Soccer Moms Unite!!

[PRmamiDEdos]

Anyone with a tournament this weekend? DD's first game starts at 7:30 on Saturday!!

 

[mjkacmom]

I rarely make it to tournaments - DH is ds12's travel coach, and ds7's assistant travel coach. They play rec as well, and we have at least 5 soccer games a week, and at least 6 practices.

 

[Disneycrazymom]

DD's team went to a tournament last weekend. They came in second! DH went with her and I stayed home with DS as it was Homecoming weekend for him. I wanted to see them all dressed up! Those early starts are hard. Someday we will sleep in on Saturdays at our house.

 

[momx2]

My 7th grade DD just played her last game for the season on her Junior Varsity team. They won!! It's weird in KY. as 7th and 8th grade girls play high school JV. She starts practice next Wednesday for her competitive team. They will play until the week before Thanksgiving. She will still train through the winter about 2x weekly and play a few indoor tournaments. Then Spring competitive season will begin the week of Presidents Day, brrr..... We will finish up Memorial Day weekend, unless they make it to the state finals the next weekend, first weekend of June. Then we have try-outs for the next competitive season the first week of June.

Then she (we) get a break. She is off until Fathers Day when she goes to her JV team camp for 4 days. Then off until second week of July for JV tryouts and practice begins the next week. So, she gets about 8 soccer free weeks per year...it never ends!

 

[MomofKatie]

We have a rare bye week this weekend- she was in a tournament this past weekend one state over from ours. Her team won the gold medal- 4 wins in 4 games!

 

[Chelley00]

I have 3 players, and a former player who gave it up last year to focus on basketball. DS14 is on varsity, and they've had one high school city tournament. Thursday starts sectionals. After that he'll play indoor one night a week and train 3 days a week. DD8 is done until November when she starts indoor winter training 2 days a week. DS5 just plays recreational, so he's done until spring.

 

[PRmamiDEdos]

DD's team went to a tournament last weekend. They came in second! DH went with her and I stayed home with DS as it was Homecoming weekend for him. I wanted to see them all dressed up! Those early starts are hard. Someday we will sleep in on Saturdays at our house.

I'm good with 2nd!! DD's team won 2nd place in the tournament they played in August and I could not have been happier. She tied in a game this weekend and DH said a tie was like kissing your sister so apparently, we're not as competitive as he is.

We have a rare bye week this weekend- she was in a tournament this past weekend one state over from ours. Her team won the gold medal- 4 wins in 4 games!

Nice!!!! Congrats!

 

[PRmamiDEdos]

Let me ask you soccer moms a question. DD played a game today against a very unsportsmanlike team. They were throwing elbows, shoving and pushing and if we had an injury on our team, none of the opposing team would take a knee, they would instead huddle in a corner and strategize. I personally believe this is disrespectful and would complain to our coach if he let our girls do it. This is a U11 team and when we complained to the Coach after the game, he basically gave us the oh well. We've never complained about any team before OR any ref but we will also be complaining about him as he didn't pay attention to half the game, missed about five handballs, missed the shoving, didn't call foul on an elbow to the face and didn't say anything about one girl to threw up her fist every time a girl came to challenge her.

I have NEVER seen a game played like this. It was sneaky and I felt it reflected poorly on the Coach, who didn't seem to give a flying you-know-what anyway.

What do you guys think?

 

[debster812]

Let me ask you soccer moms a question. DD played a game today against a very unsportsmanlike team. They were throwing elbows, shoving and pushing and if we had an injury on our team, none of the opposing team would take a knee, they would instead huddle in a corner and strategize. I personally believe this is disrespectful and would complain to our coach if he let our girls do it. This is a U11 team and when we complained to the Coach after the game, he basically gave us the oh well. We've never complained about any team before OR any ref but we will also be complaining about him as he didn't pay attention to half the game, missed about five handballs, missed the shoving, didn't call foul on an elbow to the face and didn't say anything about one girl to threw up her fist every time a girl came to challenge her.

I have NEVER seen a game played like this. It was sneaky and I felt it reflected poorly on the Coach, who didn't seem to give a flying you-know-what anyway.

What do you guys think?

Bolding is mine. DS is a U14, 8th grader, playing for his club team, and the HS JV. He's been playing competitively since he was U11. You are ALWAYS going to run up against these types of teams. Sadly, there is not a lot you can do about it. DS's team had a hard time last year when they came up against overly physical, borderline 'dirty' teams, as they are undersized, and are not being coached to play the physicality yet. They are focusing on skills, technique, and tactical play.

The best way to deal with it, is to make sure your kids don't get sucked into the same type of play, and, if they can, let the play on the field do the talking, and beat them. We played a team at the beginning of the season that was VERY physical, and the more skill our boys showed, the more pushing, tripping, shirt grabbing, ankle hacking started. We beat them soundly, and by the end of the 2nd half, 2 of their 'star' players had been sent off.

 

[tvguy]

I miss the games, but not the early start. My problem was I was the only dad on the team with a truck, and who could transport the chalker and the 150 pounds of chalk it takes to line a field.
So guess who was out at 6 am chalking the field?

 

[mdsoccermom]

Let me ask you soccer moms a question. DD played a game today against a very unsportsmanlike team. They were throwing elbows, shoving and pushing and if we had an injury on our team, none of the opposing team would take a knee, they would instead huddle in a corner and strategize. I personally believe this is disrespectful and would complain to our coach if he let our girls do it. This is a U11 team and when we complained to the Coach after the game, he basically gave us the oh well. We've never complained about any team before OR any ref but we will also be complaining about him as he didn't pay attention to half the game, missed about five handballs, missed the shoving, didn't call foul on an elbow to the face and didn't say anything about one girl to threw up her fist every time a girl came to challenge her.

I have NEVER seen a game played like this. It was sneaky and I felt it reflected poorly on the Coach, who didn't seem to give a flying you-know-what anyway.

What do you guys think?

I know in our league, there are sportsmanship cards to fill out. If a team was exhibiting particularly poor sportsmanship, our coach can fill it out and send it in which is just what happened a few weeks ago. One example of the many things that happened...Our girls won. At the end of the game when the teams greeted each other, instead of just saying "good game", the other girls told our girls "good game, b*****s." Yeah, they're 11.

The key thing is not let such behavior get into the kids' heads. It's so easy for them to get frustrated and give it back. They must try to rise above the poor behavior.

 

[jrmasm]

Let me ask you soccer moms a question. DD played a game today against a very unsportsmanlike team. They were throwing elbows, shoving and pushing and if we had an injury on our team, none of the opposing team would take a knee, they would instead huddle in a corner and strategize. I personally believe this is disrespectful and would complain to our coach if he let our girls do it. This is a U11 team and when we complained to the Coach after the game, he basically gave us the oh well. We've never complained about any team before OR any ref but we will also be complaining about him as he didn't pay attention to half the game, missed about five handballs, missed the shoving, didn't call foul on an elbow to the face and didn't say anything about one girl to threw up her fist every time a girl came to challenge her.

I have NEVER seen a game played like this. It was sneaky and I felt it reflected poorly on the Coach, who didn't seem to give a flying you-know-what anyway.

What do you guys think?

I have an older player. I haven't seen a team take a knee for years. They always huddle up when there is an injury and so do all the teams they play. I wouldn't consider this poor sportmanship unless they didn't maintain some distance between their huddle and the injured player.

 

[ArthurIhde]

wow i am so exciting

 

[LBAK]

It gets much worse. My DD plays Varsity, Club and state level ball and it never ceases to amaze me how many parents scream at the girls to "take them down". The refs don't take control of the game and it gets ugly. We as a team have complained about coaches and officials and nothing much gets done.
The sportsmanship cards stop after a while and the teams with the "take em down parents" don't care. It's very sad.

 

[mjkacmom]

Just want to say that we won our 3 soccer games yesterday (2 travel, 1 rec), and have a travel game today. We also won our 2 flag football games yesterday, and travel baseball.

 

[smschex]

DD played in a 3x3 tournament a year or two ago, so probably U8 or 9. Our team was a struggling rec team that played purely for the love of the game. We faced a team from another state that showed the most dirty play I have ever see.

It was freezing cold, so everyone had on multiple layers under their jerseys. Several girls came off the field with claw marks down their backs--through an undershirt, turtleneck, and jersey! My DD was put in a headlock-literally-as she tried to dribble down the field. Elbows were flying everywhere. The biggest problem was the ref was a very young girl. I would be surprised if she was more than 13. She did not call anything. She stood well away from the action. I think she was probably scared of them too!

This team could have beaten us with very little difficulty. None of this was necessary. The most appalling thing to me was the parent from the team who yelled "Just keep doing it until the ref calls you." And laughed. Our coach wrote a letter of protest but of course nothing was done.

 

[michst8alum]

Today is the start to the "lasts". My DD is a senior and today is her last game playing travel. She has been with this team for 7 years. She is hoping to play in college, so I know it won't be the "last" of the travel part, but it is the start of a very bittersweet year! Now the question is: What to do with all this extra time!

 

[ArthurIhde]

i am fan of football lol

 

[skater]

My DS 13 lives and breathes soccer. Despite starting kind of late and having non-athletic parents (we don't even typically watch sports on tv ), he has thrived and literally worked his way to the highest level team in our area. Now, I am sucked in and discovering competetiveness in myself I didn't know was there . I love it because he loves it, and so far, I've been able to stay out of it enough that he still loves it and wants to practice without us telling him to. Its a formula that works for him - he still practices 1-3 hours almost every day in the backyard.

I have a bad ref story though. We've had this guy several times and he totally steals the games form the boys treating them as if they are his enemy. Its insane and every game he refs ends with hurt feelings, unjustified or barely justified yellow or red cards, and parents as well as coaches and line judges shaking their heads. I don't think we have any recourse, but I think we're stuck with him. He starts every game and 2nd half by yelling, "35 minutes of the beautiful game!" My son has learned to adjust the way he plays with this ref and he considers him a "field condition." Maybe its a life lesson for dealing with difficult people!

 

[Carlyzmom]

Let me ask you soccer moms a question. DD played a game today against a very unsportsmanlike team. They were throwing elbows, shoving and pushing and if we had an injury on our team, none of the opposing team would take a knee, they would instead huddle in a corner and strategize. I personally believe this is disrespectful and would complain to our coach if he let our girls do it. This is a U11 team and when we complained to the Coach after the game, he basically gave us the oh well. We've never complained about any team before OR any ref but we will also be complaining about him as he didn't pay attention to half the game, missed about five handballs, missed the shoving, didn't call foul on an elbow to the face and didn't say anything about one girl to threw up her fist every time a girl came to challenge her.

I have NEVER seen a game played like this. It was sneaky and I felt it reflected poorly on the Coach, who didn't seem to give a flying you-know-what anyway.

What do you guys think?

I always find is shocking when there is physical roughness! BUT, that said, we took our team 10U girls - to a women's college soccer game. It was ROUGH!!! It is a full contact sport! Us moms were shocked. I guess that is just part of the game when they get older. Not that I like it though.