Some advice for a mom...

[Lynn CC]

I was crying when I started the thread, and now I'm crying thinking that someday they are going to move to Japan, thanks

I just think every school year it occurs to me - why is it going by so fast and how do I make it stop?

My DD turned 8 in April and I thought, 1 more year and we'll be half way to her adulthood

Sorry for that, we all hope that they stay close. My siblings children all stayed close to home and they see each other on a weekly basis. (I hope the same for you and your children, afterall being with the ones we love is what life is all about). We will spend our vacations in Japan from now on Disney Tokyo!

Also, I just started reading Eckhart Tolle's book A New Earth...The Power of NOW, so maybe that will help me, who knows. On the outside I go on with my day as if nothing is wrong but on the inside it's a different story...I miss my "king". My husband is feeling the same way, and it's nice to know that we can talk to one another about it. We think everyone else would think we were nuts since we have an empty nest.

 

[TIAMOMMA]

My DH and your DH would get along great....he thinks you can just keep having babies so you never really have to totally say goodbye, he should have married Michelle Duggar

LOL, my DH already has problems with the kids not wanting his total undivided attention like they used to. I told him the day would come someday. My kids are lucky to have a dad that adores them the way he does...

 

[KAMKIM]

My DH and your DH would get along great....he thinks you can just keep having babies so you never really have to totally say goodbye, he should have married Michelle Duggar

LOL, my DH already has problems with the kids not wanting his total undivided attention like they used to. I told him the day would come someday. My kids are lucky to have a dad that adores them the way he does...

I'm grateful DH is a great dad too, my favortie story about him is 2 years ago a local radio station did a Dad/Hannah look alike contest for tickets to her concert. DH dressed up like Hannah Montana (wig, makeup, mini skirt) and stood outside of a mall in January (in Buffalo NY keep in mind) with 100 other men to try and win DD's tickets to her concert.

My 6'4 DH wearing a leopard print mini skirt, black leggings (we had to cut the feet off regular tights because they just dont make them that long) with a purple guitar swung around his back and a blonde wig on his head freezing his butt off....He didn't win the tickets but he sure won my heart that day

 

[live4christp1]

Well, my kids are still kids (7th grader & 1st grader) but I can definately agree that the time goes by way to fast. When they were small they stayed with my mom & dad (retired) during the day while we worked and let me tell you, they spoiled those grand kids. My mom would say "well about all I've done today is play and read books." But then one day she told me these words that I will forever remember......she said, "I realize now that I should have spent more time playing with you all (me, bro. & sis) instead of worrying so much about everything else."

 

[Aisling]

My youngest is a senior in high school this year, and although both of my kids live at home, I'm feeling the "empty nest" syndrome because they're not little anymore and they don't need me in the same way. I can't put my sons on my lap and cuddle them when they get hurt, I can't buy cute Halloween costumes for them anymore, no dirty faces to wipe...it makes me SO sad! But I remember what my gramma (may she rest in peace) said years ago, that yes things change, but you it's still wonderful as you get to know your children as adults. I was sad thinking about our WDW trips, not putting them on Dumbo anymore, but now I can sit and have an adult beverage with my son at Jellyrolls and watch my teen son get goofy over the teenage girls at Typhoon Lagoon. No matter what, they're still my babies, and I tell them that every day!

One of the hardest things for me is the teen stage where my son doesn't want to be hugged (at least in public), but I know that he'll grow out of it when he hits his 20s, as my 23 year old did. As I tell my kids, "It's Tough Being a Bug" = It's Tough Being a Mom.

 

[KAMKIM]

Thanks Aisling - I'll have to remember that even though one day they may not need me quite as much, we may just end up being the best of friends when they are adults.