Spending money...

[jessica23]

No the mother absolutely does not need to send money. The kids have their father to help them buy extras if they want. If you feel oh so obligated to only give so much, take half of the babies "budget" and give it to them. He absolutely, 100% does NOT need it and would be perfectly happy with a small stuffed whatever and call it a day. TRUST ME. I have a few kids myself and all have been under 2 that have been to Disney and they couldn't have cared less and don't remember it at all to this day so it will be okay to not be "fair" with spending money, he won't remember that when he is um 3?
I am a step kid and this thread really saddens me with the resentment towards these kids you have. Even if you spend more time with them, that certainly doesn't take the resentment away.

 

[STAYC18]

Let's be honest. This is about keeping all the spending money focused on one thing: the baby.

Every penny Dad spends on those two little girls, is a penny that is not being spent on the baby. And that's what it's all about : spending money on the baby, and how do you keep from having to spend money on those two interlopers?? You try to say that their mom should give them money, so you don't have to spend it on them.

And I know your response will be: "Oh, I'm giving them this wonderful trip!" You had a thread before, in which you asked what people thought of just taking Mason on the trip, and leaving the 2 girls at home, so that he would not "miss out". You were shamed into taking them.

Your signature used to mention having a son, Mason, and 2 stepdaughters, without their names. You asked to have the thread deleted when it didn't go as planned. How long till you ask the same of this one?

And, before you ask, I just remember. Your use of ellipses, ("...") all the time, is memorable.

This never had anything to do with my son...and has nothing to do with my step kids having spending money from me and their father....it has to do with receiving money from their mother for souvenirs for the members of their family that they live with...which some agree that it's me and my husbands responsibility...or some agree that the mother shouldn't expect anything to be brought back for them..
so we will just have to wait and see how it plays out when the time comes...

And as for my deleted post...it was a valid question in my eyes and I guess its everyone one goes or no one goes...and guess what EVERYONE is going...Glad u gave me the title of "most memorable evil stepmother"

But I guess this is what you get when asking a question to a bunch of highly opinionated posters



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[STAYC18]

Let's be honest. This is about keeping all the spending money focused on one thing: the baby.

Every penny Dad spends on those two little girls, is a penny that is not being spent on the baby. And that's what it's all about : spending money on the baby, and how do you keep from having to spend money on those two interlopers?? You try to say that their mom should give them money, so you don't have to spend it on them.

And I know your response will be: "Oh, I'm giving them this wonderful trip!" You had a thread before, in which you asked what people thought of just taking Mason on the trip, and leaving the 2 girls at home, so that he would not "miss out". You were shamed into taking them.

Your signature used to mention having a son, Mason, and 2 stepdaughters, without their names. You asked to have the thread deleted when it didn't go as planned. How long till you ask the same of this one?

And, before you ask, I just remember. Your use of ellipses, ("...") all the time, is memorable.

This never had anything to do with my son...and has nothing to do with my step kids having spending money from me and their father....it has to do with receiving money from their mother for souvenirs for the members of their family that they live with...which some agree that it's me and my husbands responsibility...or some agree that the mother shouldn't expect anything to be brought back for them..
so we will just have to wait and see how it plays out when the time comes...

And as for my deleted post...it was a valid question in my eyes and I guess its everyone one goes or no one goes...and guess where EVERYONE is going...Glad u gave me the title of "most memorable evil stepmother"

But I guess this is what you get when asking a question to a bunch of highly opinionated posters



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[STAYC18]

Let's be honest. This is about keeping all the spending money focused on one thing: the baby.

Every penny Dad spends on those two little girls, is a penny that is not being spent on the baby. And that's what it's all about : spending money on the baby, and how do you keep from having to spend money on those two interlopers?? You try to say that their mom should give them money, so you don't have to spend it on them.

And I know your response will be: "Oh, I'm giving them this wonderful trip!" You had a thread before, in which you asked what people thought of just taking Mason on the trip, and leaving the 2 girls at home, so that he would not "miss out". You were shamed into taking them.

Your signature used to mention having a son, Mason, and 2 stepdaughters, without their names. You asked to have the thread deleted when it didn't go as planned. How long till you ask the same of this one?

And, before you ask, I just remember. Your use of ellipses, ("...") all the time, is memorable.

This never had anything to do with my son...and has nothing to do with my step kids having spending money from me and their father....it has to do with receiving money from their mother for souvenirs for the members of their family that they live with...which some agree that it's me and my husbands responsibility...or some agree that the mother shouldn't expect anything to be brought back for them..
so we will just have to wait and see how it plays out when the time comes...

And as for my deleted post...it was a valid question in my eyes and I guess its everyone one goes or no one goes...and guess where EVERYONE is going...Glad u gave me the title of "most memorable evil stepmother"

But I guess this is what you get when asking a question to a bunch of highly opinionated posters



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[STAYC18]

This never had anything to do with my son...and has nothing to do with my step kids having spending money from me and their father....it has to do with receiving money from their mother for souvenirs for the members of their family that they live with...which some agree that it's me and my husbands responsibility...or some agree that the mother shouldn't expect anything to be brought back for them..
so we will just have to wait and see how it plays out when the time comes...

And as for my deleted post...it was a valid question in my eyes and I guess its everyone one goes or no one goes...and guess where EVERYONE is going...Glad u gave me the title of "most memorable evil stepmother"

But I guess this is what you get when asking a question to a bunch of highly opinionated posters



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[STAYC18]

This never had anything to do with my son...and has nothing to do with my step kids having spending money from me and their father....it has to do with receiving money from their mother for souvenirs for the members of their family that they live with...which some agree that it's me and my husbands responsibility...or some agree that the mother shouldn't expect anything to be brought back for them..
so we will just have to wait and see how it plays out when the time comes...

And as for my deleted post...it was a valid question in my eyes and I guess its everyone one goes or no one goes...and guess where EVERYONE is going...Glad u gave me the title of "most memorable evil stepmother"

But I guess this is what you get when asking a question to a bunch of highly opinionated posters



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[STAYC18]

Sorry for the trillon post...working off my phone...


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[STAYC18]

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Originally Posted by mvazul

Page 9!!

Ha, I missed that!

And then a few months will go by...., and new threads just.....littered...with ellipses....asking once again, if it's okay to not spend money........on these 2 little girls.....but keep spending it on a baby......will appear...

Your so wrong on not wanting to spend MY money on these kids... I have the girls pretty much everyweek and spend a significant amount on them (out to eat, zoo,clothes (they were sent with pants and long sleeve shirt in 90 degree weather, sweating),christmas, trips...I do it all, never asking for a cent from their father and why should I, their my kids too...my responsibility is to provide what these childern need too...


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[STAYC18]

Page 9!!

not bad for it going another 11 pages

 

[declansdad]

Your so wrong on not wanting to spend MY money on these kids... I have the girls pretty much everyweek and spend a significant amount on them (out to eat, zoo,clothes (they were sent with pants and long sleeve shirt in 90 degree weather, sweating),christmas, trips...I do it all, never asking for a cent from their father and why should I, their my kids too...my responsibility is to provide what these childern need too...


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You don't ask for money from their father??? Aren't you a family? Do you keep all your money seperate?

 

[duffy]

You don't ask for money from their father??? Aren't you a family? Do you keep all your money seperate?

I asked about that a long time ago, it got lost in all the posts.

But, yeah, where's daddy? We know he's not spending any of his money on this trip, Stayc is proud that she's paying for it all.

So, he just gets a "free" trip? If he's not paying anything for this trip, why can't he spend some money on his girls?

 

[STAYC18]

You don't ask for money from their father??? Aren't you a family? Do you keep all your money seperate?

yes we keep our money seperate...he pays his part, i pay mine...Is there something wrong with that?

 

[STAYC18]

I asked about that a long time ago, it got lost in all the posts.

But, yeah, where's daddy? We know he's not spending any of his money on this trip, Stayc is proud that she's paying for it all.

So, he just gets a "free" trip? If he's not paying anything for this trip, why can't he spend some money on his girls?

I think I said this a million times...We (meaning husband and I) are giving the girls spending money... what part of that didn't you understand...

 

[declansdad]

yes we keep our money seperate...he pays his part, i pay mine...Is there something wrong with that?

Well you make it sound as if he pays nothing at all for his daughters.

There is nothing wrong with seperate pots of money but when it comes to kids, I would think it would be at least a shared responsibility. This is a family vacation, why is the family not paying for it?

 

[STAYC18]

Well you make it sound as if he pays nothing at all for his daughters.

There is nothing wrong with seperate pots of money but when it comes to kids, I would think it would be at least a shared responsibility. This is a family vacation, why is the family not paying for it?

so he should pay for his ex's kids to get something for them from their sisters...

 

[duffy]

so he should pay for his ex's kids to get something for them from their sisters...

You just don't get it, do you? He gives them money. They choose to spend it AS THEY WISH!! At age 7 and 11, they can make decisions like this! Mason cannot.

If they want to spend money he gives them, on themselves, fine! If they want to be loving, generous and thoughtful and spend it on others, that's fine too!

Let them decide to spend it on their other family members, or themselves!

 

[declansdad]

so he should pay for his ex's kids to get something for them from their sisters...

That is what we were talking about but since you asked, yes he should. We are talking about two girls who are 7 and 11, it sure is his responsibility to help them out. What harm would there be for him to help them buy some t-shirts for their siblings and possibly their mother?

 

[duffy]

By the way, add me to the list of people who will gladly give the two little girls money. Send me your Paypal address, and I'll send you money, so they can buy mom a gift.

 

[ccgirl]

yes we keep our money seperate...he pays his part, i pay mine...Is there something wrong with that?

Absolutely not. In that case, any monetary needs for the girls should come out of his share. I assume the child support for the girls comes out of just his account?

But, please don't think that you are funding this vacation completely by yourself. I bet your DH would not be thrilled to see that you are saying you are paying every dime of the vacation. Your DH's share of the mortgage, car payment etc. allows for the extra money on vacation. Keeping things too separate and comparing aren't the best thing for a marriage.

Again, as I have said at 7 and 11 I (personally) would not give my children any spending money. They are old enough to earn it and learn the value of a dollar at that age. Plus, I hate clutter and the more souvenir's they get the more clutter there is.

As was discussed earlier, I think your chart where the girls can earn the money is great. However, have a discussion with them that this is their budget for the entire vacation. They can spend as they choose but when it's gone it's gone so they may want to come up with a list of people they want to buy for and write down a figure they want to spend on each person. There is an under $10 store in DtD that is pretty good.

 

[STAYC18]

That is what we were talking about but since you asked, yes he should. We are talking about two girls who are 7 and 11, it sure is his responsibility to help them out. What harm would there be for him to help them buy some t-shirts for their siblings and possibly their mother?

there is no harm and i'm sure i said a gazillon times that we will make sure they bring something home for them... whether they do it on their own or if we have to do for them...

i know I would give my son money to pick those items up if we was to go on a trip like this with his dad... his father shouldn't have to worry about him having to buy something for my kids that i choose to have with someone else...

i guess i would be a little more compassionate, generous, loving (than most of you) knowing my children would bring something back for their half siblings... Whats the harm in that?