Siblings and fighting

[momoftimtylerandbrad]

I have three boys Tim 7, Tyler 13, and Brad 16 and they are always fight they other day Tim and Tyler had the worst fight when me and my husband weren't home, they deff got grounded for it, but the next day they fought still even when they were grounded, but I guess that's what two brothers do when they share a room, but now there brother brad fights with them to and it's driving me crazy.

 

[aprilgail2]

My mom used to get so upset that me and my brother used to fight all the time....but she eventually had to get used to it since we are now in our 40's and still don't like each other and fight all the time LOL...thank goodness our bedrooms were on seperate floors of the house, if we had to share one of us would have been dead by the time we were teenagers!!

 

[MamaLema]

I totally understand. I have 3 boys as well. It was bad enough when DS 6 and DS 8 were fighting, but now DS almost 2 has joined in now

 

[stm61]

I have 6 1/2 yr old dd's who are either best friends or worst enemies, there's nothing in between. They were in the same 5K class last yr, I refer to it as the yr of the informants since all I heard was "she did this, or she said that". Throw ds12 into the mix and it gets really interesting, not to mention loud, around here.

 

[mrsgus06]

Try having 5 that fight on a daily basis. 4 of them are girls, all 2 years apart. I have come to the conclusion they all want to be 10, but they all act 4. Drives me crazy. The two oldest share a room, one is neat the other is dirty. They fight over that. The other 2 girls have their own rooms and fight over that. They fight over where they are going to sit at the dinner table. They fight over where they are going to sit in the car. But then they all have the moments where they get along and play well together and your world is right again. I live for those moments .

 

[momof3disneyholics]

My kids fight all the time, hitting and all. I let them work it out on their own usually, unless someone is getting hurt. I think it's important for them to learn to work out arguments on their own.

 

[momoftimtylerandbrad]

My kids fight all the time, hitting and all. I let them work it out on their own usually, unless someone is getting hurt. I think it's important for them to learn to work out arguments on their own.

How old, are your kids?

 

[Toby'sFriend]

uugh - 13 year old boy syndrome.
I notice you say he is sharing a room. Is there anywhere in the house that you can make his and off limits to brothers when he is feeling moody?

We have made a space down in our basement for our 6th grader. We call it his clubhouse. It can really help keep the peace if they can have a bit of space to retreat to when they don't feel like being social.

 

[Alicnwondrln]

my sister and i fight all the time
im 30 and shes 28
its never gonna change

 

[Lil_Tink]

Me and my brother fight all the time...Welcome to the world of sibling rivalry...My uncles..

The youngest brother go a big screen tv..The oldest got a bigger one..

The youngest brother moved into a country club estate, the older moved into a bettter one...


The youngest got a used mustang cobra, the oldest got a new mustang cobra convertable....

:

 

[eeyore kelly]

I will let my kids bicker a little. I don't let them hit each other, scream at each other, or call each other names. If I break up an argument, they are going to their rooms. I am not a referee. I am picky about this issue, because I believe home should be a soft place to fall.

 

[totalia]

Siblings fight. Its what they do. I imagine you faught with yours too. I know I did with mine. But now I don't know what I would do without her.

 

[Michie]

My 19 and 21 year old both left for college today ...they drove me crazy this summer with their picking on each other...

 

[cynsaun]

Siblings fight. Its what they do. I imagine you faught with yours too. I know I did with mine. But now I don't know what I would do without her.

I sure hope my girls feel the same way when they are grown!!

I was an only child, and wished SO much that I had a sister. I can't understand why they fight!

 

[tiggersmom2]

I have one brother that I am thisclose to and one brother that I absolutely abhor. My favorite brother and I were cut out of the same cloth and we look so much alike that it is eerie.

When we were growing up.....we have pictures of me as a baby with my favorite brother holding me, I am laughing and smiling in all of those pictures. When my other brother is holding me...I am screaming....LOL...I guess I was one smart baby, I could sense the mean one.

 

[Figment22]

I was an only child, and wished SO much that I had a sister. I can't understand why they fight!

Me too. I very much wanted a sibling. The main reason I wanted to have a second child was that I didn't want my oldest to be an only. Instead, now I listen to endless cries of "Why did you have to have a second child. Life was so much better before HE came along."

I usually end up prying them off one another at least 4 times a week. They've often ended up black and blue after these fights. (They're 15 and 12 by the way.) I keep hoping they'll mature and outgrow this but it's not looking good. What's really troubling is that they're both really good kids and don't give us any trouble or worries other than this CONSTANT sibling rivalry. It just drives me nuts!

 

[jill1girland3boys]

My boys are the same age as yours right now My son Chris is 7, Eric is 13, and Jason is 16. My sons do fight with each other, but the don't fight as much as they did when they were younger, it's werid b/c the youngest two share a room.

On the other hand, I also have a 2 year old daughter, she is 2 years old and believe me when I say this she is starting to bug her old brothers when she is around them. The older two know how to deal with it when she does bug them, but the younger one fights with her now sometimes, like the other day when i was out shopping and my oldest son was watching them chris hid her blanket she carry's around with her every where so she was crying for almost two hours till i got home and told him if he didn't go get it he would get a talk from "DADDY".

 

[Kermit]

I have a funny story that anyone with more than one child will appreciate.

My two are only 2.5 and 1, so they don't fight rough or anything, but they, of course, do find ways to fight over everything. I went consignment sale shopping the other day with my sister, who only has one but is trying to have another. I bought a toy at the first sale we went to, and then I found an even better version of the same type of toy at the second sale. It was cheap, so I bought it, too. When I was wishing I hadn't bought the first one, my sister said, "Well, at least since you have two similar toys, the boys won't fight over them." I can't wait until she has another one.

 

[Figment22]

My boys are the same age as yours right now My son Chris is 7, Eric is 13, and Jason is 16. My sons do fight with each other, but the don't fight as much as they did when they were younger, it's werid b/c the youngest two share a room.

On the other hand, I also have a 2 year old daughter, she is 2 years old and believe me when I say this she is starting to bug her old brothers when she is around them. The older two know how to deal with it when she does bug them, but the younger one fights with her now sometimes, like the other day when i was out shopping and my oldest son was watching them chris hid her blanket she carry's around with her every where so she was crying for almost two hours till i got home and told him if he didn't go get it he would get a talk from "DADDY".

I see that this is your first post. I just wanted to say "Hi" and welcome to the DIS!

 

[momoftimtylerandbrad]

Me too. I very much wanted a sibling. The main reason I wanted to have a second child was that I didn't want my oldest to be an only. Instead, now I listen to endless cries of "Why did you have to have a second child. Life was so much better before HE came along."

I usually end up prying them off one another at least 4 times a week. They've often ended up black and blue after these fights. (They're 15 and 12 by the way.) I keep hoping they'll mature and outgrow this but it's not looking good. What's really troubling is that they're both really good kids and don't give us any trouble or worries other than this CONSTANT sibling rivalry. It just drives me nuts!

your kids only fight 4 times a week? mine fight every day, today i went into the living room and found my 13 year old son sitting on my 7 year old sons back with the 7 year old in a head lock, then later they were both in there room and i heard my 7 year old scream so I went in to see what was going on and he was on the floor, his older brother who is 13 kicked him in the nuts too times, what am I going to do with these boys, hope my 4 month old daughter doesn't start fighting them when she can walk and talk