something and not let your child run wild.

I believe in spanking but chasing your kid around with a rod, stick, or other object and saying you are doing it because the Bible tells you to would just be wrong.

 

[DaParkers]

I haven't done any formal research. I do know that less parents spank or discipline at all than when I was growing up. I also know that there are more foul mouthed, rude, kids who do not think they have to follow rules. There are more kids who for some reason think that the universe revolves around them and cannot handle the word no. I see more kids that are involved with drugs and drinking and many other things. I'm not saying it's because they're not spanked but I do know that there is a definate lack of discipline and an overabundance of children that do not respect authority or know how to behave. I hear from my friends that teach and I see it all the time.

 

[Indiana Rose Lee]

lj, really good point.

 

[OceanAnnie]

I haven't done any formal research. I do know that less parents spank or discipline at all than when I was growing up. I also know that there are more foul mouthed, rude, kids who do not think they have to follow rules. There are more kids who for some reason think that the universe revolves around them and cannot handle the word no. I see more kids that are involved with drugs and drinking and many other things. I'm not saying it's because they're not spanked but I do know that there is a definate lack of discipline and an overabundance of children that do not respect authority or know how to behave. I hear from my friends that teach and I see it all the time.

I've seen it too.

 

[Robinrs]

Great. This is now religious AND political. I may be wrong (and OP forgive me if I am) but I don't recall the OP being liberal from back when we were permitted to discuss politics. Plus, I know plenty of liberals who spank their kids.

This is HARDLY a liberal issue!! Sounds more stick up the behind family first hypocrisy than liberal to me.

 

[AustinTink]

I've always thought spanking is taking the easy way out. There are better ways to discipline/reward kids that take just a tiny bit more effort and are just as effective; if not more so.

I agree 100%.

 

[wvjules]

Promises, promises.

Is this what the PP meant about sexual problems later in life because of spanking?

 

[Darsa]

I've always thought spanking is taking the easy way out. There are better ways to discipline/reward kids that take just a tiny bit more effort and are just as effective; if not more so.

I tend to disagree with this, for myself anyway, considering that a spanking was the absolute last resort.

And I stick by my statement that spanking and hitting are two completely different things; one is discipline and the other is abuse. You're welcome to disagree, I promise you won't get a spanking from me just for disagreeing.

 

[FireDancer]

Is this what the PP meant about sexual problems later in life because of spanking?

What some see as a problem others see as an opportunity.

 

[mkel34]

And then there are the schools in the South where you actually still have to send a note to the Elementary School Principal that they can not spank your child!!

Another reason I need to move to the south.

 

[Anjelica]

Another reason I need to move to the south.

Carlos Mencia (for those that don't know he is a popular hispanic comedian) has one of the funniest bits on punishment in school. He talks about how the first day of school his mom would be charging to the office to sign the forms to allow them to spank him.

I can't find a clip of it but if you ever get a chance to watch/catch it, definetly do so.