Smart-mouthed kids? vent ahead

[mom2minniemouse]

Yes you are being derisive and you need to be punished harshly.
Derisiveness will NOT be tolerated.

Okay, so I'm being derisive. LOL!

But seriously, I have an English degree and it's killing me because sweatness is not a word. However, I can't determine if she meant "sweetness" or "sweatiness."

 

[vhoffman]

Geez!

I haven't checked back on this thread since posting it yesterday. Odd hobby some of you have, looking back to past posts to "analyze" someone.

But it seems you're having a rip roaring good time chewing on each other, so I'll leave you to your fun!

Oh, for those of you who seem to think its awful that I suggested my ds walk 2 miles, that's no more than the school district expects. If we live within 2 miles there's no bus service. It was one mile each way I expected him to walk, 2 mile round trip (guess I didn't specify that). It didn't hurt him any--I walked much further going to college, walking around campus. If someone offered me a ride I didn't repay him by giggling my head off if they couldn't immediately go from point A to B without a single misturn!

Driving them to functions, to video stores, out for "treats" etc., is not an obligation of mine, its a favor I do. Profuse thanks aren't expected, but being belittled is not something I should have to put up with, either!

 

[ilovejack02]

Geez!

I haven't checked back on this thread since posting it yesterday. Odd hobby some of you have, looking back to past posts to "analyze" someone.

But it seems you're having a rip roaring good time chewing on each other, so I'll leave you to your fun!

Oh, for those of you who seem to think its awful that I suggested my ds walk 2 miles, that's no more than the school district expects. If we live within 2 miles there's no bus service. It was one mile each way I expected him to walk, 2 mile round trip (guess I didn't specify that). It didn't hurt him any--I walked much further going to college, walking around campus. If someone offered me a ride I didn't repay him by giggling my head off if they couldn't immediately go from point A to B without a single misturn!

Driving them to functions, to video stores, out for "treats" etc., is not an obligation of mine, its a favor I do. Profuse thanks aren't expected, but being belittled is not something I should have to put up with, either!

Why do you get upset when we agree with your DH that you are being a bit over sensitive these days. You are the one that asked what we thought, so you got it. We didn't tell you that you are a horrible parent either, just one that is a bit on edge with dh not having a job right now.
As far as us having time to look up your past posts, I for one did not have to look one thing up. I know exactly who you are. As you can tell by my post count Im on here quite a bit and so are you. We all get to know each other around here. You asked how we felt about the cake/kid issue and how much laundry we do and you fussed about the dentist calling too much.
As to the kid walking two miles issue do whatever you think is right. Throwing out that the school board thinks its ok for them to walk 2 miles to school prob isnt going to change our minds on how most of us feel. It is my job to keep my child safe and at 9 yrs old Ill be damned he is going to walk 2 miles anywhere, I might be mad at him, but im not going to put my child's life in danger just to prove a point to him.
If you ask a question on here you might just get an answer you dont like, If you cant handle it then dont ask. You have been on these boards long enough to know that . When you have this many folks and you dh telling you that you are oversensitive then maybe we have a point.

 

[hello kitty]

I have no problem with the walking part. Walking is a wonderful thing. It's the alone part that worries me. Your son is nine, not college aged. I would find some other way to discipline him.

 

[vhoffman]

I have no problem with the walking part. Walking is a wonderful thing. It's the alone part that worries me. Your son is nine, not college aged. I would find some other way to discipline him.

What's the difference between that and him walking back and forth to school--alone? If its ok with the school district, why not for me? Seems like some here are just determined to make me out a bad parent. Guess I'll never be a member of the Practically Perfect Parent Club!

 

[ilovejack02]

What's the difference between that and him walking back and forth to school--alone? If its ok with the school district, why not for me? Seems like some here are just determined to make me out a bad parent. Guess I'll never be a member of the Practically Perfect Parent Club!

LOL, come on no one said you were a bad parent, we just dont agree on letting our kids walk anywhere at 9 yrs old alone. By the way, my child is in private school, i dont agree with anything our local school board does.
Ps im not perfect either no one is.

 

[hello kitty]

I wouldn't let my children walk back and forth from the bus stop alone. I wouldn't even let them wait there alone. I don't care if the school district thinks it's okay or not. They aren't accountable for my children at the end of the day, I am. They aren't the ones who are going to be heartbroken and devastated if something bad were to happen, I am. It's just not safe.

By the way, I'm not perfect. Far from it.

 

[seashoreCM]

I dion't understand.

Disney hints:
http://members.aol.com/ajaynejr/disney.htm

I meant to say, you recite the above to him when he mouths off. Pretend to be less smart than he is. (Where did I hear the sentence, "kids know everything"?) Get him to, on the spot, explain much more verbosely using simpler words, what he is trying to say.

Where did he learn the foul language? I should trust not from you. Using foul language yourself sets a bad example and not only will make the above not work but also encourage more smart mouthing.

I don't like the idea of punishing kids by making them do things that are good for them, such as walking two miles or (in gym class) doing pushups.

 

[mom2minniemouse]

Well, not sure what the law is where you're from, but if I let DD walk a mile alone to school at the age of 9, I'd be in JAIL! In CT, it is illegal to allow your child to be unsupervised at such a young age. I'm fairly certain most states have similar laws.

I'm also another person who didn't have to look anything up on you, OP. While I'm not perfect by any means, when you have so many people in your life saying that you're blowing things out of proportion and going over the edge, ya gotta wonder if it's not everyone else who's wrong, kwim????

As for an appropriate punishment, ITA that having a kid put in harm's way is NOT a proper punishment and IS rather harsh, IMO.

 

[rt2dz]

Just a little clarification:

My DS walks the two miles (each way) from school. However, my DS does not walk alone. I (and his two little brothers) walk with him. I *think* that is some of the pps point--SUPERVISION. See, that is what I don't understand--they can't use the oven even if you're right next to them, but they can go out alone in an area where more harm might actually come to them? I really think it's the stress and the need to control all that you can while other things are out of your control. I just think it is backfiring on you.

to you. Hopefully things will get better for you soon. All your posts do stand out (most noticably the teacher gift thread from way back on the budget board); I feel for you. It's tough.

 

[ilovejack02]

yes , that is what i was talking about, walking alone . Heck I wish mine was in public school, because we would walk lol. Its right around the corner. It would do my behind some good lol.

 

[grlpwrd]

...I really think it's the stress and the need to control all that you can while other things are out of your control. I just think it is backfiring on you.

to you. Hopefully things will get better for you soon. All your posts do stand out (most noticably the teacher gift thread from way back on the budget board); I feel for you. It's tough.

I agree.

My dh was unemployed for the month of December and I was on edge, too. It just manifested itself as insomnia for me.

vhoffman, I wish you well and I hope your dh gets a job soon.

 

[lillygator]

What's the difference between that and him walking back and forth to school--alone? If its ok with the school district, why not for me? Seems like some here are just determined to make me out a bad parent. Guess I'll never be a member of the Practically Perfect Parent Club!

I thought your son was home schooled and DD went to school?

 

[Steph9072]

What's the difference between that and him walking back and forth to school--alone? If its ok with the school district, why not for me? Seems like some here are just determined to make me out a bad parent. Guess I'll never be a member of the Practically Perfect Parent Club!

The only problem I have with a nine-year-old walking two miles are the sickos out there. You know the ones that watch for kids alone. The ones who get their jollies out of hurting kids. To me making your point or punishing a kid isn't worth risking their physical well being.

Like PP I thought I saw another post today from your ds was home schooled!?!?

 

[Lady V]

Geez!

I haven't checked back on this thread since posting it yesterday. Odd hobby some of you have, looking back to past posts to "analyze" someone.

But it seems you're having a rip roaring good time chewing on each other, so I'll leave you to your fun!

Oh, for those of you who seem to think its awful that I suggested my ds walk 2 miles, that's no more than the school district expects. If we live within 2 miles there's no bus service. It was one mile each way I expected him to walk, 2 mile round trip (guess I didn't specify that). It didn't hurt him any--I walked much further going to college, walking around campus. If someone offered me a ride I didn't repay him by giggling my head off if they couldn't immediately go from point A to B without a single misturn!

Driving them to functions, to video stores, out for "treats" etc., is not an obligation of mine, its a favor I do. Profuse thanks aren't expected, but being belittled is not something I should have to put up with, either!

umm...the difference is that you were in COLLEGE!!!!! and how old is your son? I don't care how upset I was I can't imagine putting my child in danger just because my feelings were hurt. Take away the gameboy? YES. Make him walk alone for 2 miles? NO WAY.

 

[vhoffman]

I thought your son was home schooled and DD went to school?

Hmmm....seems like you're following me around the board trying to find some sort of discrepancies in my posts. Yes, quite correct, dd goes to school and ds is homeschooled. so what's your point? I was stating the shcool's policy, not the children's routine.

 

[mom2minniemouse]

Hmmm....seems like you're following me around the board trying to find some sort of discrepancies in my posts. Yes, quite correct, dd goes to school and ds is homeschooled. so what's your point? I was stating the shcool's policy, not the children's routine.

Ummmm... No need for ANYONE to "follow" you around the boards. We all know who you are.

I saw that post, too! The "point" is that YOU said you were going to have your SON walk two miles to and from school when, in another post, you say he is HOMESCHOOLED. Now you've erased your original post, quite possibly because you were caught up in a lie and are now trying to backpaddle out of it. LOL!

B-U-S-T-E-D!

 

[mom2minniemouse]

Since you're in the mood for deleting your posts, I figured I'd point this quote out from you before you delete it and later change your story to say you meant that your DD was the one who would be walking to you:

Oh, for those of you who seem to think its awful that I suggested my ds walk 2 miles, that's no more than the school district expects. If we live within 2 miles there's no bus service. It was one mile each way I expected him to walk, 2 mile round trip (guess I didn't specify that).

 

[ohiominnie]

Since you're in the mood for deleting your posts, I figured I'd point this quote out from you before you delete it and later change your story to say you meant that your DD was the one who would be walking to you:

Oh, for those of you who seem to think its awful that I suggested my ds walk 2 miles, that's no more than the school district expects. If we live within 2 miles there's no bus service. It was one mile each way I expected him to walk, 2 mile round trip (guess I didn't specify that).

I'm not 100% sure, but wasn't she suggesting her son walk 2 miles round trip to Cub Scouts or Boy Scouts or something like that??? It's been awhile since I've checked this thread, but I don't think she was saying he'd have to walk to school.

 

[Hannathy]

Yes she was referring to Cub Scouts which is probably after the school day.

Why is everyone so h*** bent to be snarky about this. The woman is having some major problems in her life that I wouldn't wish on anyone and some on here have to be real ..can't say the word I want ..about it.

Millions of children walk 1 mile to school everyday without problem and yes in our district it is actually 2 miles each direction so there is not a thing wrong with him walking. While I disagreed with her on the original post I have to defend her letting him walk. If you don't let yours fine, but there is nothing wrong with a 9 yr old walking 1 mile like I said millions do it everyday. My 8 yr old walks to school by himself. Has since kindergarten.