Sleeping without SO- inspired by Teens sharing bed thread

[Rex Rules]

I don't sleep well alone, so if DH goes on a trip, DD just comes in and sleeps with me.
I, too, think it is totally inappropriate for teen siblings to be sleeping together.

 

[dizagain]

Ooohhh...I LOVE to have the bed to myself! DH and I are not "cuddlers" once we're asleep - I feel closed in if I'm touching someone while I sleep. Last night, for example, DH fell asleep on the couch watching tv after I had gone up to bed...I never woke up to wake him, so I had the bed to myself - ah!

 

[puffkin]

I don't mind sharing the bed with DH (especially now that we have evicted our dog from the bed and have more room). However, I do sleep really well the nights he falls asleep on the couch and just decides to stay there for the night.

 

[Skatermom23]

My first inspired thread!! Anyway am I the only one that can actually live without sleeping with DH once in a while? On another thread the OP didn't want to give up sleeping with her DH so that her teens of opposite sex don't have to share a bed. I can't imagine the big deal in not sleeping with your SO for a bit. Gosh, DH and I go on a lot of seperate trips and we sleep apart close to 8 weeks a year! Of course we do just as many together trips too. I just can't imagine being that attached to someone that you can't sleep without him. I've ony been married for 20 years so what do I know! LOL!

OP from other thread here...I can't believe how judgemental some people are. This is a vacation for us as well as the kids and we choose not to sleep apart. It has nothing to do with attachment issues. We just prefer not too. Obviously, if we had no other choice we would do so just to keep the kids from bickering. The point was that we do have options and I was only asking how other parents handled it. BTW, I have been married 19 years......

 

[SC Minnie]

Ooohhh...I LOVE to have the bed to myself! DH and I are not "cuddlers" once we're asleep - I feel closed in if I'm touching someone while I sleep. Last night, for example, DH fell asleep on the couch watching tv after I had gone up to bed...I never woke up to wake him, so I had the bed to myself - ah!

If Dh falls asleep on the couch I go upstairs really quiet so I don't wake him. I get to sprawl out in the middle of the bed

 

[kbkids]

I sleep alone about 4 nights a week. DH is a railroad worker, so he's not home a whole lot. If I worried about sleeping without him, I wouldn't get any sleep. That wouldn't be much fun.

I would much rather him be gone at night than have that dang crew caller wake me up at 2:00 a.m. I can never get back to sleep after then.

 

[tiggersmom2]

I've been married a lot (a real lot) longer than you. DH makes busines trips; I used to make business trips; I travel to see my dd. I am really perplexed by that poster. I wish she would explain. I can't help but wonder if they get affectionate with the children 3 feet away.

That is a mental image that I don't need.....

Back to the OP, I love having the bed all to myself. I take all the pillows and smush them around me and I am in "bed heaven".

 

[tiggersmom2]

I sleep alone about 4 nights a week. DH is a railroad worker, so he's not home a whole lot. If I worried about sleeping without him, I wouldn't get any sleep. That wouldn't be much fun.

Same here. I see there are 3 of us "railroad widows" on this thread...wow!

 

[CEDmom]

I love my DH with all my heart (even though he's a snoring coverhog ) so I'm perfectly fine not sleeping in the same bed with him if circumstances necessitated it.

 

[binny]

OP from other thread here...I can't believe how judgemental some people are. This is a vacation for us as well as the kids and we choose not to sleep apart. It has nothing to do with attachment issues. We just prefer not too. Obviously, if we had no other choice we would do so just to keep the kids from bickering. The point was that we do have options and I was only asking how other parents handled it. BTW, I have been married 19 years......

I totally understand where youre coming from


I would rather sleep with my dh than without him. It doesnt have anything to do with attachment issues or anything else. I just like to be near him. There is nothing wrong with that.



We have been apart a lot as well. He used to travel one week a month for business so we had to sleep apart. Neither one of us liked it.

 

[Skatermom23]

I totally understand where youre coming from

THANK YOU!!!!!

 

[jim and meesie]

OP from other thread here...I can't believe how judgemental some people are. This is a vacation for us as well as the kids and we choose not to sleep apart. It has nothing to do with attachment issues. We just prefer not too. Obviously, if we had no other choice we would do so just to keep the kids from bickering. The point was that we do have options and I was only asking how other parents handled it. BTW, I have been married 19 years......

Sleeping with or without my DH in no way constitutes anything related to vacation.

At home we have a big comfy King sized bed and it is the best! I have yet to find a bed quite as comfortable at any resort so really as long as we are in the same place I don't have to be in the same bed. My DD 13 is brutal to sleep with, taller than me and all legs and she does like to spread out! We have always had girls bed /boys bed on vacation (with oldest DS on the day bed). Originally it gave us parents more room on the smaller hotel beds when we slept with the two younger ones. Now we have to look for more two room/suite options.

When my DH and I go away alone, then I do insist on sleeping together, that's a real vacation!

 

[CharityLynn]

I'm another one who doesn't sleep with my husband every night. We're lucky to sleep in the same bed 2 times a week. He works 2-3 shift and he sleeps better without me waking him up in the morning to get the kids ready.

 

[cardaway]

There has been times when we have been stuck in a room with two double beds. After spending some time together we felt it was best to sleep in the separate beds rather then both be uncomfortable in one double bed. Both of us move too much in the night for that to work.

 

[slo]

DH and I have a king size bed so it almost feels like we are sleeping alone each night. I have to have my space when I sleep - so I want no touching

 

[KellyLynn]

I sleep alone monday -thursday Dh works out of town , I can tell you that I am so used to it that when he comes to bed friday night I can't stand it.

He is a snuggler and just having his legs on mine drives me crazy. I usually wake up and yell at him in the middle of the night about it lol.

 

[Disney Doll]

While I prefer to sleep with dh, I would absolutely sleep away from my dh to make the beds girl only or boy only if we had kids of the opposite sex. Heck, I've done it with our boys in motel rooms to keep them from fighting. Now they're both grossed out to sleep with me since I'm a girl, so I'm back in bed with dh and the boys are back to turf wars in their bed. We've discovered if we let my oldest take his fleece sleeping bad and sleep on top of the covers it eliminates a lot of stress.

Oh man!!! You have had your son sleep with you and admit it on the DIS!!!!!!!!!!!! Put on your flame-proof suit!!!!!

To the original question...I prefer to sleep with my DH. That is not to say that I cannot sleep without him. I can and I have. We have both been on business trips where the other person has not been there, and both of us are able to sleep alone. But guess what??? It's a lot nicer to sleep with him than without him. And I would assume he feels the same way about me. And I can tell you without a doubt that I'd be figuring out another alternative for sleeping arrangements (like a cot or an aerobed) on vacation if I had kids who "couldn't" sleep in the same bed before I wouldn't sleep with DH.

PS-We've been married for almost 15 years.

 

[mickeyfan2]

I don't see a big deal with it. I do think forcing teens that age to sleep together is not appropriate.

I agree. But if you want to sleep with SO then get the teens a second connecting room and that way they get their own be too.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

On Monday I returned from a week at WDW with my 18yo DD. I'll have to say that it was nice not sharing a bed with my DH since he snores. My DD only woke me up once when having a bad dream and I woke her once checking the door in my sleep because I thought someone knocked (hey, I was asleep ). Other than that I was actually able to sleep without listening to snoring.

I would have a hard time sharing with one of my kids, though, especially my 6yo. He kicks, sleeps sideways, etc and it's not restful being near him. We normally don't expect his siblings to sleep with him and we usually just make him a bed on the floor if we are short on beds. He doesn't mind and is little enough that it's not uncomfortable, or at least he doesn't complain.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Oh man!!! You have had your son sleep with you and admit it on the DIS!!!!!!!!!!!! Put on your flame-proof suit!!!!!

I assume that you are joking and/or being sarcastic! I have tried sleeping with my young son and, like I just mentioned in my other post, I don't get rest since my youngest is such a wiggle worm. The thought of sleeping with one of my male teens is ewwww! They smell!

My DH and I do sleep together on vacation. We have 4 kids, an 18yo DD and boys who are 15, 12, and 6yo. In standard hotel rooms my 2 middle kids share a bed, our DD gets the aerobed, and we make a bed on the floor for our youngest.

The boys did all crawl into bed last summer one night. It was our last night after my 12yo's Cooperstown baseball tournament and the boys were all worn out, especially my 12yo after staying in a dorm with his teammates the rest of the week. I'll see if I can find that pic to post of three sleepy boys the next morning. That night the 6yo was on the floor, but must have crawled into bed with his bros during the night.

My boys would die if they knew I was posting this pic.

When we can we get a suite type room. In that case my DD gets the sleeper sofa, my DH and I one bed, and either my 2 middle kids share and we give the youngest the aerobed or one of the older boys gets the aerobed and my youngest sleeps with the other boy. We juggle around different nights and it all works out. My middle boys don't like sharing, but they always have the option of sleeping on the floor.