Stressed

[doxdogy]

I am so glad that it is Friday. It has been a horrible week. It all started Monday when DH's brother called to tell us our nephew had stopped by the their house. It seems that he was kicked out of the Army. He won't say what he did. But, he hasn't called us since he got back in town. This is the nephew that lived with us for over a year when he got into trouble. I am so hurt that he hasn't called me to at least say hello and I am alive and will see you soon. I always defended him when he parents kept saying that he was a failure and wouldn't amount to anything. Then the DD calls me at work and asks me if I had talked to DH (her dad). Never a good sign when the conversation starts that way. It seems that her grandmother (DH's ex mother-in-law) has accused DD of stealing some of her jewelry. DD is so hurt that she would accuse her of this. DD denied it and then her grandmother asked her if she would take a lie detector test to prove her innocence. Of course at this point my blood pressure is going through the roof and I am wanting to have words with her grandmother. DH has told me that I am NOT to call her. Then if that wasn't enough stress for DD, she found out today that her husband's dog (he has had the dog for 13 years) has cancer and needs to be put to sleep. Poor kid is just so stressed right now. And if your child is upset, of course you are upset. I was really hoping this year would be better than the last two years. But, I am beginning to think that the light at the end of the tunnel is a train! If you got this far, thanks for listening. I just have had about all the stress I can take.

Sorry for long post.

 

[luvindisneyworld]

It will get better

 

[two4ruff]

 

[Shellie722]

Hope everything gets better soon.

 

[Stepharoonie!]

 

[worm761]

 

[buddy&wooz]

Your nephew might be too embarrassed by whatever happened to contact you.

Hope things improve for everyone!

 

[TNCarole]

 

[Pin Wizard]

Hugs, Doxdogy!! I hope things improve soon.

 

[Keli]

I know it isn't right for your nephew to come home and not contact you and your dh since you guys have been so close to him but I have a feeling that you will be the people he most wants to avoid right now. It's hard when you know you have let people down that love and trust you and it is much harder to face them than people whose opinion you don't really value.

 

[Microcell]

Could the grandma be suffering from dementia? Seroiusly, my MOL's mom accused her of stealing alot and she was very cenile.

 

[Disney Doll]

I would agree that DNephew is probably really embarassed at having to face you right now, especially after all you've done for him.

As far as the grandmother, it could be dementia, or a reaction to medications, especially if this behavior is unusual or out of character for her. If it's not, then tell the old biddy to prove it. My DH is a realtor, and a colleague of his(a woman of the highest integrity of anyone I have ever known)was accused by a seller of stealing jewelry from the house when she was showing it. Of course, my DH's colleague didn't do it, and told the seller that. My DH told her to tell the seller to prove it. It went round and round until the seller's mother said "Oh, I took the jewelry to my house because I figured you'd have people walking through and why take the chance?" Of course, the seller didn't ever apologize to my DH's clleague for accusing her of something.

 

[joshsmom]

 

[doxdogy]

Thank you all for the good thoughts. I knew deep down that my nephew might be upset that he "disappointed" us. And I am sure he will call when he feels the time is right. My DD's grandmother has always been this way. Years ago when DH was married to her daughter, she did the same thing to him. She stopped speaking to one of her daughters years ago because she made her mad.