I fail to see how anyone thinks this is ok? I'm not talking about an 8 year old here, but for anyone to say its ok for an airline to make people pay a fee to guarantee their toddler sits with them is ludicrous. Obviously as a parent I would pay the fee than take that chance, and the OP DID pay the fee as she stated. But some morals have to kick in here somewhere. I am not acting like a child by pointing out a seriously flawed policy. To charge for more legroom, a closer seat to the exit, that's fine. Clearly many of the responders here do not have children. A toddler cannot be expected to follow the rules and procedures of safety during flight. I'm not "looking" for a lawsuit, but society is.
I have never paid a fee for a seat. Ever. I don't believe in it. Ill take the back row, the engine, next to bathroom, whatever. My ticket pays for the ride. Ill take wherever the airline chooses to place me, but I don't think it's unreasonable to expect they place my young child with me. And for anyone to feel otherwise has serious moral issues.
Sorry, but I don't agree. You say parents
need to sit next to their kids. Well, let's look at it from a diffent view point. I am claustrophobic and absolutely hate flying. I can not sit in a middle seat or window seat or in the back of the plane. (I can't stand looking up that long tube or feeling penned in.

) I have flown Spirit and Air Tran, both of whom charge seat fees (if you want to sit next to your traveling party or in a particular seat). Every single time, I have paid for the seat that I
need and have no problem doing so. According to your thinking the airlines shouldn't be able to charge me those seat fees, because I have an actual
need. My
need is just as strong as any parent's. Believe me, you would not want to see me being forced to sit in the rear of the plane, penned in a window or middle seat.
Another scenario: I sometimes travel with me elderly, diabetic, arthritic, hard of hearing mom, who has some dementia, is easily confused, easily agitated, her blood sugar frequently drops without warning, due to her arthritis she can not open bottles or cans, would not be able to get her cane out of the overhead, stumbles when she first gets up, and would need assistance to go to the bathroom. I
need to sit next to her. My
need to sit next to her is just as strong as some parent's
need to sit next to their child. There is no way she could follow rules and procedures in an emergency. Consequently, I pay the seat fees to make sure I sit next to her. Again according to your thinking the airlines should give us seats together for free, because I
need to sit next to her. We all have reasons for choosing the seats we do and one
need should not trump another's. Having a child does not make you special. Pay for what you need.
I like that the airlines have unbundled their fees. We can pay for what we actually use. I have no problem packing for a week in a carry on, so why should I pay to subsidize the person that think they need two checked bags for a week's stay? If my bag is not taking up any room underneath the plane, I shouldn't have to pay the same fare that someone who has two bags under there does. By the same token, the person who couldn't care less where they sit, should not have to pay the same fare as someone like me, who must choose a certain seat and/or sit next to their loved one. On Air Tran you can choose a seat in the back of the plane for just $6.00, but if you want a seat close to the front (like I need) the fee goes up to $15.00. I
need that seat, so I pay it. That means that if my mom is with me, we are paying an extra $60.00 r/t in seat fees to get the seats we need. Why should a parent get those same seats for free, just because they have a kid?