Someone stated it just right, it's not the problems we encountered it's the way we have been treated. Let me walk you through it.
Our first encounter with the manager Shannon, we told her about being sent up to a dirty room and she did NOT apologize at all... instead she said she'd run up there and check it out for herself.

This was a slap in the face to us. It made us feel like she didn't believe us. So we stood there and waited. When she came back she said yes it was dirty. (we already knew that) So she went to the back room to look for another room. (she still had not apologized to us at this point). So we sat in the lobby and waited again. Then she came out and said she had found another room available but wanted to check it our herself first to make sure it was clean. This was a very nice gesture and we told her we very much appreciated it. When she returned she stated that it was clean and ready to go. She then apologized for the problem and gave us a comp for Cape May, which by the way we never asked for. In fact, we never asked for anything and she never stated "what can we do to make you happy" or anything like that. She merely gave it to us and we left.
Now, our next encounter with a manager was a man named DJ. He came to our room AFTER we had made 3 calls to maintenance about the a/c... and then been told by maintenance that they didn't know when an electrician might be able to come and fix the broken unit. We were not happy with this because we were not given any timeline as to when this could take place. It was a hot day and a very hot room. Our kids always nap in the afternoon and they couldn't because it was so hot. Maybe that's not important to some people, but it's crucial for our kids. So when JC came to the room he was very condescending to my husband, and rude. He was saying things like "Do you want more free dinners" and basically treating us like WE were the problem. He also told my husband that he would make sure someone brought some detergent to the laundry room... but that never happened.
The detergent issue was between me and housekeeping. I called four times, if they would have told me they didn't have any detergent or didn't have anyway to bring me any, then I wouldn't have been waiting. But each time I called they said they'd be "right there" so I didn't want to leave and miss the person. So I waited patiently after each call until the fourth call when I got upset. By this point of our day we had spend one entire day of our vacation handling problems, and a good portion of the day sitting in the laundry room waiting for someone who said they'd be "right there".
Ok... next problem. Shannon had told us personally that she would make sure we had bedrails after housekeeping had told us they were "still looking for some". We left the resort to go to dinner and to see Illuminations. When we returned to the room that night, rather late, we did not have the bedrails. We put the couch cushions on the floor around the bed and just let our 3 year old sleep. I guess I could have ran down to the lobby and raised heck, but at this point I've already been made to feel like I'm unreasonable and a troublemaker.
So the next morning I went to the front desk and told Shannon that we had not received the bedrails the night before. Her answer was "Oh but did you see that great view from your balcony" "that's a great view isn't it". The view hardly matters when my child is in need of a safety device. Finally after she went on and on about the view she said she'd try to find some rails for us. No apologies from her, and I certainly didn't ask her for any compensation. That's not my style.
I have stayed at OKW twice and we always had great service. I really don't think it's a
dvc issue, I think these two managers have decided we are difficult and now they are going to talk us in a very patronizing way. Heck, if I wanted to be difficult I would complain about the horrible water pressure, and the insane amount of noise in the halls. I haven't said a word about MANY of the problems we've encountered. I hardly consider myself as someone with "unrealistic expectations".