String's Atkin's Journal (Please Comment)

[toystoryduo]

Good morning Beth!

How are you today? I hope you have a wonderful Sunday!

Take care,
Tracy

 

[Strings]

So much for not letting PG get to me. We had a visit yesterday, from the police. They received an unidentified caller that Katie is routinely left alone in the house. They came and talked to us, in the cruiser. They said that obviuosly it an mistake. We of course explained about PG. BUT they still need to file a report with CPS, and they will be contacting us this week. I wanted to kill her. Won went over there, but I don't know what was said because e won't tell me. I totally lost it once Katie was in bed. Won was at his parents house, I was alone, and a mess. I was bawling and I totally binged. I ate cookies and bread and every carb I could find.

Today, I am feeling slightly better, but I am still so angry. I really do want to hurt her. I need to clean the house, but first I am taking Katie to the park for a picnic. Won is going out tonight instead of last night. I WILL do the 3 mile WATP tonight, since I can't walk outside tonight. I need to burn off some of this anger. A punching bag would be better.

I hope everyone is doing well. I tried to hit journals, but I missed some. I'll try to hit those later.
Beth

 

[KLH 1973]

omg I am so sorry to hear about PG....isn't there something you can do legally to get her away from you guys? I have also had those days where carbs are so comforting but just try again. You have so much stress I have no clue how you do it. A kicking bag might work and draw a face for PG LOL. Well good luck I hope things turn around for you.

Kristin

 

[LAinSEA]

Beth:

I don't know how you keep your cool! (forget about the carbs and the cry is OK!) PG has really gone too far. I'm sure you've already contacted your attorney and documented everything. She should be arrested for filing a false report!

I hope you enjoyed your picnic. Trying to keep everything "normal" for Katie is really a challenge. Keep your chin up, I know you can do it.

-Laurie

 

[wilderness01]

Oh boy Beth I am sorry. Forget about the carbs and you have every right to cry. That woman will stop at nothing. She is a danger. I hope you called your attorney. This may sound drastic but have you considered moving away from the area and not telling where you moved? I know you said that you want to have Katie know her GF but perhaps he should also be removed from her life until he can get his wife in line. His denial is costing all of you. Enough is enough. That may sound mean but perhaps he needs to know that you and your husband are really serious. If your husband wants to continue to have dinner with his father once a week or every other week, just make it on a day that you don't work so you can have Katie with you. He has no incentive to really have his wife change. Maybe it sounds like I am saying to use your daughter as a pawn, I don't mean to. But your FIL needs some sense knocked into him. Maybe that will be it. Now he can't know her either. I know you should not give one person that much power in your life, but really unless PG dies she sounds like she will not give up. I am usually not a runner, but in this situation I might consider moving and not having a forwarding address. What a loose canon. Try to hang in there. You are doing a great job maintaining your composure. Maybe you can turn this into a positive result with CPS and ask what you can do to keep Katie protected from her grandmother. I would state everything you have done and ask for their input. It seems like she is stalking you. I would also go to a different healthclub. Not at the same times either. You don't want to create a pattern that she can follow. You need to stay far far away from that nutcase. Take care.

 

[Strings]

Well I got the phone call. CPS will make a stop tomorrow at 11:00. The woman said it was just a formality, and that the police made it pretty obvious that this was a false claim. It was nice of her to make an appointment. They usually just drop in. I'm still nervous though, especially because Katie is ill today. She has a cold. No big deal, but it would be nice for her to be happy and healthy for CPS.

Won told me what he said to his parents. After a long argument. His Mom apparently said there is no proof she made the call. He said that they were dead as far as he is concerned. He won't discuss anything further.

We won't be moving. We love our neighborhood and the school district is #2 in the state. We're staying. I kept Katie from camp today because she is sick. I won't change health clubs either. She has only this week in camp. When she goes to the child watch, the kids can only be picked up from the person wearing the matching wrist band, and the door is a buzzer control lock. Katie starts preschool in a couple of weeks, and she is safe there. I'll work out during preschool times and put her in child watch 2x week. Legally we have no proof that she made the call. There is nothing we can do, and we did talk to the lawyer.

I amazingly did stay OP yesterday, but I didn't do my walk. I had a migraine by the time I put Katie to bed. I took a hot shower and went to bed. I know it is stress related. My stomach is in knots. I told Won we are going out to eat bacause I don't want to mess up the kitchen. I just typed in Erin's journal that my plan is to have Won drop me at the Y, and I'll walk home. 9 miles. I'll report back if I survive. Meaning, can I actually walk 9 miles. The plan is for exhaustion, so I can sleep.

Have a good day. I am doing a cleaning frenzy today, so I am not sure how many journals I will hit. You are in my thoughts.


Beth

 

[KLH 1973]

sounds like you have all your bases covered with the crazy PG. I am just so sorry she is ruining the best part of your time with Katie. I will keep my fingers crossed you make it home in one piece from your walk and don't become a statistic. Try and relax the last thing you need now is an ulcer. Good luck today on your plan

Kristin

 

[toystoryduo]

Beth,
Oh my goodness! I can not believe PG! She really needs some help. I am so sorry that you have to go through this Beth. Prayers are on their way for your family.

Take good care of you today, okay?

Tracy

 

[Strings]

Ok,

The house is clean, or as clean as it ever is. I took Katie to the dr. office because she started complaining about ear pain. She just has a virus. Doc says since she has been sick for a few days, she can go to camp on Wed. Can't go tomorrow because of CPS.

I'm still OP, and drinking lots of water. We're meeting friends at 5 for dinner. I should be home from my walk between 8-9. Erin, the path that I am taking runs along a pretty major road, and is frequented by walkers and jogger, oh bikers too. I also will hav my cell with me. Thanks for your concern.
Beth

 

[DoeWDW]

Beth, I hope all goes well with your walk this evening. My Mom-mode wants to kick in and tell you to be careful, etc. etc., but you are a grown woman and you can take care of yourself.

I'm so sorry that PG has caused such an uproar. Can't believe she would stoop so low as to call the police and cause you to go through a CPS visit. However, you will come through with flying colors, even if Katie has the sniffles.

I hope both Katie and you are feeling better tomorrow. Do your best to get a good night's rest.

 

[LAinSEA]

Beth:

You are in my prayers and I'm sending you some positive thoughts for strength. I good long walk will do you some good and I know you'll be careful.

I hope Katie is feeling better soon - summer colds are the worst - I'm fighting the sinus, earache, scratchy throat today too.

This has got to be really hard on your DH too. Support each other and you'll get through this.

-Laurie

 

[wilderness01]

You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. I am so sorry for what you all are going through. Be kind to yourselves and each other and you will get through this stronger than ever.

 

[Strings]

Made it back in 2 hrs 27 minutes. I had DH time me.

 

[KLH 1973]

Great job on the power walk I was wondering if you would make it. Good luck with cps today, I'm sure they will see that your MIL is nuts and throw out the case. Take care and dont stress eat.

Kristin

 

[lulu201]

First let me say: Way to go, Beth on that fantastic walk! Last night I was telling DH that I never dreamed I could walk that far, exercise for that long. How did you feel about your accomplishment?

I didn't get caught up on your journal until later yesterday, and, Beth, I have to tell you, my heart is just aching for you right now. I know you and Won and Katie are going through so much--your crazy in-laws, too--I'm so sorry about all this. I'm glad that you and Won stand together; you'll be able to get through everything side by side.

You're in my thoughts and prayers today--and every day.
Erin

 

[DoeWDW]

Beth, great job on your walk last night!! I hope it helped you to get a good night's sleep.

I hope that today finds you refreshed and at peace. You and Won are wonderful parents and I'm sure all will go well today. I'll keep you in my prayers.

 

[vald1977]

Beth,
Just wanted to stop by and let you know I'm praying for you and your family. I'm sure all will be cleared up with CPS but what a spiteful and wicked thing to do not only to you but to her son and her grand daughter. She needs help .

I can't believe you walked 9 miles in 2 hours 27 minutes! That is an outstanding accomplishment . I'm proud of you !

Take care and I'll be thinking of you.

 

[Strings]

Thanks for the prayers guys. They are much appreciated. The visit went well. Deb came by and talked with us for about 15 minutes before she concentrated on Katie. She toured the house, asked a lot of questions. She seemed satisffied. She then took Katie in the back yard and talked with her while she played in the sandbox. Deb was more concerned with our steps to limit PG's exposure to Katie. She wantedto know how it was affecting our marriage and Katie. She didn't have any additional suggestions though. We are allowed to take Katie to Toronto next week, so we're relieved at that. She did say she will be making at least 2 more surprise visits in the next 6 months before the file can be closed. She is nice. I know this is much less formal and in depth than most cases. Probably because we are in a nice neighborhood/school district, but I will take what I can get. Won has to work late because he took time off in the middle of the day. As soon as Deb left, I promptly thew up, sorry if that is tmi.

I have been OP so far today, actually I have barely eaten. Stress related. I am taking a rest day from exercise. My thighs and rear are slightly sore from yesterdays walk. I am proud of myself though.

I am not sure I will get to journals today. It will be after Katie goes to bed.

Beth

 

[wilderness01]

Glad to hear the visit went well. Have a good night's sleep and take care of yourself.

 

[DoeWDW]

Beth, such good news that the visit went well! All this stress - take extra steps to be good to yourself and Won and Katie. Take time to have fun as a family - the chores will wait!

I'm keeping you in my prayers as always.