Should I go to WDW without DH??? What would you do??

[llori7]

We just went to WDW for the first time 8/31-9/8. It was me, dh, ds4 and ds1. We had so much fun. DH had fun, but does not want to go back anytime soon. He thinks every 2-3 years would be enough. I really want to go back every year, but it doesn't have to be as long. Anyhow, dh refuses to go back next year. My cousin will be going down next year and has invited me and my 2 boys to go along. There will be 4 of them. Then my sister offered to go with me and help me out.

My dilemma: I feel bad going on a trip to Disney without my husband. But I keep trying to get him to go with us, and he won't budge. He said he doesn't care if we go without him, but I don't think it seems right to go.

So what would you do?? My ds4 keeps asking when we are going back. I know they will have a blast, but I am so torn!!

 

[Catrin]

My husband doesnt want to go back to Disney.

So I started taking my kids one at a time, to have a special vacation with just Mom.
This year, I am actually taking my Mom and my little one too, just for four days.. but a vacation nonetheless.

Hubby doesnt care... and I will have fun without him.
Catrin

 

[ilovejack02]

I think as long as you have already been together and he doesnt mind you spending the money to go... then HECK YEAH go and have fun!!!
Now if this trip is going to make it difficult for the ENTIRE family to do a family trip together next year then I would rethink the plan.

 

[thunderbird1]

I'm lucky, and my dh was the real Disney fanatic in the family (until I found the DISboards, of course), but if he wasn't, but gave us his blessing, I would be there in a heartbeat. Having your cousin and sister there would just be icing on the cake.

I know a lot of people don't find WDW to be their "cup of tea," and I can (almost) understand that. Your dh sounds like one of those people, not that there's anything wrong with that, to quote Seinfeld. If he had a problem with you taking the kids on vacation without him it would be a different story, but knowing that he wants you to go, I couldn't imagine not taking him up on the offer. Those kids will grow up so fast--you have to enjoy them (and make them happy) while you can.

Go, girl, GO!

 

[LuvindisCruiser]

Oh yeah, GO !
If my DH told me to go with the kids, and he didn't mind,
I would be planning in a heartbeat !!!!
The last two summers me and my little girl have gone
to Disneyland without DH and DS, they didn't mind, and we
had the best time, ever !
Go, and tell us all about it, when you get back !

 

[MiniGirl]

My girls and I go w/o dh all the time. He just doesn't care for WDW , but he knows we love it and wants us to have fun. Now, we don't do big trips there -- day trips or just 1 or 2 nights, and the girls enjoy being able to show their dad a thing or two about WDW when he does come with us.

Go and have a great time.

 

[wmom88]

my first post....

My DH does not like to travel, he is showing no excitement at all for upcoming trip, I offered to go w/o him, but I feel bad if he misses out on seeing the DS's fun

 

[ilovejack02]

my first post....

My DH does not like to travel, he is showing no excitement at all for upcoming trip, I offered to go w/o him, but I feel bad if he misses out on seeing the DS's fun

My sweet dh is not real excited about our upcoming trip either... WE LEAVE IN A FEW HOURS WOO HOO! But he did say he wouldnt miss our Ds5's first trip for anything, he wants to see him experience the magic first hand, after this first time I think DS and I will be on our own for a while lol.

PS WELCOME TO THE DIS!!!

 

[Disney 4 Me]

I think you're asking the wrong group of people here. We all LOVE Disney. I know that any chance I get, I'll be there. I've done Disny numerous times without DH. He doesn't want to go. My kids and I do. He goes every so often and that's enough for him.

Go and have fun!!!!!!

 

[cheerforchelsea]

We NEVER take my DH along....he is not any fun on a Disney Trip and we have much more fun without him!! So he gets to stay home and babysit the dogs!!

 

[daisyduck123]

I've taken my DD & DS to WDW on 3 week-long trips with my mother.
She left my dad at home, & I left DH at home.
We had a great time!!

 

[brightspark]

I think that the big question is whether you will be able to have a vacation as a family, if you go to WDW and your dh doesn't come with you! Your kids need good quality fun time with their dad, so don't cut them short on that, just so you can go back to Disney a year early. Just a thought!

 

[Darcy03231]

I always go without DH. He hates heat, lines, amusement parks, rides, etc. He went once when his son was little and swore he was never going back. He would be miserable at WDW and then I wouldn't have a good time because I'd be worrying about whether or not he was having a good time. He hates it so much he paid for my mom to go with me the first time and help out with the kids (and, although he loves them, they aren't his children - 2nd marriage for both of us). Luckily, DH encourages me to go whenever I want -so I do!

 

[jenrein]

Its wierd to read so many responses pushing you to go without him. I dont get it. My husband and I love nothing more than spending time together doing things that we love. I couldnt imagine going on a vacation without him- with or without the kids. I know I am only one opinion but I am grateful to be able to spend my life with someone who also wouldnt even consider vacationing without me. As far as him not liking Disney, if it were me I would respect that and wait it out. At the same time most couples want to make each other happy so either he would budge or I would be patient and when the time was right we would do it together.

 

[adoptionmomma4]

I also say go!

I have been without DH a few times. He is also not into the lines and crowds. The kids and I love it, he says go, so we do. We have a great time and DH says it is like a vacation for him as well. DH does like the beach so the kids and I get dragged along on "his" beach vacations every year. So we do get to vacation as a family as well, which is important to both of us.

I will add that I do like DH to go for all of the kids first trips, and at least every couple of years. He will smile and go along just to see how much fun the kids are having.

 

[tlbwriter]

Is your husband rejecting WDW because he wants to go other places with his wife and kids? If so, I think it would be really selfish to spend that time and money vacationing without him. But if he simply doesn't feel like a vacation at all, he doesn't mind you going without him, and money isn't an issue, I don't see anything wrong with having a little family trip with your cousin.

 

[kaysmommie]

We just went to WDW for the first time 8/31-9/8. It was me, dh, ds4 and ds1. We had so much fun. DH had fun, but does not want to go back anytime soon. He thinks every 2-3 years would be enough. I really want to go back every year, but it doesn't have to be as long. Anyhow, dh refuses to go back next year. My cousin will be going down next year and has invited me and my 2 boys to go along. There will be 4 of them. Then my sister offered to go with me and help me out.

My dilemma: I feel bad going on a trip to Disney without my husband. But I keep trying to get him to go with us, and he won't budge. He said he doesn't care if we go without him, but I don't think it seems right to go.

So what would you do?? My ds4 keeps asking when we are going back. I know they will have a blast, but I am so torn!!

I would absolutely go without him. Why not since their will be others to help you out if need be. If your DH says he doesn't mind. If I had the oppportunity I would go for it.

 

[Marc A.]

Is your husband rejecting WDW because he wants to go other places with his wife and kids? If so, I think it would be really selfish to spend that time and money vacationing without him. But if he simply doesn't feel like a vacation at all, he doesn't mind you going without him, and money isn't an issue, I don't see anything wrong with having a little family trip with your cousin.

Being a DH myself I agree with this point. Saving for a DW trip can be hard with all the things families do these days. I would be soooo jealous if my DW and kids went w/o me but that would never happen b/c I love it too much.
However I can see where some times you might want to skip it for a year or two. That makes going again even more fun. You need to really dig deeper and see if he really won't mind you going or if he is just saying this to make you happy.
I could fill in as a DH if you need one, lol

Hope this works out for you.

 

[meandtheguys2]

Is your husband rejecting WDW because he wants to go other places with his wife and kids? If so, I think it would be really selfish to spend that time and money vacationing without him. But if he simply doesn't feel like a vacation at all, he doesn't mind you going without him, and money isn't an issue, I don't see anything wrong with having a little family trip with your cousin.

Agreed.

 

[disneymommieof2]

I say go!!
About 2 years ago we got invited to go see some friends in fort myers and then go to orlando where we transferred to DH's grandma & grandpas condo. It was a super busy time for DH at work so he couldn't go, but told me to take DS (ds was about 2 at the time). And I was preggo with DD. We went to magic kingdom with our friends 1 day and went to animal kingdom with great grandma 1 day. The gr. parents were planning to sell their condo and this would be the last year we could go there, DH wanted us (me & DS) to have that experience so we went. They have since sold it so I'm glad we got to go down. Now we are all going on our first big family WDW trip and we are ALL excited and can't wait to see the kids faces. We did other things on that trip- we went to the jungle place with the alligators, and to the beach and to daytona- beach and race track!!! I think that was the place Dh was most bummed about was missing daytona- But I bought him a really good present so he was happy!!