Sometimes when you think that God just isn't there for you....

[C.Ann]

Originally posted by MeanLaureen

People, why can't we all just hit the back button and keep our mouths and fingers shut when someone is celebrating something you don't agree on? Why must you feel compelled to rain on someone's parade? Especially when the op said it was not a religious debate. Do you get some weird satisfaction from it? It really is sad. You know, people may not think they are being hurtful but sometimes the most hurtful things do not contain swear words or threats.

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I was wondering the same thing...

 

[mus muris asinus]

What a really cute story!!

 

[Stepharoonie!]

Originally posted by Melora
Wonderful story..and I'm not religious at all but I do believe that when you ask for something, the powers that be will often give you what you soul needs to get you through tough times...

Does your daughter live with you and is visiting you ex or does she live with him.. sorry to ask but I don't know the background....

It's fine to ask this

Right now, we're still going through the custody battle for Madison. My ex is refusing to really "share" her with me...he's asked for full custody; I've asked for full custody. The way he's played his game is he has her Sunday afternoon to Thursday afternoons, and I'm "allowed" to have her from Thursday afternoon to Sunday morning. On Sundays, she spends the morning/early afternoon with her great grandmother (on his side); Monday she goes to daycare then her grandmother's house...he picks her up at 8:30; Tuesdays she goes to daycare then her second cousin's house...he picks her up at 8:30; Wednesdays she goes to daycare then her grandmother's house...he picks her up at 8:30; Thursdays she SOMETIMES goes to daycare, sometimes stays with him until I get her. I want her to live with me full time, but he isn't allowing it. My lawyer is really, really angry that a father would do this to their child.

What's sad is he's not at work until 8:30; he's usually spending this extra time with the new gf. I think she's already moved in with him, because she is *always* there, and *always* answers both his house and cell phone. Maddy has so many people over there deaing with her, I fear she doesn't know what's up or down anymore. When she's with me, *I* spend 100% of my times with her, and my bf is very involved with her life, too. How many 31 year old men do you know would sit on the floor and play My Little Pony with a 3 year old...and he's never dealt with a child before.

My lawyer is working hard to get Maddy to me, because my ex is showing too many signs of trying to "taint" her. He's also told one of my bosses in another store that he's thinking of moving to Chicago. I can't legally just take her and keep him from her, but I do make it known that she is the #1 most important person in my life.

I pray everyday that everything will turn out the way that I want it. I know this is all in God's hands. I just hope that my little girl doesn't get hurt in all of this. She doesn't understand that her daddy is using her against me. At least she knows that her mommy and Paul (my bf) love her very, very much and will always be there for her

Court proceedings on this will begin very soon...so when something final happens, I'll let you know.

 

[beattyfamily]

Originally posted by robinb
So ... um ... god told your DD your phone number?

Is this really necessary? What do you gain from this?

 

[Big V]

I hope everything works out for you and little Maddy Steph. I'll keep you in my prayers!
Scott

 

[CRB#33]

"Holy Nudges" I LOVE THAT!!!!

"Why can't people hit the back button?" I think that's obvious to believers. A hard lesson I've learned from not hitting the back button.

Stephanie...I pray that this works out quickly for you. A child that age should be with her mom. Or at the very least, away from a selfish, manipulative parent. This gf sounds like a big problem. Maybe that's the mistake that will get your daughter home with you. I'm praying for you.

 

[goodstarr]

The enemy loves to get under our skin. Take away his power-ignore negative posts and stand on The Word.

 

[Stepharoonie!]

 

[christineann]

You and your family are in our thoughts and prayers. Hang in there!

 

[chell]

Wow Steph, thanks for sharing this with us. It was lovely reading your post. I'll continue to keep you and Maddy in my prayers. Hope all this is resolved quickly and in your favor.

 

[nativetxn]

{{{HUGS}}}

 

[HauntedMansionGeek]

Whether it was an accident that she was able to dial the number or whether it was something worked by God's very hand.....if it gave YOU comfort then that's what matters.

Don't question the reason or how things happen, just accept the good that comes from them. I'm glad you found comfort in her phone call.

 

[pw2pp]

That is a great story

Stepharoonie:
Why is HE calling the shots? How did he get custody in the first place?

 

[Kitty 34]

{{{{HUGS}}}} to you, Steph. Hope all works out for you.

 

[PRINCESS VIJA]

Oh, that is an amazing story. Yes, I believe God was with you and most of all Madison. To let her know that Mommy loves her very much, and she was able to get to the phone and call you undetected initially, as obviously they try to keep a tight reign on her. Keep the faith and I will add you to my prayers!

 

[Lanshark]

People, why can't we all just hit the back button and keep our mouths and fingers shut when someone is celebrating something you don't agree on? Why must you feel compelled to rain on someone's parade? Especially when the op said it was not a religious debate. Do you get some weird satisfaction from it? It really is sad. You know, people may not think they are being hurtful but sometimes the most hurtful things do not contain swear words or threats.

I've wondered this also. All I can think of is mean spiritness.

I am very happy for the blessing you received when you needed it most.

 

[joshsmom]

I've posted many times about the things that have happened to me "in my darkest hours" with my son. God is here, He is listening, and He cares about all of us. What a wonderful call that must have been for you!!!

 

[Pete's Mom]

I taught Pete our phone number from very early on. Also, I had put in my divorce agreement that while Pete was either at my house or his dad's house we could call Pete or he could call either of us anytime before 8:00 pm. When he is at his Dad's every other weekend, he justs picks up the phone and dials my number. I talk to him sometimes 4 times a day when he is over there! His dad never tries to stop him and anytime Pete wants to call his dad, I let him.

It's a shame that you are having to go through this. I wish you the best of luck and will say a little prayer for you and your daughter!

 

[Stepharoonie!]

Originally posted by pw2pp
That is a great story

Stepharoonie:
Why is HE calling the shots? How did he get custody in the first place?

HE'S calling the shots because I'm scared to death of him. I'm worried that if I don't play his little game, he'll take my daughter and run.

I stupidly made a decision that when I left, Maddy was better to stay with him until I got set up in an apartment and a job (when I left him, I had literally $300 to my name, no credit cards, no bank account). I worked for him for 3 years and he never paid me a dime. I made the $300 from eBay selling my personal items. We discussed Maddy staying with him for a week or so until I could get a home since I knew that she had food, a roof over her head, etc. He ended up using that against me, saying that I abandonded her...when in reality, I didn't. I've been fighting him ever since to get her for longer periods of time. I would just keep her with me until the court decided who gets full custody, but I've been warned that I could be arrested for "kidnapping" her.

It's a horrible situation. I'm sick to my stomach almost every day from this. Maddy is ALWAYS on my mind, and I get so sick of my ex playing games with me. I have a wonderful lawyer, and as we speak, he's working on getting temporary custody for me until all of this is settled.

An example of my ex's little games would be from today. On Tuesday, I asked if I could have Maddy on Wednesday this week for extra time. He said no, he wanted to spend Thursday morning/afternoon with her since he missed her all last week. So, this morning, I call to see how she is and what time we're going to meet so I could get her...he dropped her off at daycare early this morning so he could spend his day off with his girlfriend! I was HIGHLY pissed! He's doing all that he can to keep Maddy from me. Maddy doesn't understand any of this. My time with her is spent 100% with her. I think he averages about 8 hours with her when he has her. She goes to daycare Monday-Thursday and he NEVER picks her up from there...it's either his mom or his cousins. He won't pick Maddy up until 9 at night those days, then she goes to bed fairly quickly after she gets home. He's not working all of those hours, either. I have many, many witnesses that have him out with friends or his gf instead of having Maddy.

No child deserves to live in a life like that...being shuffled off to everyone but her parent.

As I said before, I know all of this is in God's hands, but I wish that it wasn't so difficult for Maddy.

 

[Stepharoonie!]

Originally posted by Pete's Mom
I taught Pete our phone number from very early on. Also, I had put in my divorce agreement that while Pete was either at my house or his dad's house we could call Pete or he could call either of us anytime before 8:00 pm. When he is at his Dad's every other weekend, he justs picks up the phone and dials my number. I talk to him sometimes 4 times a day when he is over there! His dad never tries to stop him and anytime Pete wants to call his dad, I let him.

It's a shame that you are having to go through this. I wish you the best of luck and will say a little prayer for you and your daughter!

Maddy hasn't figured out how to dial phone numbers yet, and since I live in Orlando, she'd have to dial a 11 digit number to get me. My ex claims that anytime Maddy wants to talk to me, he calls...but I've only received 1 phone call from him in the past month saying she wanted to talk. I know that anytime she wants to, he and his gf distract her. His gf was trying to tell Maddy how to hang up the phone when I was talking to her the other night...all the while Maddy was saying, "I'm not done talking to MY MOMMY!"

It breaks my heart to see her go through all of this. I pray that she'll be with me and not him.