Singles who are for the "Love of Disney" - Part 3

[katydidbug1]

Love ya

 

[katydidbug1]

You mean you're supposed to unpack? I thought everyone kept a packed suitcase, marked "for use only at WDW"?

(and the funny thing is y'all probably think I'm kidding )

 

[Sha]

SA's Both of you....

no... im a Brat! get it right

 

[MOREMICKEYFORME]

I'm a little goody-goody...I did all my laundry when I got home!!!

 

[Carrieannew]

I'm a little goody-goody...I did all my laundry when I got home!!!

What time will you be arriving to do mine?

 

[dismem98]

I'll send mine right over too has soon as I unpack....


Patty

 

[sand2270]

Mine is still sitting on the floor...figured I would just do laundry and throw it all back in there for next week

 

[ttester9612]

I've unpacked, did the and repacked for my next trip which is Jun 24 to July 9th. Heading to Portland, OR for a convention and then on to Vancouver, BC to catch my cruise to Alaska.

 

[black562]

no... im a Brat! get it right

Hmmm, don't you have some packing to do? Where is it you're going again, I can't seem to remember????

 

[Sha]

Hmmm, don't you have some packing to do? Where is it you're going again, I can't seem to remember????

Im going... to Virginia

oh lets not talk about the packing... you will give Cait HIVES

passes Cait Benedryl

 

[nurse.darcy]

I'm a little goody-goody...I did all my laundry when I got home!!!

I am with you Ro, unpacked and threw it in the laundry when I got home. . .the moment I arrived. I am just not officially home till the suitcase is unpacked and the laundry going.

 

[Sha]

I've unpacked, did the and repacked for my next trip which is Jun 24 to July 9th. Heading to Portland, OR for a convention and then on to Vancouver, BC to catch my cruise to Alaska.

I want to see your Vancouer and Alaskan cruise pictures. Vancouver is another place I would like to go.

 

[ttester9612]

I want to see your Vancouer and Alaskan cruise pictures. Vancouver is another place I would like to go.

Noted..

 

[black562]

Sorry to shift gears here, I'm torn at the moment.

I just found out my half-brother had prostate cancer, and that its progressed to the point that its inoperable. His only option for treatment now is chemo.

When my Father passed, for various reasons, my two half-sibblings stopped talking to us. Now I'm at a point where part of me feels for him, yet the other part feels numb...as if I don't know him. He stopped talking to me, didn't aknowledge my wedding, nor my divorce in any way, and its literally been years since we've even spoken.

I'm not sure what happens now, but I wanted to vent here a little. Its difficult to know what I'm feeling when he seems like a stranger to me. Anyone else in a situation like this?

 

[GIR-Prototype]

Sorry to shift gears here, I'm torn at the moment.

I just found out my half-brother had prostate cancer, and that its progressed to the point that its inoperable. His only option for treatment now is chemo.

When my Father passed, for various reasons, my two half-sibblings stopped talking to us. Now I'm at a point where part of me feels for him, yet the other part feels numb...as if I don't know him. He stopped talking to me, didn't aknowledge my wedding, nor my divorce in any way, and its literally been years since we've even spoken.

I'm not sure what happens now, but I wanted to vent here a little. Its difficult to know what I'm feeling when he seems like a stranger to me. Anyone else in a situation like this?

My take?

Feel sorry that the boy you called brother, who at times picked on you and helped you in true brotherly fashion, won't get a chance to come back out of the shell of a man that grew up around him and bond.

The man who supplanted him, who disowned you and your half of the family...who has ignored your existence...he doesn't really deserve your pity or sadness. He's not like a suffering anonymous person who has never done you any wrong, he has actively maltreated and ignored you.

As a fellow human, sadness over his suffering is perfectly fine...but short of you being able to help in his cure, were it me, I wouldn't go out of my way.

Except...
You and I are good guys though...and we would help even our enemies if they genuinely needed it and asked for it; it's part of what distinguishes our moral character.

 

[black562]

My take?

Feel sorry that the boy you called brother, who at times picked on you and helped you in true brotherly fashion, won't get a chance to come back out of the shell of a man that grew up around him and bond.

The man who supplanted him, who disowned you and your half of the family...who has ignored your existence...he doesn't really deserve your pity or sadness. He's not like a suffering anonymous person who has never done you any wrong, he has actively maltreated and ignored you.

As a fellow human, sadness over his suffering is perfectly fine...but short of you being able to help in his cure, were it me, I wouldn't go out of my way.

Except...
You and I are good guys though...and we would help even our enemies if they genuinely needed it and asked for it; it's part of what distinguishes our moral character.

I can see where you're coming from, and that's pretty much how part of me feels. The other part feels guilty for thinking that way. But, like I said, he's almost a stranger to me. He has a son that I haven't seen for so long...he was in a wedding I attended and I didn't even recognize him....my own nephew!!!

So again, I'm torn between two sets of feelings.

 

[Sha]

Joe... sort of have been where you are, but not for the length of time that you and your brother have been separated.

If you can, be the bettter person, and be there for him or at least for his son. Say some prayers and also hope he gets a second opinion too (quickly). Its a sad thing that something like this brings you back into his life, instead of reaching out just to mend the broken pieces. This is why I try to play nice with others. Life is too short for that crap.

 

[black562]

Joe... sort of have been where you are, but not for the length of time that you and your brother have been separated.

If you can, be the bettter person, and be there for him or at least for his son. Say some prayers and also hope he gets a second opinion too (quickly). Its a sad thing that something like this brings you back into his life, instead of reaching out just to mend the broken pieces. This is why I try to play nice with others. Life is too short for that crap.

I understand where you're coming from and I'll have to see what becomes of this. The trouble with me is, it seems like I'm always the one being the better person and sometimes that gets me taken advantage of. I'm honestly not sure what I would say if I confronted him at this point? I may snap loose and tell him how he's made me feel over the years, how much hurt he's caused the family, how petty and self-centered he's been...and maybe that does need said. I suppose I'll have to say what I feel at the moment, but I'm not going to sugarcoat however I'm feeling just because of his illness. I do believe he deserves to, and needs to know and understand how he's made others feel. Whether its me who tells him that is uncertain at the moment.

Time will tell I suppose...

 

[MOREMICKEYFORME]

Joe-
I have never been in the situation you are currently in, so I cannot speak from experience.
However, I can say that I always try to treat everyone with the same courtesy I would give a stranger. I know that may sound weird, but I would never tell a stranger they are ugly, their outfit is hideous, or ignore them if they were obviously in need, etc.
If this were a stranger on the boards reporting that they were sick and needed a prayer or two- I know you would be the first to step up and offer one. With that being said, I think you should send a simple card and write a little note that you are thinking of him and you have him in your prayers.
I know there are hurt feeling and issues you want to discuss, but that can wait. Extend a gesture to let him know you are there for him (even though he couldn't be there for you) You are the bigger man Joe. I haven't met you personally, but I can tell from your posts that you have compassion for others.
Hugs to you Joe!!!

 

[Sha]

Joe-
I have never been in the situation you are currently in, so I cannot speak from experience.
However, I can say that I always try to treat everyone with the same courtesy I would give a stranger. I know that may sound weird, but I would never tell a stranger they are ugly, their outfit is hideous, or ignore them if they were obviously in need, etc.
If this were a stranger on the boards reporting that they were sick and needed a prayer or two- I know you would be the first to step up and offer one. With that being said, I think you should send a simple card and write a little note that you are thinking of him and you have him in your prayers.
I know there are hurt feeling and issues you want to discuss, but that can wait. Extend a gesture to let him know you are there for him (even though he couldn't be there for you) You are the bigger man Joe. I haven't met you personally, but I can tell from your posts that you have compassion for others.
Hugs to you Joe!!!

And if I may add, you may never get to say how you feel to him. I was lucky that despite the estrangement between me and my father (because of his wife), seeing him when she wasnt around helped. I saw him in the hospital and he told me "we are okay" and that is all he had to tell me. Not everyone can get that peace so easily. Hopefully you can however it needs to happen or it is meant to happen. Will say a prayer or 2 for you.