Sister's Wedding brunch

[mjkacmom]

Oh you really need to pick up some bridal magazines. This day after brunch is a trend that was just getting started when I got married 5 and a half yrs ago. I can imagine its only grown since. And for those who do it it is frequently considered an extension of the wedding reception. Some couples even invite everybody who's coming to the reception. IMO since the Bride and Groom are attending the brunch the celebration continues until they have left for their honeymoon.

As for the shower, seeing as how it is still overwhelmingly a women event, I can't imagine him incurring any costs or needing to attend. If he can't spend 2 days in a row with his GF's family than they have issues they need to work out.

It's not a new trend. Every out-of-town wedding I've been invited to has included a breakfast paid for by the bride and groom (or their parents). It would be weird to expect people to attend breakfast together, as a group, at a certain time, and not pick up the tab. If you want the guest to pay for their own breakfast, don't hold a group breakfast - let them get up and do as they please.

 

[Disney Doll]

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It's important in a relationship to BOTH see EACH OTHERS' sides... I wouldn't want to be in a relationship where we both had to do every single thing WITH the other. Being an individual is an important part, too. So is communication. So far, we have no idea if OP and boyfriend met at a bar 3 weeks ago, and decided 4 days ago to date exclusively... I guess you are right. I guess I am assuming that if someone really wanted their BF to attend a family event, that they would have known said BF longer than 3 weeks. I can't imagine wanting to have a new BF be so involved in a family event of mine after knowing him 3 weeks. My bad, I guess, for assumong that this is a longer than 3 week old relationship. Suddenly doing EVERYTHING with the new GF's family would be a big leap. Also, we still don't know if OP assumed BF she really, really WANTED him to attend the intimate, immediate family brunch or if she TOLD him it's THAT important to her. You are correct. We don't know that.

OK OP, I'll amend my advice:

Assuming this is a BF of a significant length of time where there is an expectation that he would want to do things to make you happy and you would want to do things to make him happy, and assuming that you were explicitly clear with the fact that this was a very important event to you and he is still refusing to go to this brunch on "principal", then I would consider it a problem.

How's that? Everybody happy now?