Single Disneyland Passholders Unite

[Writer04]

…to Page 3. Oh the shame.

So I got to thinking about our brainchild that was the Single Disneyland Passholders Unite message board and how I hadn’t visited it some time. Oh the shame when I found that our board had fallen to Page 3 of the Disneyland (California) posting section.

Over 580 folks have visited our board, five (at last count) have posted and 19 times (this being the 20th). I thought I should take this opportunity to bump us back up to the top.

Is it possible that of the 580+ folks that have visited our board, only 5 are single and from southern California? Hmmm.

As many times as I have been back to DL since my return to So Cal, last night was the first time that I watched the 50th Anniversary fireworks show from inside the park. My sister and I have been on a CA Adventure kick lately. The show was UNBELIEVEABLE.

I had to work late and got to the park around 9:00. Stopped at Blue Ribbon for coffee, stopped by a vender, Steve, for a churro and headed off toward Fantasyland. For those that have seen the fireworks from inside the park, Fantasyland is not an option and by the time I got there, everything in front of the castle was taken.

Rumor is that there is some sort of projection that occurs in front of the castle. That was the only part I couldn’t see. Alright united single pass holder folks…

A better-than-descent place to check out the show and see everything except the projection stuff in front of the castle is on the Tomorrowland side of the Plaza Inn patio (just to the right of the rockets).

The lazar part, the spinning pinwheels and Tinker Bell are all visible from the Plaza Inn patio. You can sit comfortably drinking your coffee and eating your churro all while having a great view of the show. It was quite amazing.

Now rumor also has it that the 50th Anniversary fireworks end Sunday, September 24, 2006. With that, I suggest everyone go as many times between now and then because with the entertainment changes that are currently in place at DL (not all for the better), you simply don’t know what the next show will bring.

 

[jayally]

Hi! Sounds perfect for me. I don't check this site often as I am planning a WDW trip for Nov 2007 and check the WDW budget boards but I will bookmark this thread.

I am also newly single and LOCAL californian- (fontana- a bit closer than moreno valley/riverside area). I am a 37 yr old female with a 10 yr old daughter and 12 yr old son. We are annual passholders and going to DL on thursday aug 24 after having our summer blocked. I am not a disney fanatic but enjoy the ambiance, especially at night. My son wants to be an imagineer so I go mainly so he can check out details for his disney rollercoaster tycoon park he is building.

I have tried nightclubs, bars and internet dating but I just don't know how to connect, I tend to hide in the corners and not take any chances so this is a start! 18 years with one person makes it hard to start over but I am tired of being alone after 16 months.

 

[Writer04]

So Cal Pass Holder Singles meet jayally. jayally meet the So Cal Pass Holder Singles. There must be more of us out there (over 680 folks have at least checked us out). But alas, there’s only us.

Odd that so many folks enter but so few post a message. What should we think about that?

Perhaps it is the “unknown factor” related to who makes up So Cal Single Pass Holders. So just in case that's it, I have hesitantly, if not reluctantly, posted my picture once again. Not totally convinced that having my mug up there is accomplishing anything positive but there I am. Good grief, I need to find a less studio, less contrived picture. But that’s me and it’s the most current one I’ve got (4 months or so, I think). What can you do?

So at last count we have four So Cal Pass Holder Singles (Hermosa, Anaheim, Fontana, Irvine/Riverside) and approximately 4 kids (itty-bitty, nearly-5, 10 and 12). We have a San Jose (not exactly So Cal but CA anyway) and an AZ (probably closer than San Jose, though geography is not my thing). I have no sense of direction. And we have an unknown CA location…could be from just about anywhere, I guess.

Our newest addition brings up an interesting point. jayally wrote, “I have tried nightclubs, bars and internet dating but I just don't know how to connect, I tend to hide in the corners and not take any chances so this is a start!” Not a bad point at all and that takes us to the Message of the Day (WARNING…I’m a writer by trade and can be a bit wordy but only have 20 minutes or so to spare this afternoon so it should be brief):

There is a common expression, “today’s 30s are just like yesterdays 20s.” Whoever started that viscous rumor is sorely mistaken because being 30-something today is NOTHING like being 20-something yesterday. Twenty-something was a bit more than yesterday for some and, even if it was yesterday (Happy Birthday), life drastically changed as soon as 30-something became a descriptive term for ourselves.

What could be worse than the statement alone? Typically some nonsense about “how great it must be to be single at 30” comes shortly after. “Great to be single at 30?” That couldn’t be further from the truth. There is absolutely nothing good about being 30-something and single.

Now there is an argument to be made that at 30, one has learned from experience and is now better prepared to tackle the daunting task of dating. How does the saying go? “If I only knew then what I know now.” When it comes to dating, what is known now that wasn’t known then?

The only thing that is better understood now is that all the dating done in during as 20-somethings was a futile exercise that, after nearly 10 years of participation, achieved next-to-nothing in 10 years. There are those exceptions when kids are involved. Kids are great and are not included in the “futile exercise” statement. Y’all know what I mean though. But wait, there’s more.

Someone forgot to tell the human body that today’s 30s are just like yesterday’s 20s. If hair color isn’t an issue (meaning – if you are a guy – gray hasn’t taken over as the primary shade), there are likely a few extra pounds present that weren’t there in your 20s. If the weight is down, there is likely gray or no hair at all. How would that little piece of information helped back in your 20s?

Remember all of the working out you did in your 20s? Still doing that today, 30-somethings? Not likely. And as a result of the health-conscience ways of the past – again if you’re a guy – the nice chest once built up has –due to, among other things, gravity – now become a significant part of a waistline. If known then, fellas, that your chest was going to drop, would the working out have stopped? Oh, it would not have.

Truth is – and to be a little cliché – our bed has been made and let the sleeping in it begin…and alone. There is a significant difference between “being alone” and “being lonely.” Twenty-somethings can be alone. Single thirty-somethings are often lonely. We just – again, for the most part – have a harder time meeting folks. In some cases our “circle of friends” chose the other one. In other cases, a significant relocation occurred and your “circle of friends” has to stay behind.

Another truth is that today’s 20s are much like yesterday’s 20s. Thirty today is very similar to 30 yesterday. It’s not the moment in time that has changed but the environment that moments in time are now occurring. If 30-something and single, one of three things has happened: You might not have gotten married and had children, you could have gotten married, had children but got divorced or – perhaps the most difficult – never got married, didn’t have children. Sure there are exceptions to every rule but, generally speaking, single 30-somethings have experienced one of those three. And of the three categories, which one sounds marketable today?

Furthermore, if known then, of the absence of marketability that being 30-something and single would become, would the 20-something decisions have been different? Would we have done anything differently? Would we have gotten married just because? Stayed single? Would children have made a difference (they certainly bring about joy if you have them)?

Anyone have a big career in your 20s? If known as a 20-something that a career would take up the better part of 10 hours in a 24-hour day, would you have skipped the interviews? Nah…careers are as important to many as relationships are. Been driving a mini-van long? Would a better understanding of the comfort, reliability and convenience of the mini-van as a 20-something made the mini-van purchase happen quicker?

For most, turning 30 or turning 40 is rough. From what I’ve read, rarely are both difficult. I didn’t do 30 well so 40 should be a breeze. And for me, the only thing worse than being 30-something is being 30-something and single.

At 35, I am about 3 years removed from being able to pull off the dance club-thing. I am significantly better at the bar/lounge-thing but have cut back on the adult beverages because I am the one (above) that ended up with the gray-ish hair. Distinguished! Please. Bar/Lounge introduction place a premium of conversation. Conversation is what I do better in my 30s (it was doing my Marky Mark Good Vibrations dance on the bar in my 20s). Oh how times have changed.

That brings us to the Internet. Whoo, talk about a toss of the coin. But if you’re going to try the Internet-thing, what better place to it than on a message board filled with Single Disney Pass Holders? What better place to “connect” for the first time than at the Happiest Place on Earth. Is there a “safer” place for a first meeting? I think not.

So jump on board you wild and crazy 30 to 40-year-old Single So Cal Disney Pass Holders (mid- to upper-20s can certainly apply and no disrespect to the 41+ crowd but feel free to use our message board model if you’d like).

It’s not much but there are 4 of us…at least. I went three minutes over my alotted 20. Hope it generated a giggle or two.

 

[disneegrl4eva]

I guess Im the unknown California person...I swear I told everybody I was from Merced but maybe I didnt...I also have family in Moreno Valley...was there in June and wont be back till Christmas..

 

[Rapunsel]

writero4...



5 days........

 

[jayally]

an excellent post, perhaps you should do an article about the dating woes of the single 30-something.

All my friends are married and their friends are married, I think I need to find a new group of friends! Where does a 37 yr old divorced mother of 2 really fit in? I was married for so long that navigating the single scene is very intimidating, I actually forgot how to have fun! I have to say I am really looking forward to that "first date", it will be like my first time all over again

Disney appeals to all ages and is a fun and safe environment and I do feel that if someone still has enough child inside them to want to visit Disney then they can't be so bad- but then again I never thought my Ex would just up and leave me with 2 kids, which in retrospect was the best thing to of happened to me. I now have a 2nd chance at life, how many people can say that? There always has to be a positive somewhere.

 

[Writer04]

...consider the depression...REVERSED.

 

[disneegrl4eva]

Im getting depressed now

 

[eatmypixiedust]

I think it would be fun for everyone to meet fellow Mickey Mouse addicts and not just if you're single I confess I'm not single (not married though). My bf is not into Disney like I am. There are times when he will come along but most of the time he's just not into it (he's more into cars and computers). I do have an AP and hit the parks as often as I can. However, it would be nice to have a group where everyone can meet each other and just hang out with fellow Disney lovers..

 

[Writer04]

...down to Page 4. Sadness.

 

[MagicalMomAZ]

I am no longer single but being a once single mom & being a strong lover of Disney I would have jumped on this even if I DO love a state away!
I say advertise somehow & get the info out there because this would be a wonderful opportunity for many!
I once had a BF in my college days that took me for a date to DL ( I visited CA to see him) - it was the most magical date ever!!!