SO - Spouse has opposite sex friends on Facebook

[Becky2005]

Goodness!! I wouldn't even think twice about female/male friends on Facebook! 1/2 the people I know on Facebook, DH knows too OR they are people I know from high school, etc...

Wouldn't even cross my mind to only have female friends on there. Heck, I have my brother's friends on there because I knew him since he was my brother's best friend in High School.

 

[MagicallyDelicious]

I was one of the people on the OP's thread who did not care for her husband (nor does her husband care for her doing it either) spending excessive time with someone of the opposite sex, but I can honestly say I couldn't care less about him having Facebook friends of the opposite sex, nor does he care if I do.

We draw the line at ex's, out of respect for one another though.

 

[marcyinPA]

My DH and I both have many FB friends of the opposite sex. HOWEVER, his ex-girlfriend (the one before me) friend requested him, and he declined. He told me about it- I told him to friend her if he wanted to. He said "Uh, no way." All's well that ends well

 

[shmoogrrrl]

My husband doesn't use Facebook, but I do. I have a lot of guy friends (and some ex boyfriends) on my friends list.

My husband could care less. He has access to my account if he ever wanted to peek, but I doubt he'd ever bother. He trusts me, and I don't give him any reason not to.

Interestingly, I HAVE been sent friend requests from the wives of some of the guys that I am friends with. Some that I have never actually met or spoken to before. I always accept them and in some cases, I actually chat with the wives more than I do my guy friends!

 

[Ginny Favers]

I am friends with thousands of people on facebook, men and women. While I can't say I know them all well, I also limit what kind of personal info I share there. It's completely different from knowing people in real life!

 

[JennaDeeDooDah]

It really doesn't matter what my husband is ok with. It matters what YOUR husband is ok with and what he isn't. Partners should have respect for each other and their choices/preferences.

My BFF's husband doesn't want her to visit Vegas without him. Not because she has given him reason to worry, but because two of their very good friends have run off and left their spouses while in Vegas. It may seem very irrational to some of us, but she respects that request from him.

Dawn

Now now, there is no room for things like logic here on the Dis.




My husband has both male and female friends on facebook. I don't think that he is friends with any of his ex-girlfriends anymore, but I could be mistaken. Actually, I am friends with one of his ex-girlfriends on facebook, though (long story). Personally, I think that if you can't see the difference from having friends on a social media site and going to movies, meals, and such frequently with a member of the opposite sex, then there is nothing anyone can say on this topic that will change your mind.

 

[Bob NC]

People who have affairs with old flames through reconnected through FB are just using FB as an excuse.

Correct me if I'm wrong, but I don't think there were any affairs before FB.

 

[NoSoup4U]

Correct me if I'm wrong, but I don't think there were any affairs before FB.

correct! Lmao!

 

[2disneyboys]

there were so many posts that have me I had to un-multiquote them, or my post would have been a whole page long

anywho... OP, I stick to my response from your first thread on this topic. I trust my DH & he trusts me, and yes, we both have same sex and opposite sex friends in real life and on facebook. We are both fine with this to an extent. We do not "restrict" each other. However, we would never be comfortable in the type of realtionship you described in your first thread on this topic - thats just us.

By the way, your a little famous in our house. At easter dinner we were all talking about just random topics (at the adult table of course) and my brother asked if I had any good stories from the "DIS" (thats terrible as it shows how much I lurk on here!) anyway, my response was actually I do, and I whipped out my phone and read your thread to all 18 people at my table...that consists of my mom. My sister & her finance (40's) my bother & his wife (30's married 10 years) my husband &I (late 30's married 15 years) my cousin & his wife ( 40's married 20 years) and several other family members single/married/dating persons in ages 20's-50's and out of all 18 people, only 1 person was "ok" with that type of friendship.. and that person is in her late 20's and is having a "realtionship" with a married man who is "suppose" to be in the process of leaving his wife for the past 2 years... Again, I can only base this the gathering of people @ my dining room table yesterday.