Snoring roommate equals no sleep for us (NEW update scary stuff

[roliepolieoliefan]

My friend and I and my daughter are away on a trip.
Originally we were staying in seperate rooms ( my friend one room, daughter and I in another room)
Friend called me and asked if we could room together because she's had some financial issues lately and she couldn't pay the whole amount herself. If I didn't then she would ask someone else. Big group is away.
I asked my daughter she said sure
Friend and I have roomed together in the past but I literally forgot how bad her snoring was.
Monday night was pretty bad. I couldn't sleep probably like 2 hours and same with DD.
I'm laying awake now. It's 1:45 am and she sounds like a freight train and again DD and I are awake.
We are going to be walking zombies in the morning.
I modified my original room reservation but never cancelled it.

I think DD and I are just going to tell her we are going to our own room. I feel bad about the money and sharing is helping us too but this is insane.
DH doesn't snore as bad and we sleep in seperate rooms at home because he keeps me awake.

If I confront her about the snoring, she'll somehow turn it around to make herself the martyr. We've been on again off again friends for almost 20 years, off again mainly because she can be very dramatic and set in her ways, with no room to compromise.
We have our dogs with us and this is my dogs first time in a hotel. She's not doing well , whining and barking in her crate so I am curled on a chair next to her crate to keep her quiet.
It's working. As long as I'm near she's ok.
I'm going to use my dog as an excuse . She may be more comfortable if we stayed separately . My friend will be responsible for about $100 extra dollars if DD and I change rooms.
Other people are already set with roommates and such so with the dog situation too, I seriously doubt she could find someone else to room with.
Opinions welcome!
Signed sleepless is Kentucky

 

[sonnyjane]

It's nothing personal. Humans need sleep!

I shared a room with a co-worker once for a conference and she snored so loud that I actually went into the hotel bathroom and tried to sleep on the floor but I could hear her through the door. I contemplated trying to find someone at the conference that would let me just sleep on the floor in their room! I finished out the conference but did tell her that it was nothing personal but I couldn't room with her ever again.

My only advice though is I wouldn't use your dog as an excuse. I'd be honest with her, that way you don't look like the bad guy. Plus maybe she doesn't know she snores and you'll be doing a public service.

 

[Pea-n-Me]

Ugh you poor thing! Can you ask her to turn on her side or something? (She's not aware you're up?) That will kill two birds with one stone - she'll know she's keeping you awake and it won't be a surprise tomorrow when you say you need to get your own room. I'd also take a Tylenol or Motrin if you have some and see if that will help you sleep.

 

[powellrj]

Dh and I shared a room with 2 of our kids last summer. Dh snored so loud that the kids left a 2am and drove the 3 hours home. We sleep in separate bedrooms because of my back, so I had forgotten how bad his snoring is.

 

[bbak30]

Oh no, you poor thing! That totally sucks. I'm a light sleeper and this would make me insane. Years ago we shared a cabin with my sister and her DH. He snored so loudly that we rented a hotel room so I could get some sleep. It was ridiculous!
Hope you get some sleep soon!

 

[BumbleB]

My DH snores. Loudly. One of my dogs snores. Loudly. Earplugs are my best friends. Maybe they would get you through your vacation?

 

[Pumbaa_]

Be honest with her. You tried doing the cost cutting sharing a room, but it is not working out. You need sleep, your daughter needs sleep.

Lesson learned

 

[wvjules]

My boyfriend wears earplugs. Apparently I'm quite the snorer. lol

 

[SC Minnie]

Be honest with her.

I'm a light sleeper and someone snoring is like nails on a chalkboard. Earplugs don't always work for me.

 

[aaarcher86]

Shoving DH "ROLL OVER" works for me. Have you tried it?

Honestly though, I'd tell her the truth and get your own room. You don't have anything to feel bad about. You tried.

 

[ronandannette]

My friend and I and my daughter are away on a trip.
Originally we were staying in seperate rooms ( my friend one room, daughter and I in another room)
Friend called me and asked if we could room together because she's had some financial issues lately and she couldn't pay the whole amount herself. If I didn't then she would ask someone else. Big group is away.
I asked my daughter she said sure
Friend and I have roomed together in the past but I literally forgot how bad her snoring was.
Monday night was pretty bad. I couldn't sleep probably like 2 hours and same with DD.
I'm laying awake now. It's 1:45 am and she sounds like a freight train and again DD and I are awake.
We are going to be walking zombies in the morning.
I modified my original room reservation but never cancelled it.

I think DD and I are just going to tell her we are going to our own room. I feel bad about the money and sharing is helping us too but this is insane.
DH doesn't snore as bad and we sleep in seperate rooms at home because he keeps me awake.

If I confront her about the snoring, she'll somehow turn it around to make herself the martyr. We've been on again off again friends for almost 20 years, off again mainly because she can be very dramatic and set in her ways, with no room to compromise.
We have our dogs with us and this is my dogs first time in a hotel. She's not doing well , whining and barking in her crate so I am curled on a chair next to her crate to keep her quiet.
It's working. As long as I'm near she's ok.
I'm going to use my dog as an excuse . She may be more comfortable if we stayed separately . My friend will be responsible for about $100 extra dollars if DD and I change rooms.
Other people are already set with roommates and such so with the dog situation too, I seriously doubt she could find someone else to room with.
Opinions welcome!
Signed sleepless is Kentucky

Bear in mind that people who snore can't really help it. That said, everybody needs to be rested (and I admire your roommate if she's such a heavy sleeper that she's not being kept up by your dog). Awkward as it may be, I think you just need to tell her that you're moving and why. If it were me and I could afford it, I'd probably just suck up the cost of the new room (and my portion of the old room) and consider it the price of having made a bad decision to agree to share in the first place. Live and learn. I hope you get this sorted out and are able to enjoy the rest of your time away.

 

[DawnM]

I would tell her the truth and move on. You need sleep. Just know that if she is as nuts as you say she is, she may try to get to you to pay the $100.

I cannot function without sleep.

 

[DawnM]

BTW: Between this story and a story of sharing a room in the past (a friend just shared at a girl's BB tournament.....she and her daughter shared with another mom and her daughter. They were so inconsiderate, coming in at midnight, banging around, turning on all the lights, having a PHONE conversation after midnight, etc...) that I would never even consider sharing a room unless I really wanted to and liked the person.

 

[Chocolate Cake]

If I confront her about the snoring, she'll somehow turn it around to make herself the martyr. We've been on again off again friends for almost 20 years, off again mainly because she can be very dramatic and set in her ways, with no room to compromise.

Well, at least you are ready for her response. Get your own room as you originally planned and be on your merry way. If she wants to put on a performance, smile and keep walking.

The fact that she is having financial issues and still went on this trip (while involving other people in a compromise), shows me what kind of person she is.

You were nice to give it a go. It didn't work out. Now you have to look out for yourself.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

My friend and I and my daughter are away on a trip.
Originally we were staying in seperate rooms ( my friend one room, daughter and I in another room)
Friend called me and asked if we could room together because she's had some financial issues lately and she couldn't pay the whole amount herself. If I didn't then she would ask someone else. Big group is away.
I asked my daughter she said sure
Friend and I have roomed together in the past but I literally forgot how bad her snoring was.
Monday night was pretty bad. I couldn't sleep probably like 2 hours and same with DD.
I'm laying awake now. It's 1:45 am and she sounds like a freight train and again DD and I are awake.
We are going to be walking zombies in the morning.
I modified my original room reservation but never cancelled it.

I think DD and I are just going to tell her we are going to our own room. I feel bad about the money and sharing is helping us too but this is insane.
DH doesn't snore as bad and we sleep in seperate rooms at home because he keeps me awake.

If I confront her about the snoring, she'll somehow turn it around to make herself the martyr. We've been on again off again friends for almost 20 years, off again mainly because she can be very dramatic and set in her ways, with no room to compromise.
We have our dogs with us and this is my dogs first time in a hotel. She's not doing well , whining and barking in her crate so I am curled on a chair next to her crate to keep her quiet.
It's working. As long as I'm near she's ok.
I'm going to use my dog as an excuse . She may be more comfortable if we stayed separately . My friend will be responsible for about $100 extra dollars if DD and I change rooms.
Other people are already set with roommates and such so with the dog situation too, I seriously doubt she could find someone else to room with.
Opinions welcome!
Signed sleepless is Kentucky

She is going to complain no matter what, so just be honest.

In addition, you want to model behavior to your dd, so do it respectfully no matter how much she whines.

 

[nugov2]

I'd get a new room and still pay my share of the room. You told her you would and now it is too late for her to share with someone else. Sleeping in a room with someone who snores is unbearable so I understand that you want to move, but you committed to paying half and it would be wrong to go back on that. If she was being rude/messy etc. it would be one thing, but she cannot control snoring. Just because she could only afford the trip by room sharing doesn't mean she couldn't afford to go...just that she needed to be on a budget. It is like choosing a value over deluxe. Sometimes trips have to be planned with a certain budget in mind and the op agreed to help make that happen for her friend.

 

[Hikergirl]

There is no way I could stay in the same room. I would tell her the truth and get my own room. I would also pay my half for the room she is in.
Good luck, I hope you get good night's sleeps the rest of your trip.

 

[MataHari22]

Keep waking her up and telling her to roll over because she is snoring so loudly she is keeping you up. She will get annoyed and not want to share a room with you. But seriously, it sucks when you cannot sleep because someone is snoring. When I was married, I wore earplugs when I slept. Not only did my ex husband snore loudly, but he grinds his teeth. It's so bad that you could feel the crunching reverberate through the bed springs. He finally stopped sleeping with me, which was fine by me, because I was like a zombie from no sleep.

The last 4 trips that I was on, the woman I traveled with snores and I would wear earplugs and or sleep listening to my headphones. There was a few times I could still hear her over that.

If you care about the friendship, you can just move back to the other room and pay the $100 since you forgot how badly she snores and already committed to helping her out. If the money is more important and you don't care about being "off again", just tell her that you are moving into the other room.

 

[HM]

I travelled with a coworker once who was a big snorer. I had to wake her a couple times and tell her to turn over.
Did you try to do something about the situation last night, or just suffered silently?

 

[MIGrandma]

DH used to snore, before he started using a CPAP machine, and I would use earplugs. Can't you go buy some and try those first? If you buy the highest decible ones you can, and insert them properly, you shouldn't hear the snoring anymore. I do still use earplugs when we travel, as I'm a light sleeper and noises in hotels would wake me up.