Spinoff - how were you "punished" as a teen?

[stinkerbelle]

My mother had interesting ways of punishing me beyond the traditional 'grounding'.

If I came home from school and found my bedroom door closed - I knew I was screwed. My mom would DUMP my room. And when I say dump, I mean she emptied every drawer (desk and clothes) into the middle of my room, then pull EVERYTHING out from my closet and put it all on top.

yep - markers/highlighters on top of shirts...lovely.

Oh that was a good 5 hours project to clean up.

One other time, my parents took away my car for a month because I got a speeding ticket. (Which I found quite fair actually.) I had to walk to/from school (2 miles each way) and my mom would drive me to work. My mom got so sick of driving me to work (and everywhere else w/ my friends) after the first week I got my car back early.

 

[Talking Hands]

I was beated with my father's uniform belt. That was really the only form of punishment I got. THE BELT. Assume the position!
No I didn't use that for my girls. I had too much of it as a child and won't subject them to that abuse.

 

[airhead]

My mother was a fanatic about a clean house. I hated when she was home from work because I would come home from school to find the"pile" also!!!!! Man,what a wicked mess!!!! Took hours to put everything back! One time I got so mad,I refused to put stuff away. After days of not being able to find anything I caved and put stuff away. I always thought it was a cruel thing she did. The whole day at school,I could't function because I knew she was home in my room.
Another cruel thing she'd do while I was in school was to go in my room and rip(I'm not kidding) all the clothes she didn't like!!
She'd rip in half all my jeans!!!! How nice....

 

[CBRorBust]

Yikes! I would just get the phone taken away!

 

[septbride2002]

I was grounded for 2 weeks for stealing when I was 13 or so. I shop lifted a piece of candy and was caught doing it by security at a Six Flags. Never did it again.

Otherwise my mother liked to hit. She would just barrell in the room and hit you on the arm or in the shoulder. I think I was about 15 years old when she came charging in my room and I knew it was coming - I threw my hands up, looked her straight in the eye and said, "If you hit me I am going to hit you back." And I meant it. At that moment I meant it - I would have slugged her and not stopped. I think she realized at that moment that hitting me was not a way to get through to me.

I would like to add that I was a good kid - got good grades, kept my room semi-clean, and did my chores. These hitting incidences would happen if I disagreeded with my Mom. I've always been opinionated and did occasionally talk back. My father never hit us. I pretty much agree with everything my parents did with raising us except for Mom hitting us. Funny thing - My brother told her the same thing when he was aout 15 or 16.

~Amanda

 

[DukeStreetKing]

I had the whole menu of punishments when I was growing up:

Soap in the mouth, spankings, wooden spoon to the butt (until one of them broke, lol), belt to the butt.

I think the worst was having to stay inside while my friends were outside. Sitting at the window watching them really stunk.

 

[Aimeedyan]

When I was a teenager, the only punishment I ever got was grounding... but that really didn't happen that often either. Only when I got a "smart mouth" LOL

 

[stinkerbelle]

oh jeez...that reminds me. I went to middle school with a fat lip once after my mom slapped me across the face. (i had braces at the time - which just made the lip look worse.)

teachers were worried...asked me what happened. When I told them what I did...they said I deserved it. (I told my mom to F**k off...yeah, I deserved it.)

one time - my mom chased my brother down with a wooden spoon...she went to hit him, missed, hit the fireplace and the spoon shattered. they both had a good laugh after that.

I don't think we were worse off for the occasional hit/slap...I won't do it to my children...but everyone is different. I still love my parents for what they did for me...I think I turned out an alright person!

Duke - just read your reply - hahahah...yeah, wooden spoons obviously not the way to go...my mom eventually upgraded to the stainless steel spatula...until my brother got bigger than her.

 

[CBRorBust]

I can't get over the amount of "physical" punishment responses on this thread!

My older brothers got "spanked" when they were young, but that didn't go on past age 10 I'd think.

Interesting.

 

[Maleficent13]

Soap in the mouth, spankings, wooden spoon to the butt (until one of them broke, lol), belt to the butt.

My mom used to use the wooden spoon across my brother's butt too...until it broke. They both just sat there stunned staring at it while I cracked up. I picked up the pieces, glued them back together (it was a very clean break) and still use it 20 years later to mix all my cakes! I smile everytime I see it.

 

[airhead]

It is amazing what children endure at the hands of those who love them. I could take the beatings much better than all the other stuff my mother did to us. It only hurt for a bit. Worrying about what she was doing to my room while I was at school was pure torture. To this day my brother(who received severe beatings) denies that it ever happened. He simply does not remember. Even when I point out a scar he has behind his ear,that he did not know he had!! She whacked him in the head with a hair brush because he slipped in mud and got dirty. He was 7 years old.
I think its time for me to leave this thread......

 

[wishuponastarforever]

I too, was a product of "the belt".
My parents were good parents - they just didn't know any better.

My brother was the smart one, he would start yelling before they even got near him. He was hit less often.

I, on the other hand would not give them the satisfaction, and I refused to cry.

I may not have learned how to stop the belting, but thank God, I learned how to stop the pattern.

It sounds like the lesson was learned by everyone who has responded.

 

[aprilgail2]

I cam't recall ever being punished past a grounding at age 12...once I hit the teens I had pretty much free run of my life within reason I guess....

 

[believe]

Unless you were totally defiant you either got grounded or a privilege taken away. My older siblings were very defiant so they did get the 'belt' or 'switch'. I was only grounded a few times and once I smarted off to my Dad and did get a slap across the face. For the most part I was good and didn't test my parents.

 

[Jenn Lynn]

When we were younger we would get spanked. Once my Mom broke a yardstick on my Sisters butt.

Then, when we were older it was gorundings that never worked. My MOm would ground us for something rediculous, like 6 months, and she could never stick to it.

Or else she would take the phone in my room away, but I had 2 others hidden away. And I had a trick with my boyfriend. He would call me late at night. Since we had call waiting I would call the time/temperature recording and then, when he beeped in, I would click over and talk to him.

Groundings never worked for me.

 

[oogieboogie]

If we were to do that to our children nowadays, someone would call the cops on us for child abuse.

My mother wouldn't lay a hand on me, she'd leave the punishment to my dad, who would use the belt or the wooden spoon.

I still spank my kids but never with anything but my hands. I would never dream of using a belt or spoon to punish them.

 

[vettechick99]

I usually just got grounded. No tv, no phone. Just time to think. Torture.

But once when I was about 8, I went to a neighbor's house after school and told them I had my moms permission. Well hours later when my mom finally called over there, sick from worrying, I went home and got the "Slap Heard 'Round the World". Thats the only physical punishment I remember getting.

I want to know what punishments actually work? I know everyone is different, but I REFUSE to raise spoiled brats who do as they please (and think the world owes them a favor).

<b>So what worked for you then and now works for your kids?</B>

funny how I'm not even married yet, but am planning future punishments for my kids....

 

[mickeyboat]

We got spankings when we were young and then grounded or made to clean our rooms when we got older. I also got the car taken away from me from time to time. My mom was a push-over, though. When we were grounded and there was something we really wanted to do, we would agree to clean our rooms or to do something else and she would let us go.

I struggle with proper discipline for my kids every day. One thing doesn't work for all kids so I have to keep experimenting until I find something that works. I read a good book called something like 1-2-3 magic that is successful for me when I stick to the program. I am not sure what I'll do when my kids get a little older.

Denae

 

[grinningghost]

Originally posted by Talking Hands
I was beated with my father's uniform belt. That was really the only form of punishment I got. THE BELT. Assume the position!
No I didn't use that for my girls. I had too much of it as a child and won't subject them to that abuse.

I got the belt too. I can't even imagine doing that to my daughter.

 

[Minnesota!]

Originally posted by Jenn Lynn

Or else she would take the phone in my room away, but I had 2 others hidden away. And I had a trick with my boyfriend. He would call me late at night. Since we had call waiting I would call the time/temperature recording and then, when he beeped in, I would click over and talk to him.

Groundings never worked for me. [/B]

OMG!! I did the EXACT same thing! I called our time/temp, waited until the phone beeped and I clicked over. I also turned my fan up all the way so that no one downstairs could hear me (It was a really old, loud fan).

Punishments - hmm. None, really. Yelled at. I got caught shoplifting when I was 15, they took the phone away from me for 2 hours. My mom actually thought it was hilarious that I got caught. Wasn't mad at all, but probably thought they should do something. Let me add, i was never in trouble before that or after. Just a stupid choice one day