So I need some advice...

[TheBellhop]

Let's say:

A friend and I got into an argument a week ago. She never seemed to want to talk to me. So, I asked her about it, and she said that she was sorry, and I said I didn't believe her. So I guess that equates to me calling her a liar. I apologized repeatedly. She said that if her apologies meant nothing to me, then mine should mean nothing to hers. I apologized yet again, and she said nothing back to me.

So today (that incident happened about a week ago) I apologized again. She still won't accept the apology. So I told her, "fine, at least I know I tried. and yes, I do feel better now that I DO know that I tried". I don't feel better at all. She says she's done with me.

I made a mistake. I didn't mean to say what I had said, but it came out anyways. And I just keep thinking about the argument over and over in my head.

What can I do? What ever happened to the motto "when in doubt, hug it out"? Please help, I just can't stop thinking about what I did wrong.

 

[MuNkY]

You know there was more to it than that.

 

[TheBellhop]

You know there was more to it than that.

There wasn't.

 

[maciec]

I hate to say this, but maybe she just doesn't want to be friends anymore. Maybe this was just the easiest way out for her.

 

[MuNkY]

There wasn't.

Well then, my friend, you must be blind because there is an awful lot of story that you didn't tell.

 

[TheBellhop]

I hate to say this, but maybe she just doesn't want to be friends anymore. Maybe this was just the easiest way out for her.

Oh, I know she doesn't want to be friends anymore. I just don't want this to keep eating away at me. It's not worth it, I have enough stress as it is. But I just can't stop thinking about it...

 

[SwedishMeatball]

Well then, my friend, you must be blind because there is an awful lot of story that you didn't tell.

Are you "the friend"??

 

[Cantw8]

I have learned that when I argue with someone, whether I am right or wrong, if they want to forget the incident and move on...then apologies are accepted on either side. If they are not, then I would guess that one of the parties no longer wants the relationship

 

[MuNkY]

Are you "the friend"??

No I'm a friend of the friend.

 

[SwedishMeatball]

I have learned that when I argue with someone, whether I am right or wrong, if they want to forget the incident and move on...then apologies are accepted on either side. If they are not, then I would guess that one of the parties no longer wants the relationship

I always accept your apologies.

 

[SwedishMeatball]

No I'm a friend of the friend.

I KNEW it!! I'm so Nancy Drew.

 

[ckret01]

What was the original argument about? You mighthave hurt her bad by maybe saying or doing something and she cannot forgive you for it.

 

[ckret01]

No I'm a friend of the friend.

Wow what a small world! Do you and the OP know you both post on here or was it coincidental? Maybe the OP poster was hoping you would see this and shed some light on the situation (just a thought)

 

[TheBellhop]

I told what I knew...and I told what she explained to me I had done. I just don't know where to go from here.

 

[OceanAnnie]

It all started because your "friend" never seemed to want to talk to you. You got that vibe from her for a reason. She said she sorry. And you responded that you didn't beleive her. There was a reason behind that too.

If she says she's done with you, it could be that she was, "done with you" long before the argument. Don't stress over it. From what you posted, it sounds like your "friendship" was going downhill to begin with.

 

[poohandwendy]

My advice? Make peace with it and move on. You tried to make amends, there is nothing more to do. You can only control what you say and do, the outcome is beyond your control. When you realize that, you will not worry about it anymore. kwim?

 

[ckret01]

How old is your friend?