Starting a "Good Behavior" Chart, need ideas please

[allie&mattsmom]

I want to start the school year by keeping a "Good Behavior" Reward chart for my DS (8) who is sometimes, how should I say this...well, overly excited to be at school and with his buddies and tends to forget to follow certain classroom rules. For example, yesterday, he came home with a warning because his friend Max wanted to show him something so Matt just gets up out of his desk and walks over to visit with Max. He is in thrid grade and he knows better than this. I want to give him some sort of incentive to follow the class/school rules. Does anybody do anything like this? I need some ideas please.

 

[newtowdw1]

I, too, have a third grader. Yes, we've done responsibility charts since she was four. I have about 14 items I expect her to accomplish, from making her bed and brushing her teeth, to good attitude, paid attention at school, tried her hardest, nice to little brother, etc. Each chart lasts one week and she checks the behavior if she 'did' it. We count up the checks each night. If she has a certain number of checks for the day she can stay up and read an extra 15 minutes (big treat here!). As the week progresses, she earns more checks, and earns extra priveleges (stay up 1 hour later, computer time, etc). Big ticket items (zoo, children's museum) can be earned for a certain number of checks over the course of several weeks. I'm thinking of putting disney dollars as rewards this year. We are implementing one for DS4. Mostly to get him moving in the morning. If you would like, I can attach a copy and send it to you via email (word program).

This works REALLY well for my hyper DD. REALLY well. The problem is that we forget to keep it going after she pulls herself together. Then we get into that cycle....

I keep it on a clipboard in the kitchen. It is her responsibility to fill it in before bedtime.

 

[allie&mattsmom]

That would be great if you could copy it and email it to me. I'd really appreciate it! Thanks so much!

 

[newtowdw1]

I'll be happy to do it for you Friday pm.

 

[allie&mattsmom]

I'll be happy to do it for you Friday pm.

That would be great. Thanks again!

 

[ainmama2001]

My dd. is only 4 and I have made an allowance chart for her. We go to WDW once a year because my parents only live an hour away. She has a chart on the fridge with little things now...because we just started...like Letting the Dog Out is worth a nickel. I have printed a picture of the coin and how much it is worth underneath. She get the amount posted for each "chore" and she gets to put the money in her special Belle bank and we are going to cash it in before she goes on her trip in three weeks. We've been doing this for about two months. We also have lunch at CRT, and she needed a new princess dress. I told her if she was good, Mickey would bring her one. So, she's going to get her dress the morning of the lunch (I'll lay it out the night before in the room with a card and stuff) and I'll have Mickey give it to her! Another idea I had was to wrap it up and give it to the CM monitoring the line at the Judge's Tent, so he could give it to her when she met him. I know all of this is for a younger child, but you could adapt it.

 

[allie&mattsmom]

My dd. is only 4 and I have made an allowance chart for her. We go to WDW once a year because my parents only live an hour away. She has a chart on the fridge with little things now...because we just started...like Letting the Dog Out is worth a nickel. I have printed a picture of the coin and how much it is worth underneath. She get the amount posted for each "chore" and she gets to put the money in her special Belle bank and we are going to cash it in before she goes on her trip in three weeks. We've been doing this for about two months. We also have lunch at CRT, and she needed a new princess dress. I told her if she was good, Mickey would bring her one. So, she's going to get her dress the morning of the lunch (I'll lay it out the night before in the room with a card and stuff) and I'll have Mickey give it to her! Another idea I had was to wrap it up and give it to the CM monitoring the line at the Judge's Tent, so he could give it to her when she met him. I know all of this is for a younger child, but you could adapt it.

Thanks! Those are great ideas. I need to come up with a "chore" chart too for both of my kids. My DD is 10 now, and oh how I miss those "princess dress" years! Enjoy them and take lots of pictures of your DD in her princess dresses! I didn't take enough of them.

 

[luckey-lasvegas]

You should check out the article in Family Fun I think it's called the goblet of choice. It's a Mom's idea of awarding points to kids ala Harry Potter "5 points to Gryfindor as an example" The winner of the "House cup " that week gets to choose the celebration dinner and activity etc. . I only have one DD but I thought this was a great idea for a family with 2 or more kids.

 

[cwnhokie]

I was just sitting down this morning to work on a chart for DS4 and decided to check in with the DIS boards before I got started. newtowdw1, I would love to see what you have done for your 4 year old. I am realizing that mine should be doing a lot more things independently that he is not. My DS2 does more self help skills then DS4. We did a sticker chart this summer to encourage him to come down the steps by himself in the morning. He used to get up and yell for me to come pick him up. I guess I just didn't notice that he was growing up and forgot encourage him to do things for himself. I'm thinking of including things such as getting dressed, brushing teeth, cleaning up toy room, putting on shoes, stuff like that.

 

[trustknoone]

newtowdw1
would you be willing to send me that chart too? I could really use the help

Thanks
Angela

theelphaba@aol.com

 

[luckey-lasvegas]

I hung a magnetic dry erase board from Sams club in our kitchen.
On the right side of the board it lists my DD privilages and then 3 colums follow . One is green , one is yellow and one is red. If she is in danger of losing a privilage because of her behaivor she has to move one of her magnets to yellow one more infraction and she moves that magnet to red and that privilage is gone. For major problems she goes on full restriction and has to earn her green privilages back one at a time ( of course the ones with most currency are the last to return).

Below her privilage chart is morning chart which has the things she needs to do before school ie: make bed, eat breakfast etc. she moves the magnets over when she compeltetes the task . She has one for her PM activities too.

It helps her know what is expected and where she stands.

 

[crisi]

We had luck using a Dilley discipline ladder. The Dilley's are a family of quints.

http://mypage.direct.ca/c/csamson/multiples/disciplineladder.html

 

[Tink215]

I did the same for my DD at age 3 and we still use it when needed. I found my charts at Chartjungle.com. they have a huge variety of charts and stuff!!! Hope it helps, good luck, I am also a preschool teacher and have used it alot in my teaching days and if used consistently it works wonders!!!! We currently have a Be good to little sister chart,lol yup too funny but it works!!!

 

[Dizneydaz]

I started a "Star Chart" for my DD (almost 6) about a month ago. We hang it on the refrigerator. She earns a star for every "chore" she does. For example: Getting up on time and brushing teeth, keeping room straight, putting toys away before bed, going to bed on time, doing homework (I replace this with feed the cats when school is on break). We also can award her additional stars as we see fit. Like when she does really well in school, helps out with our chores, etc. Her reward is one Disney dollar for every 10 stars she earns. This is the money she can spend on our upcoming trip. I plan on continuing with the chart after since we live close to DL.

Oh, and the best part, is if she's misbehaving-the threat of losing a star has worked everytime. Now granted, my DD is a pretty good kid most of the time, so she has been earning quite a few "dollars"

12 days and counting!!!!