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Originally Posted by STAYC18
believe me i know from divorce...my father married 2 other times my first step mother 2 twin boys from my dad, absolutly love her and still keep in contact to this day, she always invited to any family gatherings, she had kids from a previous marriage and we even closer to them (hangout, go to concerts together, everything you name it we do it with them) ...her and my mother get a long great always have...my mom would even take us to her house as kids,
my dad remarried again, this step mother not so great, its his family now...have 2 sister from that marriage..didn't talk to my father for years, now on speaking terms but nothing major. it's still his family, me and my sister are fine now that were older it doesn't bother us, we make to effort to meet up with them and that works...
the first step mother is the one i'm tring to be.. i have always included the girls mother to join us in things (like pack the kids up and go to the zoo, do things so they feel like a family) my getting along with her two other kids its exactly like me and my step moms previous child... i think that would be so awesome...i invited the mother to my son's first birthday party, Nope she wouldn't go and then wanted the girls home at 5 when the party ended at 4 and it take an hour to get them to her...how fair is that for husbands children to have to be ripped away from their brothers birthday... so its not me that resents these kids it their mother for resenting the fact that my husband has moved on... and she can't control the things you used to get away with anymore...
tell me this to all the ones who have x's...
Do you think a court order on visition and child support issues is something that should be done for the childrens sake...
I don't understand why no woman with children wouldn't have court appointed documents that specifically document everything on paper
SHE DOESN'T
my husband deposits said amount (no signed documents on this either) to her bank account every week and all his proof is a receipt back...
So
A. she is hiding something... (mandatory paternity test when filling for child support)..
B. she's scared she will have to document the amount of child support she gets--- which will stop her from getting food stamps ($936 a month) (kids told us), masshealth (free insurance) oh and this where the "What if the kids need glasses and braces" comes in, the state pays or it, and WIC she has two kids under 5, Yes, she's a stay at home mom that collect state benefits...
C. or she dosen"t what a court to tell her she is entitled to more of my husbands money than she is getting by a he/said she/said amount... cuz i'm sure $75 a week is not enough for 2 kids
I told him numerous times that this should all be done thru court but he won't listen... so all i can really do is sit back and let them handle the way they do...
Guess what ...it's up to him. It's his money; right? He can go to court too but maybe he doesn't want to because he knows he will have to pay more than $75 a week for two children. The state of MA has a nifty little calculator right online that you can use to find out how much he should be paying.
My sister married a man with a son from a previous relationship. They do not have custody or child support order. So far, it has always worked. Whey would my sister want to get involved in that.
If you are trying to be like your first stepmom you might want to try harder. From the sounds of your post you are not doing a great job of it.
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Originally Posted by Nancyg56
Are you saying your husband pays $75 a week to support two children? Please tell me that I have misunderstood this.
I was thinking the same thing. $300 a month for two kids wouldn't even cover my children's extracurricular activites. Nevermind food and clothing.
That, I find hard to believe.
