Sister Vent: Enough

[momof2inPA]

I have a sister that I didn't see eye to eye with for many many years. We had many battles over trivial things and went long periods of time without speaking but in the last few years we've become very close. My sister died this morning after a brief battle with stave IV breast cancer. Trust me, I can't imagine what we would be going through right now if we didn't have the blessing of the last few days in particular with her.

Oh my goodness! I'm so sorry for your loss and glad that you were able to patch things up.

My sisters are my best friends, my touch stones, and my safe havens. I can't imagine not having them in my life.

 

[eeyore kelly]

I have a sister that I didn't see eye to eye with for many many years. We had many battles over trivial things and went long periods of time without speaking but in the last few years we've become very close. My sister died this morning after a brief battle with stave IV breast cancer. Trust me, I can't imagine what we would be going through right now if we didn't have the blessing of the last few days in particular with her.

I am sorry for your lost.

 

[eeyore kelly]

My mom asked me to come over today, and I knew it had something to do with the stuff from last night. I went, and she said that I am not the only one having problems with my sister. She has told my mom things like "Don't talk to my daughter like that. You don't love me anymore. Etc. " Mom didn't get into a lot of details, but she did let me know I was not alone. My dad has even told her in the last 2 months, "Don't you ever talk to my wife that way again."

I told my DM I am not expending energy on a relationship with my sister and BIL. She was understanding, but she asked me to revisit my decision in three months. I told her I will, but if I was still at peace with my decision, she would have to respect that. She agreed and thanked me for trying with my sister as long as I did.

I feel much better tonight, and have turned my thoughts to the upcoming week and my four tests.

Thank you all for listening to my vent and being so supportive.

 

[lbgraves]

(((HUGS))) If your DM & DF can understand your decision for similar reasons...then I don't think anyone can tell you that you are doing the wrong thing. Sleep on your decision & if you are at peace with it, then it is the right one for you.

 

[YourMajesty]

My mom asked me to come over today, and I knew it had something to do with the stuff from last night. I went, and she said that I am not the only one having problems with my sister. She has told my mom things like "Don't talk to my daughter like that. You don't love me anymore. Etc. " Mom didn't get into a lot of details, but she did let me know I was not alone. My dad has even told her in the last 2 months, "Don't you ever talk to my wife that way again."

I told my DM I am not expending energy on a relationship with my sister and BIL. She was understanding, but she asked me to revisit my decision in three months. I told her I will, but if I was still at peace with my decision, she would have to respect that. She agreed and thanked me for trying with my sister as long as I did.

I feel much better tonight, and have turned my thoughts to the upcoming week and my four tests.

Thank you all for listening to my vent and being so supportive.

Just wanted to wish you peace and good will. I have very simialr problems with my sister, niece, and nephew. Basically, they take the victim role with everyone including the mean Aunt. Only my sister and Grandma can be "fair". It soooo frustrating and it's a no win situation. If you correct them you are mean and if you ignore them you're a snob.

 

[chrissyk]

I told my DM I am not expending energy on a relationship with my sister and BIL. She was understanding, but she asked me to revisit my decision in three months. I told her I will, but if I was still at peace with my decision, she would have to respect that. She agreed and thanked me for trying with my sister as long as I did.

I just wanted to say that your mother sounds like one decent woman. My MIL lost her relationship with my husband because she would NOT accept that he wasn't going to give his sister infinite "second chances" because "she's family". She kept calling to harrass him about giving his sister another chance, about sitting down to "work things out," etc. Some people just don't get the fact that an adult has the right to choose who NOT to expend the energy on a relationship with. I am very, very glad to hear that there are rational parents out there somewhere. You are very lucky!

 

[Serena]

I have a sister that I didn't see eye to eye with for many many years. We had many battles over trivial things and went long periods of time without speaking but in the last few years we've become very close. My sister died this morning after a brief battle with stave IV breast cancer. Trust me, I can't imagine what we would be going through right now if we didn't have the blessing of the last few days in particular with her.

I'm sorry for your loss Allan.