My parents both grew up in Texas and I lived there as a young child.
Dh's parents grew up in Iowa and he and his sibligns in Colorado.
Both of our families had the same traditions (wrapped gifts from family under the tree, opened on Christmas Eve, unwrapped gifts set up in display from Santa and seen as soon as we walked into the room Christmas morning and unwrapped gifts from Santa in st6ockings that morning as well).
I've always been very happy that we had the same traditions becuase I love them and I am happy no compromise was needed.
That's both mine & DH's traditions as well - except they unwrapped family gifts on Christmas Eve morning, & we unwrapped family gifts on Christmas Day after we had discovered & looked at everything Santa had brought.
And, yes, it's very nice we had basically the same traditions, & there didn't need to be any kind of compromise.
GROWING UP -
1. Santa brought the "big" gift plus 1 or 2 other gifts & then additional smaller items (books, movies, fuzzy socks, etc) to round out the "display" - if there was a toy, Santa unboxed it & put it together.
2. Santa gifts & stocking items were always unwrapped, & big Santa gift was always the WOW gift - I still remember coming around the corner & seeing my Barbie Townhouse all set up! The presents under the tree were wrapped & were from my mom & dad. The more "boring" type presents (clothes, shoes) were usually from mom & dad, but there was always a special gift or two w/ some sort of sentimental value from mom & dad too.
3. My dad is from Georgia; my mom is from Alabama; & my sister & I grew up in southeast TN. DH's parents are from TN.
OUR KIDS NOW -
1. Santa brings the "big" gift plus 1 or 2 other gifts & then additional smaller items (books, movies, fuzzy socks, etc) to round out the "display" - if there is a toy, Santa unboxes it & puts it together.
2. Santa gifts & stocking items are always unwrapped - with intriguing items peaking out of the top of the stockings, & the big Santa gift is always the WOW gift. The presents under the tree are wrapped & are from DH & me. The more "boring" type presents (clothing, shoes) are usually from us, but I always have a special, sentimental gift for each child plus some sort of fun item as well (toy, game, etc.).
3. DH & I both grew up in southeast TN.
EDITED TO ADD - Growing up, my sister & I always had the same number of gifts - both from Santa & from our parents. And my mom tried very, very hard to spend as close to the same amount on both of us as well - if she didn't spend the exact same amount, the same "value" was there.
And, w/ our kids, we are now the same - the same number of gifts under the tree, in the stockings, & from Santa. And I try very hard to spend the same amount, or the same "value".
Both my mom & my MIL have the same number of gifts per grandchild now as well. And, we grown children (inlaws included) have the same number & same "value" - we receive less than the grandkids, of course!