Should I go alone

[KimbaLovesDisney]

With a last moment trip planned now in 13 days, I have had a personal issue with my husband, and we are taking a break. This leaves me with the choice of losing the money I paid for my getaway stay at the MGV and not going to Disney or Traveling Solo.

I have tried to see if a friend could go, but its just too last moment.

Can I still have a wonderful time at Disney alone? Can anyone who has done this alone tell me what they liked or didnt like about it? Im still kinda in shock but im thinking better alone in Disney in the Sun than alone and working ...

Any thoughts?

 

[DisneyDee27]

With a last moment trip planned now in 13 days, I have had a personal issue with my husband, and we are taking a break. This leaves me with the choice of losing the money I paid for my getaway stay at the MGV and not going to Disney or Traveling Solo.

I have tried to see if a friend could go, but its just too last moment.

Can I still have a wonderful time at Disney alone? Can anyone who has done this alone tell me what they liked or didnt like about it? Im still kinda in shock but im thinking better alone in Disney in the Sun than alone and working ...

Any thoughts?

I'm pro solo trips however you have some personal issues that may prohibit your fun. If you need a get away then go and enjoy yourself. No sense in losing money. See if friends can fly or drive down later in your trip.
Good luck in your decision,
Honorary Diva
Dee

 

[MickeyNicki]

I did 2 full days solo while DH was in a business meeting. I was alone from 6am until 7pm. Never having done this before I was very nervous but sitting along the water in front of the BWI eating my breakfast I just loved it! I was on my time, my schedule, do what I wanted to do...it was amazing.

 

[DisneylandForever]

I have a love/hate relationship with going solo. I try not to do solo trips, but here I am preparing for one next month! lol. In your case I would definitely go. It would be debatable if I didn't already spend the money. But if the trip was already paid for? Go! There are Dis Meets and stuff if you get lonely. I try to meet up with DIS peeps when I go alone, but for at least part of the trip it's cool being alone. You can do what you want, when you want.


So my advice is to go, and have a great trip.

 

[catra121]

I'd say you should go solo. You may or may not be in the mood for Disney...but it might really do you some good too. If nothing else, just getting away, relaxing, and being alone with your thoughts (or taking your mind off your thoughts if that's what you want) is probably a good thing. I hope you go and have a great time!

 

[pdchris]

My first solo was in Dec 07. At the last minute (well, a few days before we were supposed to leave), something came up and he couldn't go.
The first night there I went to DTD. Frankly, it was terribly depressing walking around seeing all those happy people.
HOWEVER, over the next few days I lightened up, cheered up and enjoyed the trip. I just realized how lucky I was to be able to afford to go to WDW. There's a lot of people who can't. So, rather than be morose the whole time, I actually found it to be quite enjoyable to go where I want (I had park hoppers), when I want and do what I want.
In fact, I'm leaving for POFQ next Saturday for my second solo and I can hardly wait. The only thing I'm worrying about is what the heck am I going to forget to take with me; I always forget something.
(BTW, my DS was able to join me for our Christmas season trip last year.)

 

[JKMJ441724]

J/K. I can't go for real. But let me just say a story from personal experience (for what it's worth).

About 12 years ago, my husband and I had a trip planned to Boston/New York. We were having some issues and I wanted to just cancel the whole vacation. We saw a marriage counselor who suggested still go on our trip together.

We did.

Still continued our counseling when we got home, and here we are about to celebrate our 14th anniversary in two weeks.

I don't mean for that to sound like you are looking at "D" but I've never regretting taking the trip together. I feel like going may have kept US from spiraling further.

That's my two cents. Good luck in whatever you decide.

 

[GATORinaZ28]

Sorry to hear that you may be going alone!

With that said, I went solo for the first time last year (in fact, I left for Disney one year ago today). Like you, I was worried about it. However, once I got adjusted, it was awesome. Of course I still missed my family and seeing other couples there made me miss mine, but ultimately, I decided that I would do it again.

Pros for me:

- Doing whatever you want to do whenever you want to do it. If you get tired of a park and want to head to another one, you can just go without trying to appease everyone.
- Cost for food. Much cheaper!
- Single rider lines for RockNRoller Coaster, etc.

 

[nurse.darcy]

With a last moment trip planned now in 13 days, I have had a personal issue with my husband, and we are taking a break. This leaves me with the choice of losing the money I paid for my getaway stay at the MGV and not going to Disney or Traveling Solo.

I have tried to see if a friend could go, but its just too last moment.

Can I still have a wonderful time at Disney alone? Can anyone who has done this alone tell me what they liked or didnt like about it? Im still kinda in shock but im thinking better alone in Disney in the Sun than alone and working ...

Any thoughts?

There are a couple of things in your thread that would make me want to reconsider going at all. Let me just say. . .okay. . .you and your hubby are taking a break. . .so, being alone might just make you think of all that needs to be done or said, or cause more negative feelings to arise because you are alone. That being said, sometimes just getting away makes life bearable.

However, getting away can also be a distraction. There are people here on the DIS that are going to be in town the same time as you. Maybe you need to ferret out a couple of peeps and plan a meet up. So then your solo time becomes NOT so solo time. Also a few of us live here and just maybe might have time to meet up. Dates and availability via PM (so you don't have to post stuff public) will help us decide.

Solo trips can be fun if you are a social person. Take your time and decide. Lost money for deposits, well, sometimes its better to lose something than to pay more than you bargained. . .

 

[KimbaLovesDisney]

Thank you everyone for the support and suggestions. After reading the board, I sat down with DH and let him know that despite what was going on, I wasnt willing to not go to Disney, with the trip paid for and refunds not possible, and after some carefull consideration decided a solo experience could be a new type of Disney experience and I could enjoy it! We decided to set aside our differences for the moment, and continue with our plans to do Disney. Perhaps it may not be the vacation I had originally planned for or expected, but I will do my best to make it a relaxing rewarding time. And what will be will be. I thank you ALL for your kind words of encouragement and support. And who Knows, he may be in one park and me in another, so if you see a single person walking alone smile and say Hi as you pass , maybe it will be me!

 

[Belle83]

Thank you everyone for the support and suggestions. After reading the board, I sat down with DH and let him know that despite what was going on, I wasnt willing to not go to Disney, with the trip paid for and refunds not possible, and after some carefull consideration decided a solo experience could be a new type of Disney experience and I could enjoy it! We decided to set aside our differences for the moment, and continue with our plans to do Disney. Perhaps it may not be the vacation I had originally planned for or expected, but I will do my best to make it a relaxing rewarding time. And what will be will be. I thank you ALL for your kind words of encouragement and support. And who Knows, he may be in one park and me in another, so if you see a single person walking alone smile and say Hi as you pass , maybe it will be me!

I'm glad to read this. I think it's a good idea to do separate things while you're there, too....like book a treatment at one of the spas

 

[karice2]

It is so worth it to go alone. I broke up with my ex of 7 years while I was on vacation at Disney. Nothing helped to take the sting out of it than my days, enjoying the best parts of Disney. I looked back at the pictures and you can't even tell that I had puffy eyes behind my glasses.


Go, enjoy yourself. Solo is awesome and it is helps to be around happy people instead of wallowing in this weird new dynamic.

 

[karice2]

No, I was there. He wasn't. We were having an argument on the phone and we broke up. It was something that had been in the making for a few weeks when I went. It just happened while I was there.

 

[chimmicat]

I know it is different, but I have a Annual Pass and have gone to the parks several times by myself.......I have needed alone time, and hubby is home and I hit the parks. Trust me no one notices that you are there by yourself and I have even taken several behind the scenes tours......better to go alone and have fun, than drag someone who does not want to be there. You can't be at Disney long without smiling.

 

[KimbaLovesDisney]

At this point, I dont know what will happen with us to be honest. I really like the idea of an AP so I can make weekend trips out as I can. I love the idea of the behind the scenes stuff, and really alone I may be able to afford more of those kind of activities! It is a wierd vibe, but I have faith and that gives me a lot of comfort. I thought a lot about this, and at first the idea of wandering around the parks alone I thought wow, how sad would that be and maybe make me even more depressed. And then...I thought I could wander in the shops as much as I wanted, I could people watch, and do whatever I wanted without having to consider someone else. Being alone couldnt happen in a better place really. He is going perhaps to try and make things right. Im not sure that will be possible. But if nothing else, maybe one last fun occasion between us before the end if thats what is going to be.

I really thank all of you and appreciate all your kindness and words of encouragement and support. Not only is there an understanding of the Love of all things Disney, but kindness which isnt in great abundance these days.

Thanks Everyone. 8 Days to Disney!

 

[DisneylandForever]

At this point, I dont know what will happen with us to be honest. I really like the idea of an AP so I can make weekend trips out as I can.

I'm glad you decided to still go! Sorry to hear about what's going on. But I did want to give you a on the AP idea. I have an AP, and I live in San Francisco! But I have DVC, so an AP makes sense. Basically if you think there's even a chance you'll be back within the next 12 months, an AP is the way to go.

One word of caution: Once you get an AP, you'll start thinking of excuses to use it! Up until 2 weeks ago I had no idea I was going to WDW this month. But when I heard about the Destination D event, I said to myself, "I've got an AP, why not?"

Have a great trip, soon to be fellow AP holder!

 

[Altoqueenkelly]

Thank you everyone for the support and suggestions. After reading the board, I sat down with DH and let him know that despite what was going on, I wasnt willing to not go to Disney, with the trip paid for and refunds not possible, and after some carefull consideration decided a solo experience could be a new type of Disney experience and I could enjoy it! We decided to set aside our differences for the moment, and continue with our plans to do Disney. Perhaps it may not be the vacation I had originally planned for or expected, but I will do my best to make it a relaxing rewarding time. And what will be will be. I thank you ALL for your kind words of encouragement and support. And who Knows, he may be in one park and me in another, so if you see a single person walking alone smile and say Hi as you pass , maybe it will be me!

I really hope you have a wonderful and rewarding trip! Magical place on earth you know

 

[ricesk]

Hi everyone,

Just wanted to add my two cents....

I am recently separated after 20 years, and my husband is taking our two teenage daughters to Maine for our annual 4th of July vacation, without me for the first time.

I am just about to book a few days in my happy place for my first solo trip...if I can find an inexpensive flight from MA.

My daughters and I were there for April vacation but I didn't feel like we had much park time (too crowded)...and I didn't feel like I had any "my" time....so....

I think a solo trip is a great idea....especiallly in the happiest place on earth!

I hope you have a great trip...with or without your husband.

Karen

 

[chimmicat]

Yes......I think you will have a great time on your trip, once you get there. Just talk to the people next to you if you feel like it, or just ignore them....hahaha. Basically go with the flow and ENJOY!!! It you can afford it I highly recomend the Keys to the Kingdom tour, Wild Africa Trek, and Backstage Safari. I don't think you will be disapointed....have fun.