Thank you so much to the two posters that bashed the book Pledged You made me feel like an idiot that doesn't take into account that the author can slant some things. So, to you who think that I can't read a book and realize where it is coming from let me assure you that I have some intelligence.
I completely understood that the author was undercover in universities that are much bigger than the one my daughter goes to and I also understood that each chapter at each college are different, just like in life. I felt that the author made those observations perfectly clear and I didn't come away with a negative attitude. But after reading the comments that you made I wonder if you really actually read the book or if you just went by what someone told you.
I had no idea what some things were like a "big sister" and "candle passing ceremony" and there were other things that my daughter told me about and this book really helped me. I was just offering from one parent to another a chance to read the book and then talk to his/her daughter about what they had read in the book. And...I am letting the parent make the decision. Sure there were negative things in the book and I know that I have heard about some of them before reading the book.
So, to the parent that asked about sorority......Talk to your daughter, Talk to her university administration, do research (internet or read a book) and then you can make your own judgment. My daughter is at a small university that has an enrollment of 3700 and there are only 2 sororities and 2 fraternities. My daughter got bids (another usuage of words that I had never heard of) to both sororities and she had her choice. They do not have houses. So when I read the book, I took from it an education in the greek system with an open mind, which by the way was encouraged when I went to college.
For my daughter her "sisters" are very important and she enjoys it. It was the right fit for her. They have to maintain a 2.5 GPA and they actually do community service (you know where they actually go and do something).
Sincerely,
The Theta Phi Alpha Parent of the Year 2007
yes, my husband and I are their chapters recipiants.
I completely understood that the author was undercover in universities that are much bigger than the one my daughter goes to and I also understood that each chapter at each college are different, just like in life. I felt that the author made those observations perfectly clear and I didn't come away with a negative attitude. But after reading the comments that you made I wonder if you really actually read the book or if you just went by what someone told you.
I had no idea what some things were like a "big sister" and "candle passing ceremony" and there were other things that my daughter told me about and this book really helped me. I was just offering from one parent to another a chance to read the book and then talk to his/her daughter about what they had read in the book. And...I am letting the parent make the decision. Sure there were negative things in the book and I know that I have heard about some of them before reading the book.
So, to the parent that asked about sorority......Talk to your daughter, Talk to her university administration, do research (internet or read a book) and then you can make your own judgment. My daughter is at a small university that has an enrollment of 3700 and there are only 2 sororities and 2 fraternities. My daughter got bids (another usuage of words that I had never heard of) to both sororities and she had her choice. They do not have houses. So when I read the book, I took from it an education in the greek system with an open mind, which by the way was encouraged when I went to college.
For my daughter her "sisters" are very important and she enjoys it. It was the right fit for her. They have to maintain a 2.5 GPA and they actually do community service (you know where they actually go and do something).
Sincerely,
The Theta Phi Alpha Parent of the Year 2007
yes, my husband and I are their chapters recipiants.
Well dd accepted her bid. Now they are demanding that dues be paid by 30 Aug (they told her this on 27 Aug). She had a mandatory something to attend last night and she asked to leave early cause she had a ton of reading/homework (and some laundry) to do. They told her no. Turns out she HAD to go to a volleyball game and cheer....
School of course needs to come first - my chapter definitely understood that. We only had one mandatory event a week - chapter meetings - and I had to miss that frequently for rehearsals, and it was never an issue.
