Someone was very mean to my little boy......

[jenm2878]

poked[/I] the bag with his foot. The question is why a grown man thought it was okay to rip a toddler a new one!
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Before I get yelled at for what I'm about to say, let me state that I think the man was a nut job and shouldn't of yelled at the little boy. That being said, why is it OKAY for an ADULT to then exact revenge on another ADULT for the situation? (again, not condoning the screamer's actions) How is egging someone's house any better then the original offense? I guess I just have an issue with adults getting mad at other adults for being immature/mean, and then them doing it right back. (Nah-Nah - he started it! )

 

[aprilgail2]

I was kind of thinking along the same lines, also what would posses a child to kick something with fire in it? I'm kind of lost...

I'm sorry about the mean man yelling - I know that's traumatic for kids, but what would have been more traumatic, foot and/or body on fire or mean man yelling?

Oh my god...the kid is 3 years old for petes sake!!! I suppose all of you have 3 year olds that would not do something like that...all your kids at 3 years old were bloody angels?? He was probably curious and just tapped it with his foot to see what it was!!!
The OP is a better person than me though...I would have ripped him a new one right then and there and then on my way out kicked every bag of fire like a football!!! NO ONE is talking to my child like that and getting away with it...regardless of what they did ..if it was something terrible then my child will have to deal with me , not some lunatic!

 

[tiggersmom2]

How is egging someone's house any better then the original offense?

Who egged anyone's house?

 

[jenm2878]

Who egged anyone's house?

I didn't say you did, but many were suggesting you to. My question was directed at those who suggested it.

 

[dis ms.]

...why is it OKAY for an ADULT to then exact revenge on another ADULT for the situation? (again, not condoning the screamer's actions) How is egging someone's house any better then the original offense? I guess I just have an issue with adults getting mad at other adults for being immature/mean, and then them doing it right back. (Nah-Nah - he started it! )

Um, I'm not sure why you quoted me. Not once did I say anything remotely condoning revenge on the jerk. I simply said I wouldn't have been able to walk away without letting him know what I thought of him!

I can, however, understand the impulse to get back at the guy. But, nope, I never said anything about eggs, TP, birdseed, or the like.

 

[jenm2878]

Um, I'm not sure why you quoted me. Not once did I say anything remotely condoning revenge on the jerk. I simply said I wouldn't have been able to walk away without letting him know what I thought of him!

I can, however, understand the impulse to get back at the guy. But, nope, I never said anything about eggs, TP, birdseed, or the like.

Ack! I knew I shouldn't have gotten involved. I quoted you because your post provoked the thought process I had, I meant no offense, and wasn't pointing any fingers. (You asked why a Grown up would think it was okay to yell at a kid. I was thinking, why is it okay for a Grown up to exact revenge.) Sorry, it was more my thought process then anything else.

 

[tiggersmom2]

[ How is egging someone's house any better then the original offense?

I would like to say that toilet papering the man's house caused him no harm, and only a bit of "clean up". The rain will take care of the left over toilet paper. Yes, my hubby DID TP his house and put birdseed in his lawn (the birds are thrilled!) and we are not sorry.

The original offense...of the man screaming obscenities and "bowing up" at my child ....has quite possibly scarred him for awhile. He didn't even want to walk around the block today (with me pushing him in the stroller) b/c he was scared the "mean man" would get him. I assured him that no one would be mean to him...but he would NOT get in the stroller.

So no the 2 incidents are not comparable and I am offended that anyone would think so.

This will be my last post here. I am not going to defend my 3 year old or my parenting techniques. The only reason I posted in the first place was b/c I was so distraught that my child's whole night had been ruined (no, I am not exaggerating).

Thanks for the support guys.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Since the man liked his little filled paper bags, what I would have done was the old "put dog poop in a bag, put it on someone's doorstep, and light it on fire" trick. Let him stomp that fire out!

OK, I really wouldn't have done that, but it is fun thinking about it!

The worst I've done is to fling dog poop at our neighbors house when his dog has pooped in our yard.

 

[OceanAnnie]

I'm floored, TM2! Just floored. I can't imagine someone reacting that way to a child.

You handled it very well. Very well.

 

[dis ms.]

Ack! I knew I shouldn't have gotten involved. I quoted you because your post provoked the thought process I had, I meant no offense, and wasn't pointing any fingers. (You asked why a Grown up would think it was okay to yell at a kid. I was thinking, why is it okay for a Grown up to exact revenge.) Sorry, it was more my thought process then anything else.

No harm done. I just couldn't figure out why you quoted me. As far as the people suggesting revenge, some of them may be being facetious. For those that are seriously suggesting revenge...well, this is an emotional issue for a parent. I can see wanting to hurt the person who hurt your child. I'm not saying it's right, just saying I can understand the impulse.

I am not going to defend my 3 year old or my parenting techniques.

And you shouldn't have to! I'm so sorry your little boy had to go through that ordeal.

 

[jenm2878]

I've had my car egged twice for the simple offense of being the first car parked on the street. First time we caught it within minutes with no harm done. Second time it took paint off my car. That's why I got a little edgy when eggs were mentioned. I'm sorry to the OP that her son had to experience this. Hopefully he'll forget about it soon. Okay, am slooowly backing away from this thread now.