Forgive me for inquiring as I don't mean to sound accusatory--but how do they know that she would have been brain damaged if you went for a VBAC? From the sounds of it--you went straight to A C-section, so I'm a bit confused.
As for the C--I'm trying to avoid it this time around. For a whole host of reasons. And I don't like that people tell me or imply to me that I'm endangering my baby as a result. (possible breech and will opt for a version)
My last was the...ummm...regular route and I do have nerve damage. I do know why I have that damage (pushed way too fast). No route is immune to its difficulties.
Many women and babies also died in child birth due to lack of hygeine. While the C-section has allowed babies (and moms) to otherwise live in situations that rendered a V delivery impossible, that is
not the majority of c-sections today. Lack of a c-section also wasn't responsible for all those deaths either.
But this thread wasn't the place to bring up that debate from the poster who brought it up.
OP--sorry about your complications. It's very weird how our bodies react to any type of trauma be it natural, accidental, or surgically inflicted.
I have a place on my foot where I had sliced it open when I was 9 and had stitches. To this day, I cannot have anyone touch me in that spot. It gives me the willies. I have sensation--it is not painful, but I cannot tolerate it at all. I cannot explain it.