So You Want To Be First Do You??? Its Lasting!!

[DisneyFirefly]

Circuit breaker?

 

[skiingfast]

I leave for 30 minutes and it's barely been chatty.

 

[PrincessInOz]

Your last two jobs haven't exactly been happy experiences. "circuit breaker" = switch it around...may this job be a happy experience.

 

[DisneyFirefly]

Ah, okay. Well, we'll see what happens. I'm apparently pretty good at it.

 

[PrincessInOz]

I leave for 30 minutes and it's barely been chatty.

My laptop is limping along at the moment. I don't think it's the Dis. Takes me ages to load any program.


But my new laptop arrived today. I need to start reading instructions and turning it on.

 

[queenie82]

That's interesting about why you think you married young.

I think my mum did for loneliness reasons and fear of dying young.
She lost both her parents when she was 12. Her aunt who never married became her 'mum' and gradually she lost her grandparents too.
She had a wonderful relationship with her aunt and given marriage didn't mean 'abandoning' her due to adding on a house extension she married, travelled and then had kids.

I've got no platitudes for you Dana. It seems being part of a large congregation of church friends and a hugely social butterfly has scored partners for quite a few friends.
But then one dear friend who's so lovely and been a bridesmaid at these weddings has never really dated. And she's beautiful and skinny and not really that picky with people I don't know what any answer is.

I was never looking for a divorced pom old fart. Just happened.
But I know I certainly wasn't 'putting myself out there' socially. My single friends and I were all trying to think of things to do to try and find guys when that all started happening.
We still don't know.
I know a huge fear of rejection stopped me going out in part.

 

[usnuzuloose]

 

[PrincessInOz]

That's interesting about why you think you married young.

I didn't say it was the only reason....only that sometimes I think it was a reason.

I wasn't expecting to get married that young. In fact, I had my life all planned out.....I was going to meet the man of my life in my mid-30's. I was going to be moving out of home as soon as I got a job and could support myself, go overseas, buy a place, focus on career..and then maybe a serious relationship.

No way did I expect to be meeting DH when I did.

 

[DisneyFirefly]

I've got no platitudes for you Dana. It seems being part of a large congregation of church friends and a hugely social butterfly has scored partners for quite a few friends.
But then one dear friend who's so lovely and been a bridesmaid at these weddings has never really dated. And she's beautiful and skinny and not really that picky with people I don't know what any answer is.

I was never looking for a divorced pom old fart. Just happened.
But I know I certainly wasn't 'putting myself out there' socially. My single friends and I were all trying to think of things to do to try and find guys when that all started happening.
We still don't know.
I know a huge fear of rejection stopped me going out in part.

Yeah, a church group isn't going to work for me, being a borderline atheist and all. I used to be painfully shy, but have gotten much better about it. I'm not picky about most things, but there are certain things I'm looking for and absolutely will not compromise on. It just seems like finding someone who meets those characteristics who'll actually want me is a next to impossible task. A friend of mine recently told me that in order to meet the person I want to date, I have to go to places that person is going to be. Um. Yeah, that's not working. Everyone I meet at those places is either not what I'm looking for, gay, or taken already.

I'm not afraid of being rejected. I've been rejected so much and so often throughout my life that it's literally just how life seems to go for me. I'm used to it. I recently had someone tell me that "as a two, (I) shouldn't be hitting on tens".

 

[PrincessInOz]

 

[PrincessInOz]

Yeah, a church group isn't going to work for me, being a borderline atheist and all. I used to be painfully shy, but have gotten much better about it. I'm not picky about most things, but there are certain things I'm looking for and absolutely will not compromise on. It just seems like finding someone who meets those characteristics who'll actually want me is a next to impossible task. A friend of mine recently told me that in order to meet the person I want to date, I have to go to places that person is going to be. Um. Yeah, that's not working. Everyone I meet at those places is either not what I'm looking for, gay, or taken already.

I'm not afraid of being rejected. I've been rejected so much and so often throughout my life that it's literally just how life seems to go for me. I'm used to it. I recently had someone tell me that "as a two, (I) shouldn't be hitting on tens".

A two = one one.

They're right! You shouldn't be hitting on tens. You need to be hitting on elevens!

 

[queenie82]

I never said your ONLY reason PIO.

And I never suggested a church group.
Just a running theme with friends.

 

[DisneyFirefly]

A two = one one.

They're right! You shouldn't be hitting on tens. You need to be hitting on elevens!

The problem is that "elevens" don't seem to realize I exist. Most guys don't, unless they think I'm an easy lay or something. I hate sounding like I'm whining, which is exactly what I feel like I'm doing right now.

And I never suggested a church group.
Just a running theme with friends.

I know... Just commenting on it. One of the girls I used to work with had suggested it, even though she knew my religious beliefs (or lack thereof).

 

[queenie82]

I have thought of doing it over and over. I'm basically a Christian.
But just never did as bible study and readings just isn't my thing.
Having faith and then spending hours discussing it are two different things for me.
I love these gals. But it's just not my thing...

 

[DisneyFirefly]

I'm a firm believer in freedom of religion meaning any religion, including no religion. As long as someone isn't trying to shove their faith down my throat (like the proselytizer who's always in front of the Old Navy two doors down from my new work) or use it to justify some atrocity, I have no problem with them.

 

[PrincessInOz]

Sleep well all.

I'll watch LAST.

 

[DisneyFirefly]

I'm going to bed. Maybe tomorrow will be better.

Night, guys.

 

[skiingfast]

Have I ever told you how much I hate platitudes?

Goodnight sleep tight, don't let the bedbugs bite.

 

[skiingfast]

Sleep well all.

I'll watch LAST.

Goodnight PIO.

 

[PrincessInOz]

Good night all. Sleep well. It'll be Friday here tomorrow. I'm looking forward to the end of the day.