So it all started with my husband and the milk jug . . .

[lbgraves]

If you can stick to your guns, do it. I know I couldn't!

I tried the same thing with my roommates the other week. They have never, to my knowledge, cleaned the bathroom, and I'd gotten tired of kindly asking them to do it. I decided not to clean the toilet and wait to see how disgusting they would let it get before cleaning it...

3 weeks went by and neither of them picked up the darn toilet brush. They seemed totally content with the filth (and, believe me....I'm a neat freak...but this was NASTY in anyone's book!).

I caved and cleaned it myself this weekend.

LOL! This brings back bad memories of roommates in college. UGH! One girl was just clueless. The rest of us got tired of her mess one day & decided to throw out all of her "stuff" in the fridge because it had been there too long to still be good. We thought that she had a head of cauliflower in one of the crisper drawers. Imagine our horror when we pulled out the drawer to find that it was actually a canteloup that had been there so long it had produced a tremendous amount of mold spores that had increased the size of the melon & changed its appearance.

 

[Cindy's Mom]

Why not say something like "hey, don't just leave that sitting there. If it needs to be thrown out, toss it"

I never understood why we let our spouses get away w/not doing there share. He can put milk in the trash. If my DH left the milk sitting out like that, I'd call him back into the kitchen to clean it up the same way I do to my 4 year old. Act like the child, get treated like the child, sure he might get a little annoyed but we certainly aren't going to have a 3 day passive aggressive pissing match over a milk jug.

IMO you are 100% correct. I'd never in a million years let DH get away with this. Although I wouldn't be as diplomatic as you. I'd probably, take the milk carton, hand deliver it to him and ask "Is there a reason this isn't in the garbage can?"

 

[Angela Kay]

Why not say something like "hey, don't just leave that sitting there. If it needs to be thrown out, toss it"

I never understood why we let our spouses get away w/not doing there share. He can put milk in the trash. If my DH left the milk sitting out like that, I'd call him back into the kitchen to clean it up the same way I do to my 4 year old. Act like the child, get treated like the child, sure he might get a little annoyed but we certainly aren't going to have a 3 day passive aggressive pissing match over a milk jug.

I love it! I'm glad I'm not the only one. After 11 years of marriage DH is trained pretty well.

 

[piratesmate]

When we were first married, DH was in college FT & working PT. I'd already graduated from college & was working in an accounting office. About 3 months after the wedding, DH got mono & was told he had to quit work & cut back at school before it got worse. The same week my supervisor was diagnosed with advanced lung cancer (non-smoker, 2nd hand smoke) & I got stuck with her work. I went from 35 hrs/week to 55.

We agreed DH would quit his job, drop a couple courses, quit the job & pick up some of the slack around the apt...which mainly consisted of doing the dishes. It didn't take long before there was a sink full of dishes. I got really annoyed about this & refused to do them....but did a LOT of nagging. It got to the point that I was washing dishes to cook & eat...then I started only washing a plate for me. Still the dishes didn't get done.

Eventually, I gave in & got through the first pile of dishes before he took over. After that he'd do them, but so did I if I wasn't too tired. It was sooo not worth all the energy I wasted being angry with him!

Now when stuff like that happens, I just call out "Is there a reason this is sitting here? Or does it need to get tossed?" Usually the answer is for him to come to the kitchen & throw it out. I'm not his mother...I can't MAKE him listen to me.

 

[shortbun]

Sorry, but, gota side with hubby on this one. At least he is telling you that the thing needs to be thrown out!

Yeah, that and putting you in your place. Apparently he has no idea where the sink is and I bet it's no where near the refrigerator either. Whadaya mean "at least he's telling you....." He's making a statement allright but I think you missed his intention. My husband would be sleeping with that milkjug. I vote for the computer desk with a note explaining what needed to be done with the milkjug. Make it a friendly note.

 

[mrsltg]

MEN!!! DH and I had an argument the other day over something similar. When he changes the baby he'll take her stinky diapers and put them in plastic bag (tied). He then walks to the garage door and chucks the bag so that it lands somewhere in the garage on the floor. Apparently the poop fairies are supposed to come and throw the little bombs in the trash can (which, incidentally, is about 15 feet from the door). His reason? The garage floor is cold and he doesn't have shoes on. Instead, I come home and can't park my car in the garage without cleaning up first. Then, he defends the practice and makes it seem like I'm high maintenance for making the simple request that soiled diapers be deposited in the trash can. Sometimes I understand Lorena Bobbit....

Erin

 

[Maleficent13]

omg mrsltg...I am !!

I'd put a pair of his slippers/flipflops right next to the garage door, and tell him you did it for his comfort, so his poor toesies wouldn't get cold. After all, you're only thinking of him!

 

[Am_I_There_Yet]

Consider yourself lucky. My DH will open up another jug of milk, if the current is even remotely within the expiration date! He says he can tell it's not fresh.

We always have two gallons going and it drives me nuts!

 

[jbdreamer]

My DH and I often talk about the "faries" that live in the kitchen.
My DH puts the empty jug back into the refrigerator think that it magically
refills.

If it were me I'd put a post-it on the jug saying something like. "Trash does not levitate into the garbage can. You actually have to throw it out.

This totally remindes me of an email I just got, you should send your DH here:


WINTER CLASSES FOR MEN AT THE LEARNING CENTER FOR ADULTS

REGISTRATION MUST BE COMPLETED BY March 9th, 2006

NOTE: DUE TO THE COMPLEXITY AND DIFFICULTY LEVEL OF THEIR CONTENTS, CLASS SIZES WILL BE LIMITED TO 8 PARTICIPANTS MAXIMUM.

Class 1
How To Fill Up The Ice Cube Trays --- Step by Step, with Slide Presentation.
Meets 4 weeks, Monday and Wednesday for 2 hours beginning at 7:00 PM.

Class 2
The Toilet Paper Roll --- Does It Change Itself?
Round Table Discussion.
Meets 2 weeks, Saturday 12:00 for 2 hours.

Class 3
Is It Possible To Urinate Using The Technique Of Lifting The Seat and
Avoid ing The Floor, Walls and Nearby Bathtub? --- Group Practice.
Meets 4 weeks, Saturday 10:00 PM for 2 hours.

Class 4
Fundamental Differences Between The Laundry Hamper and The Floor ---
Pictures and Explanatory Graphics.
Meets Saturdays at 2:00 PM for 3 weeks.

Class 5
After Dinner Dishes --- Can They Levitate and Fly Into The Kitchen Sink?
Examples on Video.
Meets 4 weeks, Tuesday and Thursday for 2 hours beginning
at 7:00 PM

Class 6
Loss Of Identity --- Losing The Remote To Your Significant Other.
Help Line Support and Support Groups.
Meets 4 Weeks, Friday and Sunday 7:00 PM

Class 7
Learning How To Find Things --- Starting With Looking In The Right Places
And Not Turning The House Upside Down While Screaming.
Open Forum .
Monday at 8:00 PM, 2 hours.

Class 8
Health Watch --- Bringing Her Flowers Is Not Harmful To Your Health.
Graphics and Audio Tapes.
Three nights; Monday, Wednesday, Friday at 7:00 PM for 2 hours.

Class 9
Real Men Ask For Directions When Lost --- Real Life Testimonials.
Tuesdays at 6:00 PM Location to be determined.

Class 10
Is It Genetically Impossible To Sit Quietly While She Parallel Parks?
Driving Simulations.
4 weeks, Saturday's noon, 2 hours.

Class 11
Learning to Live --- Basic Differences Between Mother and Wife.
Online Classes and role-playing .
Tuesdays at 7:00 PM, location to be determined

Class 12
How to be the Ideal Shopping Companion
Relaxation Exercises, Meditation and Breathing Techniques.
Meets 4 weeks, Tuesday and Thursday for 2 hours beginning at 7:00 PM.

Class 13
How to Fight Cerebral Atrophy --- Remembering Birthdays, Anniversaries and Other Important Dates and Calling When You're Going To Be Late.
Cerebral Shock Therapy Sessions and Full Lobotomies Offered.
Three nights; Monday, Wednesday, Friday at 7:00 PM for 2 hours.

Class 14
The Stove/Oven --- What It Is and How It Is Used.
Live Demonstration.
Tuesdays at 6:00 PM, location to be determined.

Upon completion of any of the above courses,
diplomas will be issued to the survivors.

 

[Poohbear123]

He thinks he's "helping out" when he takes his empty coffee cup to the kitchen...it goes right ON THE STOVE! Too lazy to walk an extra 2 steps to place it IN the sink. One week, there were about a weeks worth of cups on the stove. I should have served his coffee in an unwashed cup, but I didn't.....

 

[LindsayDunn228]

Sorry, but, gota side with hubby on this one. At least he is telling you that the thing needs to be thrown out!

And he is incapable of throwing it out himself? Repeatedly? Come on now!

 

[BelleMcNally]

Yep....Raymond and the suitcase.....Don't let this becomeyour big spoon!

It would aggrevate me. I HATE it when DH puts a new roll or TP on TOP of the empty roll .... is it too hard to figure out how to get the empty roll off????

I'll let it go for days........................ then I do it

Oh lord...my fiance is the king of not changing the toilet paper roll. I swear he must have a special tool to scrape of the very last remnants of the previous roll, leaving just the empty cardboard tube there without a shred of paper stuck to it. The thing is--we keep the extra rolls on a shelf RIGHT ACROSS FROM THE TOILET!

I mean...it's a stretch for me to reach when I'm doing my business...but he's a good foot taller than me and I know he wouldn't even have to fully extend himself!

 

[budbeerlady]

hehehehehehe



Yesterday my co-worker was complaining, and asked how all ths "crap" got on her desk. I told her the crap fairy did it!

Denae

I love it!!!!!! I wish the crap fairy would leave my desk alone too! Too bad everyone is out of the office today, I cannot wait to use this!!!!

 

[GeorgiaAristocat]

jbdreamer, I started tearing up from laughter when I started reading about the classes! Are they offered at my local community college? Well worth the tuition cost, I think.

I have resigned myself to throwing out the milk if it's still there when I get home. (Today is trash day, and in true passive-agressive style, I also refused to roll the large trash can down to the road this morning or remind the hubby - I did call at 9:15 to make sure I didn't need to go home to do that - I only work 4 min. from home.) Having sounded off to others, I now feel capable of calmly telling hubby that it really bothers me when he does something like this.

Anyway, thanks for the marriage counseling everyone!

 

[lecach]

My DH will say "Im out of washcloths". I want to say "well - you're working from home, throw them in the washer". But I dont - I just wash them. I DO make him fold them.....sometimes.......

 

[bubie2.5]

Tell him (with a smile): “Honey, do you know they sale cheese curd in the grocery store? I don’t think we should start making it ourselves. “