Step Parent Adoption???

[Luv'sTink]

Next Friday we go for the finalization of my DS adoption.

Although DH and DS (10) already feel and have a father son relationship, I would like to do something special for the big day. They are both doing a count down to the day so they are excited. DS requested that DH adopt him. He told DH "because if something were to happen to Mom you wouldn't have any rights to me." Yep, he is pretty smart!


I asked DS what his favorite restaurant was and he said "The Met" (DH favorite too!) it is a very expensive restaurant in Seattle and we just went there to celebrate a few birthdays, his included! I said well what is your second favorite and he said "McDonald's"!!!!


I dont know what to do, anyone have any ideas?

 

[Hedy]

With som adoptive children, they'e celebrated their "Adoption day" on an annual basis-mayb an adoption party? Or go to the restaurant, then eat there again next year, etc.

 

[hvivona]

If you don't mind me asking, how did you convince the bio dad to sign away rights to allow adoption? The reason I ask is because when my husband and I married 18 months ago he brought in his two girls who are now 4 and 9 years old that he has full custody of, and I brought in my now 6 year old daughter. I was never married to her father and he is not that involved, but does pay child support. My daughter has asked my husband to adopt her so that he can be her "real" daddy. We were both touched because she has called him daddy ever since she was 3 when we started dating seriously. So back to my question, how to I get my daughter's bio dad to sign away his rights and allow the adoption to take place? I understand if this is too personal and you'd rather not answer.

 

[Luv'sTink]

I called him up and said "DS wants DH to adopt him". My sons bio dad has never been in his life (bio dad choice) so to him it wasn't a big deal.

If I were you I would just say "how do you fee about this?" and see what he says all he can say is no. But, don't tell him that your DD has requested it because that could put her in a bad place with bio, if she sees him at all.

 

[JustineMarie]

If you don't mind me asking, how did you convince the bio dad to sign away rights to allow adoption? The reason I ask is because when my husband and I married 18 months ago he brought in his two girls who are now 4 and 9 years old that he has full custody of, and I brought in my now 6 year old daughter. I was never married to her father and he is not that involved, but does pay child support. My daughter has asked my husband to adopt her so that he can be her "real" daddy. We were both touched because she has called him daddy ever since she was 3 when we started dating seriously. So back to my question, how to I get my daughter's bio dad to sign away his rights and allow the adoption to take place? I understand if this is too personal and you'd rather not answer.

My Dh just adopted my DD8 this past November. She has called him dad and he is the only one she's ever known. I contacted her bio and told him that I needed him to sign over any rights he had to her and in exchange I could never go after him for any child support, which he has never paid to begin with. Apparently that was the selling point bc he signed them and got them notorized for me. When we got to court for the adoption, the judge actually told us that we didn't even need the papers signed bc after 5 years of no contact and no support, it was a case of abandonment and the precedings would have still went on with the same outcome.

 

[almburr]

DH adopted our oldest DD who is now 12 she was 4 when the adoption was finalized. Her Bio. was never in the picture, wanted nothing to do with us. It varys State to state. But our lawyer filed the case as abandonment of child and had to run an ad in any paper for I think 3wks. Went to court judge signed we signed.

We had an adoption party with family.
She was calling him dad when she was 3, she knew know one else as dad.