Somewhat Morbid I Suppose But...

[Virgo10]

I'm trying to be practical. As most of you know, I'm having gallbladder surgery on Friday. I'm not as young as I use to be and I had a cardiac "event" after my last surgery 6 years ago. That was to remove my thyroid and while said event turned out NOT to be a heart attack, something certainly caught the doctors attention. When I came to I had a cardiologist sitting next to my bed. I don't know what happened but the current surgeon I have does as she has the records from that other operation.

So I just tried to talk to the husband about what I want if anything goes wrong. While he heard me, I don't know if he Heard me. KWIM? I'm going to write it all down and leave messages to my kids. I'm going to fill out the copy of the Living Will that I brought home from the hospital the other day. I want to make it as easy as possible should something go wrong.

Other than my concerns for the people in my family, my biggest hope is that people will step forward and adopt the cats that have graced my family. I can't bear the thought that anything would happen to them.

I don't mean to be depressing but this is something that really must be thought about any time you are operated on. While I don't have a Will (I know, bad girl!) the house is in both our names. Right now that's about the only asset I have.

What would you feel are the most important things you could do if your family suddenly had to face life without you?

 

[lovemygoofy]

I hope you have an easy no problem surgery on Friday. As for your cardia 'event,' do you have some kind of bad effect from the anestsia(sp)? That can cause severe problems.

As for your questions, my husband wouldn't listen to me when we had to discuss all this so I sat down and wrote out in great detail evreything that should happen to help my family should something happen to me. I had the letter notarized and a copy is my fire proof safe and a copy is on file with all the legal papers the military holds. I think it's only natural to want to protect your family.

 

[mickeyfan2]

Make sure they knew were all the important papers were and where all the money/investments were kept.

 

[Serena]

I don't know, but I"m sure everything will be fine. But I'd do the same thing, just to make myself feel like I did all I could.
Last new years eve I choked on lunch and when I went to get checked out, they thought I was having a heart attack. I ended up spending new years in the hospital. It scared me. It also helped me realize that you don't ever know that there will be a tomorrow.
Make sure you tell the people you care about that you care about them. Don't wait for tomorrow to do something if you can do it today. All that smell the roses stuff.

 

[Miss Jasmine]

Well one of the things I did before my gallbladder surgery was to fill out a living will and designation of healthcare surrogate. I know DH knows my wishes but I wanted it down on paper. I didn't have a regular will though. That is something we both still need to do. They had the forms at the hospital and I picked them up on my pre-op visit (when they took blood and all that good stuff).

I agree with other about making a list of all bank accounts, credit card accounts, insurance info (house, cars, life), the location of important papers (marriage certificate, etc.) and bills (liabilities). Those are probably the most important things.

 

[Hedy]

I would take care of the obvious: my debt, savings. I'd also (and I really need to look into doing this) want the cats to be taken care of, so I need to look into ways to do that.
Also, I'd propbably leave a letter or something to make sure my brothers took care of my mother.