Started new job Monday.... weird mix of emotions.

[SDSorority]

Is anyone else like this??

I started my new job Monday. It's a very nice job, Administrative Assistant at a college. I came from the Admission department of the same college. Every time I think about my co-workers or the building or anything that has to do with the old job, I cry. I miss my old office and my old co-workers so much. I did NOT like the old job tasks, though. I would get yelled at a lot by angry parents, and the job itself was just NOT a fun job. I didn't get paid NEARLY enough for the amount of yelling and whatnot from people outside the University. That said, I LOVED my old co-workers and I miss seeing them every day. Don't get me wrong, my new co-wokers are very very nice, but they're all probably 30 years older than I am, so it's just.... different. In my new job I'm making more money and have different job tasks, so I'm learning a LOT, which is good. I just miss the old place and people.

Has anyone else felt this way before??

 

[StitchBuddy]

Yes, I felt that way when I moved from a middle school to a high school teaching position. It took me a while to feel a part of the group. It will get better. Maybe you could arrange to meet some of your old co-workers for lunch once a month.

 

[Robinrs]

It is different. You're at an age that "friend" relationships mean a lot so your social network was a part of what you found comfortable. It will take a bit of time to adjust but you'll be fine. There will be many more adjustments to life after this, time to get ready for them!

BTW, my 'bestest friend" at my job is 30 years younger than I am. We CAN exist together!

 

[Macduffy]

The first month at a new job is always horrible and it's only natural to second guess everything and wish you stayed where you were but chances are the more you get into a groove and start talking to more people you will like it better!

Good Luck - I've been there!

 

[flagdaytwins]

I could have written this very post. Same situation -- even same kind of work (at a college), transferred to a new dept. yesterday. I cried on and off at the old job the last few weeks, knowing I was leaving my friends and going into the "unknown." So....to me....your emotions are not unusual, I am experiencing the same thing at the same time!!!

 

[MWDisneyFan]

Hey! I start a new job on Monday as well.

Excited but nervous. I have cried so many times saying good-bye to my staff, but a good change for me with more upward mobility.

It will be okay! It is always like this when you change jobs but it works itself out. Plus former co-workers are some of my best friends.

 

[Teacher03]

I know how you feel. I started a new teaching job with a new district in September. I loved my old job and my coworkers, but it was a Catholic school and the future didn't look promising I would have to drive by my old school to get to the new, and I cried every morning for the first two weeks. I still miss it, but I am starting to get to know my coworkers and although it's not quite the same, it's getting better. Hang in there, it does get easier.

 

[Frannie115]

I went through the same thing. I worked in a small office for 5 years and got laid off . Got a good job, larger company, different people, lots to learn, etc. To top it all off, it is 35 min further from home. I have to say that I really enjoy my new job now and love my co-workers. I do stay in touch with some people from the old place and that helps a lot. Best of luck to you.

 

[smokeyblue]

Four years ago I changed departments because I was getting called off of work all the time. It was so hard because I had a couple of really good friends that I'd made there. It wasn't apparent from the get-go, but it was the best move I'd ever made. I didn't realize how miserable my life was before and how good life could be! The work was more fulfilling, my coworkers actually appreciate me and my boss is the model of perfection! My coworkers are my extended family. They are so good to me. One of my best friends at work is 30 years older than me. When she retires in 2 years I'm going to be very sad! Hang in there. This may be the best thing that has happened to you.

 

[acomasdiaz]

You're definitely not alone. I worked in a University for 8 years. The first 5 years I was in one area which I loved. I loved what I did and the people I worked with. Then, the department was shut down and I ended up moving to another department. I made less money and didn't really care for what I was doing. The people I worked with were nice but it still wasn't the same. I stayed there for about a year then I moved to another job which I liked better but again it wasn't the same. I stayed for about 2 years but really couldn't make myself love it.

I still cry sometimes when I think about my old job. I wish I could go back to it. But I know it's not possible. I hope things get better for you. I wish I could say with time you won't miss the old place so much but for me it will be 5 years this summer and I miss that old job almost every day. I hope things get better for you.

 

[SDSorority]

Thank you everyone for your thoughts!!!

I think a big part of it is that I don't feel comfortable in the new space yet. I'm still in the learning process of how to do things and where things are. I know eventually it'll get better....

 

[Owlpost23]

I hate starting a new job! You don't know everyone's name,and you have no routine set up.I much prefer a job a few years in-that way,you know what to expect and not expect from people you work with.Hang in there-it WILL get better!: