Single Mom seeks WDW advice

[LaneOT]

Hey all fellow Dissers... my trouble is this: I have a DBF but dont want to take him on my WDW trip... he was a hinderance last year when we went and I cried all the time... I want to enjoy this trip with my DD and DS 10 and 12 ... should I just book it for all of us, or should I "man Up" and say no way to jose

 

[kevschickee]

I would simply tell him its a trip for you and the kids. Plain and simple. Too bad if he doesn't like it. If he caused you to cry imagine how the kids felt.

 

[LaneOT]

It was the smallest of things that set me off... and I feel that if I paid for it, I should be HAPPY

 

[disneymomofmyca]

I go with just my DD7 every year. My hubbie went in 2007 and although he was fine while there...he didn't really enjoy it like me. I love our special mommy and me trips. It is such a wonderful time of bonding and having something special for just you and the kids. And if your DBF makes it miserable for you, isn't it then also miserable for your kids? No kids want to see there mom sad or cry. I say go with out him and have a blast! You will be so happy you did

 

[kevschickee]

It was the smallest of things that set me off... and I feel that if I paid for it, I should be HAPPY

Yes you should and that is why he should stay home

 

[LaneOT]

I am leaning towards just going me and my guys, I've never done a trip by myself...its a little leary for me

 

[kevschickee]

It would make me nervous too but think of all the fun you guys will have. Good luck with whatever you chose

 

[pyrxtc]

Go without him. Just because he is your DBF doesn't mean he has to do everything with you. You are allowed to have fun without him, unless he is paying for all of you to go then you need to bring him.

A lot of people go wihtut their significant other. I am doing just that in September.

 

[polkadotsuitcase]

I am leaning towards just going me and my guys, I've never done a trip by myself...its a little leary for me

You can do it! I pulled a 31-foot camper 11 hours down to WDW last fall with just my two boys (10 and 8 at the time). The only thing I was freaked out about was stopping to get gas -- I was anxious about finding places I could pull into with the trailer, but we did great. We stayed a week, and we have the BEST memories of that trip!

You'll have a blast.

 

[MomTo4+more]

Another single mom here chiming in to say go for it. I travel alone all the time with my children. I love the fun time it gives us together. Considering last time, you would probably have a better chance at precious memories if he stays at home. Have fun with your kids!

 

[ireland_nicole]

I'd be honest about it, but not make it too big a deal; it's a mommy and me trip with your kids; end of discussion.

 

[Reagan&Co.]

I know a girl that leaves her DH at home and takes them herself, or takes her mom. They have a great time without him!

I bet the kids would probably just prefer your undivided attention, anyway.

 

[Maggie'sMom]

Book the trip for just you and the kids. There's no sense in going with someone who will spoil the fun for you.

I'm a single mom and have taken DD by myself twice. Once at 3 and once at 5 years old. I'm planning a trip for the two of us for next August when she will be just shy of 7.

I was a little anxious the first time, but my DD and I had done one day in the MK with my parents when she was 2. I was miserable. All my parents did was complain about long lines (it was early February and the longest line was to meet the princesses which was 30 minutes, everything else was 10 minutes at most) and the cost of everything (but they wouldn't let me pay for anything). I decided that day I was coming back the next year for a multi-day trip, without anyone but DD. We had a blast.

 

[TreesyB]

Single mom chiming in here too. Love to go to Disney as a single mom. It's much easier to deal with; valet service is great! And I bought into DVC so I could always experience that on my vacations Enjoy!

 

[urbanpeach]

Disney World is a place to be happy and enjoy the time with your kids....if your already stressing about it now then you probably aren't going to have a good time when your there with DBF. Enjoy the time for yourself and your kids. Paying to go to Disney is a big sacrifice for a single mom...you don't want to to pay for all that and then be miserable...your kids will be miserable too...they have mommy radar like that...they can sense when mom isn't happy and when mom isn't happy then nobodys happy. I am a single mom taking my son by myself in September and there are plenty of other single moms that do it too. It'll be a lot easier with just you and two happy kids than if you have someone who you were counting on to help who just turns out to be more of a nussiance and a pain. Be greatful that you have the opportunity to go on the trip and make it a happy one for you and your kids!

 

[disneynewbee]

I would go without him, you don't want to have another trip with regrets. Since your kids are a little older it should be pretty easy to manage. I would be more nervous if they were little and in strollers. One thing though is the uneven number for rides. Are one of you ok riding single or do you maybe have a girlfriend or family member that you and your kids enjoy spending time with that might want to join you guys. After the last experience though taking the boyfriend would be out of the question. I would tell that you feel like your kids need some mommy bonding time and so that you are taking them alone. Don't feel guilty about it.

 

[Leajess99]

I am leaning towards just going me and my guys, I've never done a trip by myself...its a little leary for me

I am a single parent of 3 and lately it has only been the younger 2 that go with me. While it can be scary, I think you will do fine by yourself with your children. If you are having too much anxiety than see if someone other than DBF would like to go. I would highly recommend taking the trip with your kids without the DBF. You need to be able to enjoy the time with your kids and seeing you miserable probably doesn't make the kids enjoy themselves either.

 

[kckmom]

Go for it, leave him home if he makes you upset. The planning is one of the most fun parts and it sounds like you cannot enjoy that until you decide what to do about the DBF. Good luck, hope it works out great for you and your children.

 

[Laurabearz]

I am leaning towards just going me and my guys, I've never done a trip by myself...its a little leary for me

I am spending 8 days with my THREE without my husband and my kids ages are 10, 8, and 6.

In fact we leave today!!!

I'll let ya know how it goes