Single DIS'ers...Is Disney a Deal Breaker for You?

[WaltD4Me]

I've been thinking about the DISBoards discussion show and whether or not Disney would be deal breaker for me? I would definitely prefer someone who shared my love of Disney, but hearing the odds this week, I guess I have to be realistic. I couldn't be with a Disney "hater" but I could probably deal with "Disney Indifference." My sister's DH has zero interest in Disney, but he doesn't mind Disney stuff in the house. I don't know what he would think about Mickey pots and pans or silverware, he's okay with her Disney picture frames and figurines. And he doesn't mind if she goes to WDW with me or if she takes my nieces. My sister isn't the total Disney Geek that I am though.

Then I think, would I really want someone that is as into Disney as I am? Disney is sort of my thing, would I want to be with someone like me Disney wise? I honestly don't know. I thought about it alot and I think for me, I'd be happier with a relationship something like Pete and Walter, where the person I'm with appreciates my passion, but has a different one of his own.

 

[Cherinva]

I"m in a relationship with someone who loves Disney, but if that were to ever change, I would have to say that it would be a deal breaker for me.

 

[sceavis]

It is a deal breaker for me I am full on Disney in life and would prob just drive away the other person which would be unfair to them.It's is my hobby and passion in life.

 

[Cap.Steamboat Willie]

I think if you are in love with someone you would take an interest in their likes and hobbies. It could be anything from books, movies, food, etc.

So if Disney is a passion (and we know that that can mean movies, parks, resorts, art, history etc.) then I'm sure people who are interested in you will also take an interest in at least seeing why you love it so. In the process they too may acquire a love for your Disney fixation. Then again they may never achieve the same level of affection that you hold for Disney, but this too does not have to be a deal breaker.

I cannot help but note that there are a lot of couples out there who may not share the same fervor over a hobby and are still happy with one another. The term football widow comes to mind. I'm also sure that can also apply to fishing, golf, basketball, etc.

If you both are well rounded individuals and have a healthy respect for one another then I do not see why not having the same love for Disney would be the final nail in the relationship.

 

[WaltD4Me]

I think if you are in love with someone you would take an interest in their likes and hobbies. It could be anything from books, movies, food, etc.

So if Disney is a passion (and we know that that can mean movies, parks, resorts, art, history etc.) then I'm sure people who are interested in you will also take an interest in at least seeing why you love it so. In the process they too may acquire a love for your Disney fixation. Then again they may never achieve the same level of affection that you hold for Disney, but this too does not have to be a deal breaker.

I cannot help but note that there are a lot of couples out there who may not share the same fervor over a hobby and are still happy with one another. The term football widow comes to mind. I'm also sure that can also apply to fishing, golf, basketball, etc.

If you both are well rounded individuals and have a healthy respect for one another then I do not see why not having the same love for Disney would be the final nail in the relationship.

I agree with what you are saying, but I see a difference in Disney because it it's a little more than a one day hobby, it's a vacation/travel destination, if you are a football widow, you go shopping on Sundays, but for a Disney fan, especially a Disney travel fan, whose passion includes Disney trips once, twice, three times a year, that is a little different if your partner doesn't want to participate.

 

[corky441]

The first times I went to WDW with my now husband, we did it gradually. We stayed at my parents home and the Disney aspect wasn't 100%.
then we started staying on site & went to the parks too much. It was a toxic overkill for our relationship.
Now that we have been there more times than I can ever count, we have toned it down. We now enjoy each others company and relax while we are there.
I have to admit, Disney is my passion and it could have very well been a deal breaker...luckily I never have to know that

 

[mainegal]

Unless Disney is such an overwhelming passion that it consumes a high percentage of your waking hours, I say be open to all that life and another person can offer. My opinion, from many years of experience. For myself, I prefer more balance.

 

[safetymom]

Yes at this stage of my life Disney would be a deal breaker. My last husband and I had a love of cars along with a lot of other things. But he hated to travel and I loved to travel. He tolerated it.

Since Disney is a large part of my life Mr. Right would need to understand my passion for Disney and not question it. He would not need to be as passionate as me. I am also open to learning and enjoying whatever he would enjoy also.

 

[bdoyledimou]

I dated a woman for a year, and for our one year anniversayr we went to Disney for a week.

After being at MK for 30 minutes, she said, "Okay i've been here, lets head back to the hotel so i can tan".

I talked her into checking out Epcot (boring) and Animal Kingdom (crowded zoo) and she had no interest in Hollywood Studios.

Not saying it was connected or anything, but we broke up a week after we got back.

 

[Minnie J]

My husband wasn't into Disney too much and he went 4 times before. Since being with me and going, hes acquired an interest more into Disney. He knows Disney makes me so happy so he joins in. My likes are his happiness!! Thats why we work so well

 

[Tonya2426]

I have a few deal breakers.

Any potential husband of mine must love dogs - especially mine. If he can't love a dog then there is no hope of him loving me because I am so much harder to love.

He must be willing to go see Barry Manilow with me - he doesn't have to go with me, just must be willing to go. (I would be willing to go to manly events with him so I expect him to go to be willing to go to a girly event occassionally and humor me.)

And he must enjoy Disney. It is something I love and if he can't share that part of my life with me then he will miss me a lot. He doesn't have to love it but he has to enjoy spending time in the parks with me. Quite frankly, I have serious misgivings about a relationship with any man who doesn't have any inner-Disney in him - to me it shows a lack of joy in his life that would not suit me very well.

 

[dizneedoll]

It's a deal breaker for me. I was with someone who didn't like it and complanied a lot. Never again. If the guy doesn't pretty much love it as much as I do then I don't even want to know his name. Fortunately for me, I have a four year old son to share Disney with and don't really want or need anyone else.

 

[wishspirit]

It is a dealbreaker in a sense that they are never gonna be able to change me out of it!

I met my significant other just as my obsession was escalating, but it didn't become so huge until I went to University and found solace in the boards and in trip planning. Bless his heart, he has been slightly taken aback by it all!

He went on our first ever trip together in June, and he enjoyed it, but in a different way to the way I do- and that's ok. I also tried too hard for us to have 'the best Disney holiday ever', which meant we both ended up being stressed (add in to this that I had not eaten properly for a month before my trip due to stress and was recovering from food poisoning! ), so I was generally more tired and grouchy than usual.

However I am lucky in that my mom loves Disney too (say hi to her on the cruise for me!), so he knows I always have someone to go with if he doesn't want to. He knows that this is 'my thing', and he either has to join in the fun, or let me go with my mom.

The only issue has ever been is when we ever talk about weddings and honeymoons (not that that is any time soon!!). I have never really pictured my wedding, and to be honest as long as we are with our family and close friends, I don't care about all the bells and whistles. However I have always dreamed of a Disney honeymoon- both of us wearing the hats and badges, everyone being so nice, and being in a place I feel happy, safe and relaxed! However he doesn't like the idea of telling his mates his honeymoon was at Disney, when most people go and sit on a beach for two weeks (my idea of complete boredom! For me the worst way to start a marriage!) It's still a point up for discussion and I am hoping to compromise with it becoming a tour of the east coast of America, spending a week at Disney then moving along up the coast. We will have to see!

 

[fall08CP]

Unless Disney is such an overwhelming passion that it consumes a high percentage of your waking hours, I say be open to all that life and another person can offer. My opinion, from many years of experience. For myself, I prefer more balance.

I work for the mouse, so it does consume most of my waking hours
Living in Orlando, it would be hard to date/marry someone who didn't share my passion. However, I sometimes question whether it consumes too much of my life and if I should give it a rest. I would certainly be willing to move away from here as I've had my fix, but I'd still want to visit because I love the Orlando area and have a great deal of friends here. I'd love to see new attractions as they come out, but I've lost a lot of interest in the parks that I once had. My spouse would need to have an open mind and try it at least once. If it wasn't their thing, I wouldn't push it or break up because of it; I'd find friends/family that would go with me instead

 

[SusanWasHere]

It would be for me. These days relationships are hard enough without throwing in being with someone that has no interest in something you love so much. Just like I'll never again date someone completely obsessed with sports. I used to live with someone that couldn't ever miss a game ever played by any team from Philadelphia. It would get to the point that he wouldn't even go out to dinner or see friends, family, etc bc a game was on. I used to bring him food home and then realized - oh no this isn't working! It was actually embarrassing to me. Bc everyone else saw it the way I did. There were hundreds of Phillies games and 76er games and Flyers games and he can't miss one to go to a Christening/wedding/birthday/you name it??? I've met guys since then and if they are in any way like that with sports - I don't even bother. So I would expect a guy to be the same with me and my Disney travels. Sometimes I go 4x a year. It would be so much easier with someone that feels the same and wants to be a part of it. Now just to find him.....

 

[WaltD4Me]

It would be for me. These days relationships are hard enough without throwing in being with someone that has no interest in something you love so much. Just like I'll never again date someone completely obsessed with sports. I used to live with someone that couldn't ever miss a game ever played by any team from Philadelphia. It would get to the point that he wouldn't even go out to dinner or see friends, family, etc bc a game was on. I used to bring him food home and then realized - oh no this isn't working! It was actually embarrassing to me. Bc everyone else saw it the way I did. There were hundreds of Phillies games and 76er games and Flyers games and he can't miss one to go to a Christening/wedding/birthday/you name it??? I've met guys since then and if they are in any way like that with sports - I don't even bother. So I would expect a guy to be the same with me and my Disney travels. Sometimes I go 4x a year. It would be so much easier with someone that feels the same and wants to be a part of it. Now just to find him.....

It's been awhile, but years ago I lived with a guy who was into WWF wrestling. I really, really tried, but I just could not get interested in it and it was on ALOT, plus the pay per view things that we always had to have the party for, it wasn't the only reason, but after we broke up I said I'd never get involved with someone like that again. I don't mind sports, in fact, I love college football, but I don't have to be glued to the TV for every single game.

 

[Cap.Steamboat Willie]

I agree with what you are saying, but I see a difference in Disney because it it's a little more than a one day hobby, it's a vacation/travel destination, if you are a football widow, you go shopping on Sundays, but for a Disney fan, especially a Disney travel fan, whose passion includes Disney trips once, twice, three times a year, that is a little different if your partner doesn't want to participate.

I guess it depends on how much of your life revolves around Disney. I know some people (former friends of mine) who are really into sports. They go from one season into the other following one team then another, and sometimes they are two or three teams and different sports happening at the same time.

They don't understand why they cannot hold on to a girlfriend or why I stopped hanging out with them any more.

I think that taking a vacation at Disney World (who offers everything for everyone i.e. fishing, golf, camping, horseback riding etc.) a week or ten day vacation twice a year is comparable to a season of football that may have two or three games a week for months. Do the math

I think moderation, and an open mind will take any couple far.

 

[evildiva]

I was really interested in the discussion on this week's show as well. I go to Disney World on average 3 times a year. Usually one full week and two long weekend trips. I live in Maryland and I have an annual pass. People always ask me what am I going to do if I find a guy who isn't into Disney. My response is always this, he doesn't have to go with me, but he has to be ok that I will go without him. Would I love to be able to find a guy who is as into Disney as I am? Sure. Is it a total deal breaker? No. I look at my parents as an example on this. My dad loves fishing, like to the point of going several times a week. My mother does not. Sometimes she goes with him and sits and reads while he fishes. Mostly she hangs back. They have been happily married for 36 years. So no you don't have to be as gun ho as your mate, but there does have to be a certain level of participation.

 

[Friendly Frog]

...I have always dreamed of a Disney honeymoon- both of us wearing the hats and badges, everyone being so nice, and being in a place I feel happy, safe and relaxed! However he doesn't like the idea of telling his mates his honeymoon was at Disney, when most people go and sit on a beach for two weeks (my idea of complete boredom! For me the worst way to start a marriage!) It's still a point up for discussion and I am hoping to compromise with it becoming a tour of the east coast of America, spending a week at Disney then moving along up the coast. We will have to see!

We did a "Florida Honeymoon". A little romantic time on the beach. A nice dinner riverboat ride, an afternoon visit to Wekiva Springs, and of course time at Disney.
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Not loving animals would have been a deal breaker for me. He would not have to love Disney, but he would have to go with me occasionally and be able to have an enjoyable time. Sharing interests does make for a more enjoyable marriage, but sometimes it is just about supporting your mates interests. Of course, if he doesn't want to go to Disney, he would have to be ok with my taking solo trips.

Lucky for me, my guy likes Disney.

 

[FireDancer]

No. There are deal breakers but loving (or even liking) Disney isn't one of them. I do like to travel so hating travel period might be a problem but having to go less often to Disney isn't that big of a deal to me.