Some Venting...

[AshleyLovesDisney]

So I need to do some venting and I know you guys will understand.

Here's the situation as best as I can explain it (perhaps a little vague, you never know who reads these things, lol):

Earlier this year, husband found a conference for him to go to at WDW in October and I was so excited to do a fall trip! We got a great discount on a room at BWI, where it's being held. I was pumped! We booked the room and bought tickets. I started thinking about ADRs.

Well, a bunch of people he works with decided they wanted to come too. I said I would take care of ADRs (they thought you could walk up anywhere) but I couldn't get a firm head count. Finally, we got a final number of people, I booked some hard to get ADRs after checking everyday for weeks (including BOG dinner, Akershus and Le Cellier).

Fast forward to now. One group wants us to now rent a house offsite (Without getting into it, I'm an on-site person.) And another person said that even MORE people are going to come too "for a couple days." Plus, I can't book any FPs, because we're the only ones with tickets so far.

I don't want to upset anyone, but I don't fool around with my Disney trips.....This is not working for me!

 

[kitkat4622]

I don't want to upset anyone, but I don't fool around with my Disney trips.....This is not working for me![/QUOTE]

I think this says it all. I would NOT change any of your plans. You are a better person than me I personally would have booked ADR's for myself and my husband and let the others take care of themselves especially the "ad ons" obviously they have no clue what goes in to booking a WDW trip ...good luck and I hope you stick with your original reservation at BWI and NOT fall into the "lets rent a house" trap...I like vacationing with people, I don't like being with them 24/7...as far as FP's book your's don't lose out because others have not bought park tickets...

 

[fractal]

Warning - good chance if you yield to the "group" you'll be doubting yourself the entire time.

 

[scrapquitler]

So I need to do some venting and I know you guys will understand.

Here's the situation as best as I can explain it (perhaps a little vague, you never know who reads these things, lol):

Earlier this year, husband found a conference for him to go to at WDW in October and I was so excited to do a fall trip! We got a great discount on a room at BWI, where it's being held. I was pumped! We booked the room and bought tickets. I started thinking about ADRs.

Well, a bunch of people he works with decided they wanted to come too. I said I would take care of ADRs (they thought you could walk up anywhere) but I couldn't get a firm head count. Finally, we got a final number of people, I booked some hard to get ADRs after checking everyday for weeks (including BOG dinner, Akershus and Le Cellier).

Fast forward to now. One group wants us to now rent a house offsite (Without getting into it, I'm an on-site person.) And another person said that even MORE people are going to come too "for a couple days." Plus, I can't book any FPs, because we're the only ones with tickets so far.

I don't want to upset anyone, but I don't fool around with my Disney trips.....This is not working for me!

I don't see a problem. You stay at BWI, they can stay wherever they want. Eat with the ones who have already committed to reservations, the rest can figure it out for themselves. Book FP for your family. Tell them how to book for themselves, and then let them deal with it.

If you do the above, you won't be missing out.

And personally, I wouldn't want to hang around with my husband's co-workers on our vacation, but that's just me. When we went last time for DH work conference, we did our thing, everyone else did their own thing. DH and his co-workers did a few things together one night (drinking around the world), and a couple of the other nights they did the conference dinners, and all the spouses and kids did their own things. It is much less stressful that way.

 

[loves to dive]

I agree with others, stay at BWI and book your FPs. You aren't responsible for the group and I wouldn't think your husband would want to spend the whole time with co-workers.

 

[AshleyLovesDisney]

Thanks everyone!

I think DH has squashed the idea of us cancelling BWI. Thank goodness.

I should say, his co-workers are also friends of ours, so we do want to spend time with them, but like I said....Disney is not something I take lightly.

So I think I'm going to stick to my guns about the ADRs and just book out FPs. Y'all are right.

 

[Jadyreen1282]

Tell the group to go plan their own stuff. You and hubby have an awesome e trip.

 

[Klayfish]

....Disney is not something I take lightly.

Sorry, but that's not a good thing, at least in my opinion. If you're taking it that seriously, are you still going to have a good time if something doesn't go the way you envision it? Disney is a big deal to me too, but I always take it lightly. It's my "happy get away" place and I'm happy just being there, no matter what. You sound like you're stressing out a ton and haven't even stepped foot on property. My advice is to just relax. If the trip isn't the way you want it or in your total control, so what? It's still WDW and you should have fun.

And staying off-site isn't the end of the world anyway. Everyone has strong opinions on it (I'm very strongly on the side of of-site, I'd wouldn't want to stay on), but regardless, as I said, it's still WDW.

 

[jrt1176]

You should just let everyone do their own thing, so you and your family can do their own!

We have always done WDW without extended family. It's kind of our thing and we do it how we want to, etc.

 

[Julylady]

Just to re-confirm, your husband is going down for work, right? For those conference days, I would let him work and you just go to the parks alone. I travel for work a lot (including to WDW). When our company is paying for the trip even the evenings are spent discussing work and team building. Spouses are tolerated, but not encouraged. One of my favorite work trips was when we decided to rent a house together instead of staying at the conference hotel.

To be honest, I don't like work conferences at Disney. It's too distracting and Disney is my vacation place!

 

[PennyInPink]

You are right....don't take Disney lightly. With ADR's, FP+, and individual touring plans, this is serious business! Do you own remarkable, well informed and planned day, and let them eat their hearts out!

 

[danc18]

I'm in the bucket that says make your own plans and accept that the group has gotten too large and complex to manage to everyone's satisfaction. You shouldn't have to endure stress for what should be fun .... Even the planning aspect.

 

[lynzi2004]

Definitely keep your original hotel reservations. No one wants to get involved in the hodge-podge trap of getting people to agree on a house (location and expense.) I would also keep the few hard to get ADRs that you have planned. Anyone who wants to join is welcome to. i would also book my FP when the time comes. Very likely, some of them will be able to overlap with others, but obviously not all. I would also agree to eat a couple of meals with the group just to keep the peace. But I would plan the majority of my vacation and let the rest figure it out!

 

[BigAlsGal]

Tell the group to go plan their own stuff. You and hubby have an awesome e trip.

This!

 

[momimouse27]

You are just like me! Don't fool around with those Disney trips. Many times, people don't understand or even believe how much planning and prep is involved(oh, its just a theme park, how difficult could it be??) I say just enjoy it for you and if they don't like what you've planned...oh, well.