If VMK causes you so much frustration that you have a hard time having fun in real life, you should probably take a break. I'm sorry that you keep getting banned, but perhaps the best course of action would be to take a few month break and get used to not having VMK there. Then when you go back on, the frustration will be less. But you don't have to totally give up VMK.
In the end, it's really your choice.
~*HorsePrincess*~