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[minicoopercraig]

Sorry guys, I haven't been around much, I've been quite busy with the holidays, my DBF surprise birthday party planning and execution, and my uncle coming out of the closet. So I've been busy. I'm still quite busy, but I wanted to stop in and give everyone my appologies for not being around, supporting, making people laugh, and contributing overall to the boards.
I'm going to try and be on more, but I've still not hit my stride yet, I'll try to be on more often and be much more involved.

(Gaw! I sound like I'm running for president!)

My uncle, as mentioned before, finally came out. I'm happy for him but I'm a bit put off too. Here's the situation:

My uncle is 40 yo, has one daughter, one step-son, lost his driver's license due to DUI issues (yeah I know!), is missing a few teeth, and doesn't have a stable job.
He met a guy online who is: going on 40, head of a department for his state's attorney general, part-time model, has "buff" looking friends on his Facebook page, and is "trying out for the US Swim Team" for this years Olympics.
He wants to move my uncle to his state with him, fix his teeth, take care of his DL situation, and take him everywhere he goes (IF he makes the Olympic team, he wants to fly my uncle over there with him and all over the place.) They've known each other only 3-4 months and they're already planning to get married in Toronto.

Something just sounds fishy to me. I mean I love my uncle (not too seriously, but you know like you would a relative) and I want him to be happy in this new (albeit one I've thought he should have been in a long time ago) lifestyle, and I don't want him to get hurt. I don't know why, but something about the situation is just rubbing me the wrong way, and not in the, well, you know!

Anyone have any thoughts?! This way I'll keep up on the pages for a while! LOL.

Thanks for listening, and sorry again for not being around more.

 

[rosiep]

Welcome back to the chaos...the dogs are loose, Dad's been drinking again and the 'pirin has been passed around like crazy!!

As for your uncle.....He's a grown man..depending on your relationship with him you can offer him a caution..but it's unlikely he'll change his relationship.
Please be sure to remind him of using proper protection at all times!!!! Whatever this new relationship brings him..ill health is the LAST thing we want!

 

[TuckandStuiesMom]

Hi Craig! It's good to see you back here. I'm not sure but I think maybe we're both out there somewhere on the Oregon Trail together. It's nice to be back in virtual civilization; one of my oxen's gone gimpy on me and I really needed a shower.

That thing with your Uncle does sound dubious. I hope it's like that country song and the buff potential Olympian just turns out to be a little on the dumpy side with a good imagination -- and not some kinda awful hideous mean scammer.

Anywho -- it's nice to see you!

 

[minicoopercraig]

I totally forgot about the Oregon Trail!!! I think I'm starving people!! I need to go check on it!! *runs away to make sure people haven't died on me*

 

[npmommie]

Well I am by nature a suspicious and skeptical person and something about this story just does not seem right to me.
I would question it with your uncle, just put the bug in his ear that something is fishy. see where it goes, but I guess in the end he is an adult, I guess you just have to hope for the best.

 

[npmommie]

He met a guy online who is: going on 40, head of a department for his state's attorney general, part-time model, has "buff" looking friends on his Facebook page, and is "trying out for the US Swim Team" for this years Olympics.
He wants to move my uncle to his state with him, fix his teeth, take care of his DL situation, and take him everywhere he goes (IF he makes the Olympic team, he wants to fly my uncle over there with him and all over the place.) They've known each other only 3-4 months and they're already planning to get married in Toronto.

Something just sounds fishy to me. I mean I love my uncle (not too seriously, but you know like you would a relative) and I want him to be happy in this new (albeit one I've thought he should have been in a long time ago) lifestyle, and I don't want him to get hurt. I don't know why, but something about the situation is just rubbing me the wrong way, and not in the, well, you know!

Anyone have any thoughts?! This way I'll keep up on the pages for a while! LOL.

Thanks for listening, and sorry again for not being around more.

one more question......have they actually met in person?

 

[DVC~OKW~96]

Hey! It's great to see you again! Nice to have you back with us. {{{hug}}}

The situation with your Uncle does seem kind of "dangerous." (A bit too strong, but all I can think of right now). I know he's an adult, but clearly if he's had a DUI (or more?) then his judgment is a bit skewed. Not passing judgment on him mind, just commenting.

You could try speaking to him. But I do think you'll be up against a battle, eh?

Give him the safe sex lecture and turn him loose. Not much else for you to do.

 

[I<3EvilQueen]

yeah something smells fishy.. *sorry Flounder*

But Mr Sounds-Perfect just happens to show up online?


Maybe I am just jaded.

 

[minicoopercraig]

They have met. I've talked to the guy (on Yahoo!), and the guy "seems" ok, but I haven't been talking to him for that long. He's still in Austrailia, and will be home on the 13th, and then shortly after he's going to move my uncle up there with him. And then, go to Toronto to get married. I don't know, I'm trying to put a little bit of a bug in his ear, but he's not getting the hints.
I'm still waiting to see what will happen.

 

[Princess_Michelle]

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[I<3EvilQueen]

Did you see that Dateline expose that was on a few months ago?? People posed as different people from other countries and got "involved" with people, saying they were going to get married, move on together, yadda yadda.....Anyways, at some point the people asked their new "friends" to accept packages for them and re0-send them to all these different places. Turns out, it is a huge identity theft ring originating in Nigeria.

The thiefs use stolen CC numbers to buy stuff (TV's, stereo's, camera's, etc.) and have it sent to said person's house in the USA. They then have the person ship the package to Africa, Australia, Europe, etc. where the items are sold on the down low to local people. USA person does it b/c they have fallen in love with this person believe that they are helping out their future spouse's business. SO, the thief gets the merchandise for free, and the USA person ships it with their own money and the thief sells the stuff and pockets all the money.

Anyways, not saying that it's the case for sure, but just a heads up.

PS. I'm sure you could find that Dateline episode online somewhere.

I've had two similar instances of something like this online lately. Luckily I am jaded to people that claim to fall in love with me after a 10 min conversation on line.

The first guy claimed to be have his own business as an art buyer and he was in Africa buying some local crafts. Three days later he claimed to have been robbed and they took all his money. He wanted me to send him money so he could fly home and then we could be together. *barf* The fact that he claimed to be this professional and has major grammar and spelling issues was my first clue. I told him that am sorry that I couldn't help him, especially when I saw a picture he claimed was him. Nope, the picture was a model that my room-mate happened to have been working with on a Macy*s photo spread.

The second guy claimed to be in London on business and this one seemed very nice and sincere. He knew of things in my area of town and we talked for a whole week while he was there on a business trip. We even talked about meeting up for a date when he got back. Then the whole "I love you more than anything in the world" stuff started up... I was like "um.. you don't even really know me." And like clock work the next day he claimed he lost all his money and wallet in a cab and asked if I could send him money. I told him that his company should be paying for his airfare back and he should visit the embassy about his pass port. And of course I heard nothing for a month. And when I found him online again. he fessed up and claimed to be a scam artist and that I saw through his scam. He claimed that it works alot.

I didn't know whether to be mad or flattered: Mad that apparently I look desperate that I would fall for these "good looking" guys online after one conversation. Or flattered that a scam artist told me I outsmarted him.

 

[Princess_Michelle]

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[minicoopercraig]

I think that's all they can do over there. I don't know if it's a scam or not, like I said before I was talking to the guy, through a messenger and he sounds real. I've also tried to do a background check (as much as I can online without having to pay for it! Which isn't much! LOL.) and it came back that this person DOES in fact live in Michigan. That's as much as I know. And I haven't been able to find out more than that. Like I said before as well, I'm still skeptical, and so is my sister, but we can't stop him from his own life, he is older than us by about 10 years, but still, he DID fall for the Nigerian Prince scam out a while ago. He didn't have a checking account, but my aunt did, and they tried to cash the check he was sent and it bounced right away. Funny huh?! LOL. Luckily no one lost any money on it.