Hi to you all, its been a while since i have been around but as you can appreciate i have had a lot to do.
It is now been nearly six weeks since the "event" and boy how things have changed and moved on.
I am seeing my lawyer tomorrow as "he" (cant bring myself to call him DH anymore doesnt deserve it!) has agreed to a written agreement regarding the house situation, hopefully have managed to secure staying here for at least a year.
He has still been collectiing a few possession each day until last week when he came home from sea again and i told him in no uncertain terms that he has to get it out quicker, i have even taken great delight in chucking his stuff into binbags and i mean chucking.....apparently his new girlfriend is already moaning about the amount he has moved in, he still has at least a quarter more to go, the clutter in her small house and the untidiness etc. HA HA. van arriving on Saturday.
I also found out that he took her to Amsterdam last November using the cover of taking his sister for a break, boy has that backfired bigtime his sister is on the warpath big time.
His attitude is getting worse by the day, very short tempered, arrogant one minute nice as pie the next. Didnt like it when i told him he had changed and not for the better and that she was welcome to the not so nice man that i once knew.
To be honest he looks awful, she apparently has to go everywhere with him, even his usual card nights with the lads and follows him to the discos he DJ`s on the weekends. This to me is very strange behaviour for a woman of 53, perhaps she doesnt trust him LOL
I have spent the last few weeks changing the bills etc over to my name with the final accounts on the old ones being sent to him as they were in his name. Sometime the freeserve anytime will be ending so as finances will be very tight i am going over to pay as you go, so will not be around so often but will call here at least once a week, dont know when that will be though.
All in all now i have had time to sit down and look at the whole situation in a calm and collected manner, see what exactly he has been up to in the past 4 months, all the lies and deceit not just to me but many of the friends he has used and lied to i can honestly put my hand on my heart and say that even if he got down and begged there is no way i would ever take him back. Yes if i am honest i love the guy, those feeling of 15 years donot disappear overnight, but i can honestly say that i dont like what he has become, the way he has and is acting at the moment is a side i have never seen and would never have believed six months ago even existed. He is not the man i married and certainely not the man i enjoyed the 3 week (3rd) holiday of a lifetime in florida in NOV 2002 to celebrate his 50th and our 10th W Anniversary.
I thank you all for your tremendous support over these very difficult past weeks, and if it wasnt for the massive support i have received from my family,friends and work colleagues i wouldnt be in the very top form i am feeling right now.
THANK YOU ALL. ALISON
It is now been nearly six weeks since the "event" and boy how things have changed and moved on.
I am seeing my lawyer tomorrow as "he" (cant bring myself to call him DH anymore doesnt deserve it!) has agreed to a written agreement regarding the house situation, hopefully have managed to secure staying here for at least a year.
He has still been collectiing a few possession each day until last week when he came home from sea again and i told him in no uncertain terms that he has to get it out quicker, i have even taken great delight in chucking his stuff into binbags and i mean chucking.....apparently his new girlfriend is already moaning about the amount he has moved in, he still has at least a quarter more to go, the clutter in her small house and the untidiness etc. HA HA. van arriving on Saturday.
I also found out that he took her to Amsterdam last November using the cover of taking his sister for a break, boy has that backfired bigtime his sister is on the warpath big time.
His attitude is getting worse by the day, very short tempered, arrogant one minute nice as pie the next. Didnt like it when i told him he had changed and not for the better and that she was welcome to the not so nice man that i once knew.
To be honest he looks awful, she apparently has to go everywhere with him, even his usual card nights with the lads and follows him to the discos he DJ`s on the weekends. This to me is very strange behaviour for a woman of 53, perhaps she doesnt trust him LOL
I have spent the last few weeks changing the bills etc over to my name with the final accounts on the old ones being sent to him as they were in his name. Sometime the freeserve anytime will be ending so as finances will be very tight i am going over to pay as you go, so will not be around so often but will call here at least once a week, dont know when that will be though.
All in all now i have had time to sit down and look at the whole situation in a calm and collected manner, see what exactly he has been up to in the past 4 months, all the lies and deceit not just to me but many of the friends he has used and lied to i can honestly put my hand on my heart and say that even if he got down and begged there is no way i would ever take him back. Yes if i am honest i love the guy, those feeling of 15 years donot disappear overnight, but i can honestly say that i dont like what he has become, the way he has and is acting at the moment is a side i have never seen and would never have believed six months ago even existed. He is not the man i married and certainely not the man i enjoyed the 3 week (3rd) holiday of a lifetime in florida in NOV 2002 to celebrate his 50th and our 10th W Anniversary.
I thank you all for your tremendous support over these very difficult past weeks, and if it wasnt for the massive support i have received from my family,friends and work colleagues i wouldnt be in the very top form i am feeling right now.
THANK YOU ALL. ALISON
