Sometimes I get so frustrated

[6_Time_Momma]

I definitely don't feel like "Super-mom" today. Sometimes I get so frustrated with Garrett and then I feel like a horrible mom. It is so hard for him sometimes when he tries to communicate something to me and I can't figure out what he wants. He will yell out and throw something on the floor or stomp his feet.

Last week I had to go to his school and pick him up as the bus refused to bring him home as he was screaming and throwing a temper tantrum because he was not allowed to sit next to a certain boy. He also got in trouble as he threw a kids shoes out the window.

He seems to do this when a sub is driving the bus. He does not like it when his routine is changed.

Discipline is hard as half the time, he doesn't understand/remember what he is being punished for. *sigh*

Anyway, sorry for the downer post, but feeling pretty down and un-super this am, and I needed to vent.

 

[Pop Daddy]

I cant even imagine how hard this is, hang in there your doing good

 

[poohbears5]

Hang in there your a good mom .

 

[Pam]

I agree - sounds like you're doing a great job. Now go take a couple of minutes for yourself, put your feet up and enjoy a nice cup of tea!

 

[jx3smom]

From everything I've read you are one terrific mom and you can have a day like this. Take it easy and do something for yourself. I honestly don't know how you do it!

 

[Toby'sFriend]

Being a super Mom is impossible. I wish that term had never been invented.

 

[ahutton]

Something I try to remind myself every now and again... If I truly was a terrible Mom, I wouldn't feel guilty for feeling like one. That is how I know I've got my feet on the ground. And I can't tell you how much I admire your strength and courage! You actually are a Supermom!

 

[debster812]

Originally posted by ahutton
Something I try to remind myself every now and again... If I truly was a terrible Mom, I wouldn't feel guilty for feeling like one. That is how I know I've got my feet on the ground. And I can't tell you how much I admire your strength and courage! You actually are a Supermom!

I don't think truer words have ever been spoken!!!!!!!!

6_Time--I think you are pretty darn amazing and super.

 

[nativetxn]

Kristy, I've seen you in action as a mom and I've got to tell you that I think you do a terrific job with all of your kids. They are great kids.

{{{HUGS}}} I hope today gets easier and better for Garrett and for you.

 

[BWVDenise]

That has to be very frustrating. When my dd was younger, she wouldn't even get on the bus if there was a substitute driver! I had to drive her to school instead of the bus. Best wishes to Garrett and to you, Kristy!

 

[KathyFP]

Imagine his life without you! Your frustration means that you are a compassionate caring mom.

Pat yourself on the back, take a bubble bath, nurturing yourself!

 

[janette]

I'm sure you've seen this Kristy but I thought you might need it today. It's always been one of my favorites from Erma Bombeck . I'd nominate you for super-mom anytime


Most women become mothers by accident, some by choice, a few by social pressures and a couple by habit. This year nearly 100,000 women will become mothers of handicapped children. Did you ever wonder how these mothers are chosen?)

Somehow I visualize God hovering over earth selecting his instruments for propagation with great care and deliberation. As He observes, He instructs His angels to take notes in a giant ledger. "Armstrong, Beth-Son-Patron Saint, Matthew." "Rutledge, Carrie,-twins-Patron Saint...Give her Gerard, he's used to profanity."

Finally, he passes a name to an angel and smiles. " Give her a handicapped child."

The angel is curious. "Why this one God? She is so happy."

"Exactly, could I give a handicapped child a mother who doesn't know laughter? That would be cruel."

"But does she have patience?" asked the angel.

" I don't want her to have too much patience, or she will drown in a sea of self pity and despair. Once the shock and resentment wear off, she will handle it. I watched her today. She has that sense of self, and independence so rare and so necessary in a mother.

You see, the child I'm going to give her has his own world. She has to make him live in her world, and that's not oing to be easy."

"But Lord, I don't think she even believes in you!"

God smiles. "No matter, I can fix that. This one is perfect, she has just enough selfishness."

The angel gasps. "Selfishness, is that a virtue?"

God nods. "If she can't separate herself from the child occaisionally, she'll never survive. Yes, here is a woman whom I will bless with a child less than perfect.

She doesn't realize it yet, but she is to be envied. She will never take for granted a spoken word. She will never consider a step ordinary. When her child says "Momma" for the first time she will be witness to a miracle and know it. When she describes a tree or a sunset to her blind child, she will see it as few people ever see my creations. I will permit her to see clearly the things I see--ignorance, cruelty, predjudice-- and allow her to rise above them. She will never be alone. I will be at her side every minute of every day of her life because she is doing My work as surely as she is here by My side."

"And what of her Patron Saint?" asked the angel, his pen poised in midair.

God smiles. " A Mirror will suffice."

 

[WebmasterMaryJo]

Janette - that's really beautiful.


Hugs, 6_Time, and I hope your rough day will soon turn to smiles.

 

[Pembo]

Hugs Kristy! You're not alone in the "horrible mom" department, I've spent some time there myself this week. In fact I was just there about 30 mins ago. I just try to remember that tomorrow is another day...........Now if only bed time would come sooner.....

 

[skuttle]

After having all of those kids, one on the way, and everyone seems happy and healthy, and you haven't lost your mind yet...I think you're a GREAT mom! I'm sure it is often hard w/ Garrett, but it sounds like you understand him very well and are doing the best you can.

My DS is only 4 months old, but I've quickly come to realize that just because I get frustrated with him sometimes doesn't mean I'm a bad mom. Of course, DH has to remind me of that sometimes. But that's what he's there for, right?

{{hugs}}

 

[CRB#33]

The only thing wrong with frustration is it get you down.

Take care, you're a good mom. You love and you care so much. Parenting is so hard, but you're doing great.

 

[Planogirl]

I agree that you're a great Mom and I'm sure that you're handling these little disruptions just fine. But I can see why it's frustrating to always be "on" and to always know just what to do. Believe it or not, this will only cause you to smile many years from now.

 

[mom2boys]

6XMomma-I have been reading your posts for 3 or 4 years. You are an inspiration. We all have our challanges in this world - you seem to have more than most of us but still you feel blessed. Your love for Garrett and the rest of your family is clear. I still remember the post where you were worrying over Garrett's first play date. You are teaching him to cope with this world the best he can. Your posts make it clear that you are a strong woman.

 

[jmarie]

Janette-I got tears in my eyes when I read that; God, Erma Bombeck was a great writer...

Kristy---There are good days and bad...I have 2 boys and feel guilty if I get upset over failed tests, or that no one EVER seems to listen...

Tomorrow is another day, as Scarlet said...be good to yourself and keep a sense of humor...

Those mothers who act as if their lives and their children are perfect are so very annoying...

 

[Val]

Kristy- hang in there. Could it be that your DS is a little upset/worried about a new sibling (that doesn't excuse the behavior, but might help explain it)? He may be feeling the tension (happy as it is) and not have the vocabulary to express his feelings. He may also be worried/feeling pressure from school (WE all have bad days at work)- haven't you ever felt like throwing your coworker ('s shoes) out the window? The wonderful thing about your DS- he CAN still do it! He may need a little TLC after a hard week, even though you are ready to ring his little neck!

My grandmother always says God never gives you more than you can handle- personally, I think God overestimates my abilities by about 100%....but I guess I will keep the faith. Hope you can, too.

Remember- you are an inspiration (okay, a tired, frustrated and very prego inspiration). That does not mean you have to be perfect, be tireless or always strong. Do remember to look in on Garrett when he is sleeping tonight. Look at his cherub little face, the innocence he exudes, the peacefulness he represents (just don't think about the fact he is storing up energy for tomorrow!). I find that looking at them when they are peacefully sleeping reminds me of why I had my four!

Oh- remember to write these stories down. When he is a little older, has moved out of the house (yes, even given all his challenges he will move out of the house, he will get a girlfriend and he will be gainfully employed- have faith). Remind him of how awful he was. If nothing else, you can get him back with a little embarrassment!

Hang in there!!!! Here are some prayers for patience and guidance, some pixie dust for a better week next week, and a suggestion that a warm bath for you might be in order (if you still can get out of the tub).