Strange comment from stranger in Walmart last nite..what do you think?

[disykat]

Well, DO you have unusual eyes?

That's what I was wondering. If your eyes are something people often comment about, I wouldn't worry about it. If no one has ever mentioned your eyes and they are just "normal," I'd worry!

 

[LuvOrlando]

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[BC]

To answer some of your questions...

No, I do not have particularly beautiful eyes. Actually, I don't ever recall anyone specifically ever telling me that.

Was it the compliment or the touching....well, it was both. Had she been behind me in line and mentioned my eyes, maybe I could see it, but to walk across the store to tell me seemed odd and then to have her rub her hand across my shoulders as she walked by topped it off.

This woman appeared to be in her late 40's and I am older than that, so go figure!

 

[DeluxePrincess]

I've complimented strangers before, but I have never gone out of my way to do so. I also would never touch them. You probably do have beautiful eyes. As long as nothing is out of the ordinary, don't worry about it.

 

[aprilgail2]

. Then my husband said, maybe she planted something on me! That was freaking me out!! Anyway, I know there is a chance she was just being nice, but they say go with your gut and I think it was odd. I can't imagine going several aisles over in a store to tell another woman something about her was beautiful! Am I overreacting? What do you think?

wow-paranoid much??

 

[PrincessKsMom]

She could have been me!!!! I do that all the time! I can't help but tell someone when I think something about them is so beautiful. I usually just hope it makes them happy to hear it

Although, I don't usually touch the person unless its a tap on the shoulder to get their attention.

And this explains the pic in your siggie!

 

[Eeyores Butterfly]

I don't think the comment would make me feel weird, but the touching most definitely would! If you don't know me, don't touch me! I hate being manhandled by strangers.

 

[Mysteria]

wow-paranoid much??

I wanted to react to this with sarcasm of my own but I'm trying not to do that here anymore. This comment was rude. End of story.

Having lived in 2 of the 4 biggest cities in North America I can understand the OP's concern over the touching part. We are taught very young (for good reason) to be very aware of scams, pickpockets, etc. etc. It is NOT paranoia, it's realism. People can distract you for 5 seconds and your wallet is gone!! Happens all the time.

I'm a touchy person but I would NEVER touch a total stranger like the OP is describing.

Having said all that....seems in your case OP she was just trying to pay you a compliment so hopefully you can feel good about that and not be overly concerend about the touching part. You don't have to be paranoid to keep your guard up.

 

[snarlingcoyote]

I know someone with a severe mental illness.

And yeah, I could see her, in some moods, doing just what the Wal-Mart woman did, and doing it with perfectly good intentions.

I'd shrug it off as mental illness mixed with good thoughts and let it go.

 

[darlak]

OP, let me ask you this....if a man did exactly the same thing (went out of his way to approach you, then compliment you and then touch you in a lingering, if not almost caressing manner), what would you think? That he was flirting with you maybe?

My guess is that woman was doing exactly the same thing. I'd probably be flattered...not interested...but still flattered.

 

[*BTMRR*]

My first thought was that she might have known someone who had eyes that looked like yours--maybe a previous SO, or a child or someone else she lost.
But I think it's more likely she was flirting with you.

 

[BC]

Mysteria- Thank You!

Darlak- Honestly, I would have felt the same way if a man had done this, actually possibly even more uneasy. Nothing about the way this was done would have come across as flirting. Maybe I just can't explain it, but the way she looked (no expression in her face) and the way she moved was just odd. Have you ever had a cat slither across your leg, well that reminds me of how she moved & how it felt.

 

[Jennasis]

Sounds like she was hitting on you. Score one for you...you've still got "it"! Sure you weren't interested but as they say, nothing ventured, nothing gained, from her perspective.

On the conspiracy theory front, did the store alarm go off when you left? Maybe she DID plant one of the security tags on you so she could escape with pilfered merchandise.

 

[BC]

I have decided there are lots of people that do things that are strange to me, so I will just chalk this up to another case of that. As many people agree it was odd as do the number that think it was not out of the ordinary. My daughter seems to think she might have been on something and was fixated on me as she was waiting in line. Anyway, I quickly looked thru my purse and my wallet, checkbook & other major items are there, so I don't think there is anything missing & I haven't run across anything that isn't mine.

 

[Camicar]

Based upon my experience when I was pregnant and almost from conception my chest got ginormous, strangers will say the most amazingly and appallingly-personal comments to total strangers. Sixteen years later I remain astonished at how many people feel it's acceptable to make comments on a stranger's body parts and how many of them seem to feel as though they deserve a "Why, thanks so much!" in response to unwelcome, overly-sexual commentary.

 

[Disney Doll]

I would say it's odd, but she could have been on something, hitting on you or just odd. And while I don't think I tend to be an overly paranoid person, I, too, live near and work in a fairly large city, and it does become part of your "psyche" to think "Did they just pickpocket me or plant something on me?".

I have gotten lots of compliments on my eyes over the years, so an eye compliment wouldn't probably faze me too much...the lingering touch might though...

Now, if someone had said "you're so slim" my first thought would be "Oh, look, a blind person!".

Since nothing's missing, I'd chalk it up to odd or a pass.

 

[BC]

Many of you have made the comment she might have been making a pass or "hitting" on me. I am one that fully believes each to their own and whatever makes you happy, go for it, but I can't help but wonder about this because my husband was standing in line with me. Would another woman make a pass to a woman that was with a man? I don't mean for this thread to go beyond my original question, but I have been wondering why she would do that when I was clearly with my husband. Although it may appear I am still dwelling on this, I really am not. I have just chalked it up to strange behavior and not really thought much more about it, but I just couldn't help but wonder.

 

[Disney Doll]

Many of you have made the comment she might have been making a pass or "hitting" on me. I am one that fully believes each to their own and whatever makes you happy, go for it, but I can't help but wonder about this because my husband was standing in line with me. Would another woman make a pass to a woman that was with a man? I don't mean for this thread to go beyond my original question, but I have been wondering why she would do that when I was clearly with my husband. Although it may appear I am still dwelling on this, I really am not. I have just chalked it up to strange behavior and not really thought much more about it, but I just couldn't help but wonder.

Well, men who I assume found me attractive have made passes at me when I was clearly standing with my DH, so I assume a woman who found you attractive might do the same thing.